From less than 5 seconds to 30 minutes+ ! Finally did it!

[up2me]

First of I would like to say thank you to all of the members of PE and specifically the staff/ forum monitors who have guided me and helped me overcome this issue. Although I sit here and write a short note of how I have overcome this issue, I can honestly say it feels a bit surreal, since after 4 years of having PE with no hope, countless beautiful girlfriends who felt down after a few thrust and the sinking confidence a human male gets when you cannot perform for your girl. Coming to this forums a month back and reading everything thoroughly was basically my lifeline.

I will make this as short and sweet as possible. In the past my experience with girls has been awkward, few quick thrust, done. Anxiety was always a big issue for me, also the tightness and thrust always got me.. in fact not too long ago I couldn't even get it in! As soon as I put the condom on, the anxiety and the pressure of my penis trying to squeeze through this tight girl was too much for me and busted immediately. I lied and told her my erection had gone down because I could not get it in. (Again, this was not the only time I lied about my PE to a girl) It wasn't until these past few day where I can truly say I have gained control of my PE. First off , I have a girlfriend who is super cool and does not worry when I bust quick, so I was calm, anxiety-free and just enjoying the time! Second, feel like you are 10 feet tall and bulletproofed, say to yourself you will go on for hours, days, years!! the mind is a beautiful thing.. third reverse kegels was my savior, every time I felt my PC muscles tensing and quivering, I did a reverse kegel, while having sex, and kept going.. it got so bad she had come twice and she just wanted me to come already, I saw the clock and it had been more than 30 minutes..I could have kept on going but decided to end it in reverse cowgirl. I honestly can say that after 4 years (FOUR) I have gained my confidence back, my manhood and my spirit. Although I have not had a problem with PE for now, I know it can happen again, especially when I have not masturbated for a long time, no big deal, my girl is cool with it, first round I may not last long, but I know next time I'll do hours

Please feel free to ask questions, I have many disappointing stories to tell that now I find funny but nevertheless it was horrible when it happened hehe

 

[CUSP82]

Great for you!

 

[capital255]

Wow thats really inspiring for someone who has pe for many years as my self who finally had a enough to fine a way for a cure. And from ready your post there is hope, just dedication and hard work. What was your routine, how long have u been doing it to see results??

 

[bigbookofpenis]

GOOD FOR YOU... I HOPE ONE DAY ILL BE ABLE TO POST SUCH A MESSAGE...

so it was RK that did it ? how long were you excercising RK ? weeks, months ?

 

[up2me]

Well I have been doing it for a month now..since I found out about PEgym.. I am an ER physicians assistant so I work 45+ hours/week in an intense environment.. when I'm at work I have no time to sit, let alone do kegels lol. But when I'm at home I do them in the shower and when I lay to go to bed for about 5 minutes.. my PC muscles got strong. and Yes! RK did it, I had no idea of RK until I got here, it saved my life. Like I said, when they tensed up, RK, keep going.. occasionally I would throw in a kegel for assurance.. Don't give up fellows, believe me when I say I know the feeling of disappointment of PE, it's worse than physical pain...but when you do overcome it, your confidence will go up 100000%

P.S I also read somewhere in here that taking an antihistamine helps with high histamine blood levels and it's side effects. So I have been doing that 3x week at bedtime, you can get it over the counter anywhere, idk if that has also played a role in my function but for now I am PE free

 

[bigbookofpenis]

1 month ! wow !

can you say what is the brand name (on the package) of the antihistamine pills ?

 

[up2me]

Zyrtec Antihistamine 10 mg Liquid Gels | Walgreens

or regular antihistamine, i take 25mg though
I believe PE (for me and for many) is caused by performance anxiety, weak PC muscles, thrust motion and just plain lack of experience, once all of these has been resolved then success can happen. Most of all guys remember, go in like you will perform for centuries, your mind is truly the root of PE, not your penis.

 

[bautista19]

Dude that's pretty sweet.

 

[jdavid1990]

I've never done kegels before and i can tense my muscle until i get bored.... is that weird or is it because of all the sex i have and how i control my orgasm? tho it is psychological how i do it...

 

[no minute man]

Congratulations, thats awesome! You must feel on cloud nine. I do have a couple of questions though-

1) When you lasted for 30 minutes, when was the last time that you ejaculated? Because I can last 30 minutes if i just came like a minute before i start (not implying this is what you based your success on, just asking)

2) Have you been able to repeat your performance? As i described in my latest post, i recently was able to last sufficiently long during a somewhat abnormal sex session, but then the next morning we had "normal" sex again and boom, i came super fast.

3) This kind of goes along with the second question... was there anything unique about the time you lasted 30 minutes? For instance, had you been drinking at all, or did you do a certain position...?

4) I'm good at reverse kegels when i'm edging, but i find them really hard to do during actual sex (unless i am standing). Do you have any tips on how to effectively reverse kegel during sex?

I have to ask all these things because i've been here a month too, with what sounds like similar training but much less success. So, you might say i'm jealous :biggrin1:

Thanks, and once again congrats!

 

[up2me]

Good questions bud yes,
1. I had ejaculated about 4 hours before, I have an ejaculatory delay of an hours or so, with that being said I can't come then get right at it again

2. Yes have been able to repeat my success, with that abnormal session what worked for you? What were the factors that made you go so long and repeat such. After a while you get used to the feel of the vagina, just like you get use to the feel of your hand and you're able to last longer

3. No drinking, no medications... only thing I did was ejaculate 3-4 hrs prior. Hmmm, I did alot of doggystyle, then missionary, then doggystyle again, then reverse cowgirl, doggystyle one more time and then reverse cowgirl to end it.

4. My best tip to this question is just try buddie, or practice them well until you can manage.. Prior to this sex sess I've been going alot of knee masturbation and RKs followed by Ks, continue.

Idk if that helps much.. but it seems that if you can come before sex, say a couple of hours you can last long, if that's what works for you the do it! It also helps if you talk things out with your girl, tell her to blow you first until u blow then later have sex with her.

Thank you bud, let me know of your progress!

 

[capital255]

That's really good to hear. Again lol..Zyrtec i think I might try that but I also heard a certain amino acid may help as way. Only thing im concern is that wont if you dont want to masturbate a few hours before getting it in and why not just have sex the first time and see if you can then last as long then 10 minutes or so.. that's the thing im trying to control but great on your success

 

[bigbookofpenis]

hi up2me iam currently trying to do a little research on histamine...

you say you were excercising for 1 month now and you can last 30 minutes - thats FIXED in my book

1) how long are you taking Zyrtec/antihistamine ? you say 3x a week 25mg pill but for how many weeks of that 1 month you were taking supplements ?

2) do you still take Zyrtec/antihistamine now or did you stop taking Zyrtec when you can last 30 minutes ?

3) if you stoped taking Zyrtec how many days/weeks are you without Zyrtec - Zyrtec free ?

thanks for your info its VERY valuable new directions of research

EDIT: you removed the mentioning of antihistamine from your original post ?

 

[JamesMonroe]

Further proof that constant sex with a caring, patient partner is one of the major cures of this horrible disease and that the drop in anxiety is a huge upside. Congrats man.... this is one of the major reasons I overcame prem ejac. You just have to have the rift sex partner and the tools of the PeGym.

 

[JamesMonroe]

Also it is important to stop masturbating to porm and dropping the regular kegs for a while. I suggest u check out my Death Grip post also.

 

[up2me]

Hey guys, sry I've been working.. just to clarify a few things, the anti-histamine is just a theory, I don't know if this can cause cure to PE directly, indirectly or none at all. It's probably also acting as a placebo. But 25mg, 3 times a week, been taking it for 3 weeks now. So either taking it or not it's up to you to see results although I have a hunch it does nothing (but who knows)
I also workout 4x a week, take supplements whey protein, B12 vitamins and multi.. Most of my masturbation is dry, no lube with hard grip..(I've never used lube, ever since I was 11 lol)
JamesMonroe is completely right, the key here is a caring partner who will work with you, communicate with her and feel comfortable with her enough so your anxiety goes away and ur able to perform well, this is HUGE!!

 

[bigbookofpenis]

thanks for the clarification up2me... much appreciated

so you excercised for 1 month, taking antihistamine for 3 weeks...

after this period you can last 30 minutes...

last question - do you still take antihistamine now ?

thanks for info and congrats again...

 

[up2me]

No problem!

and yes, I still take it for assurance, since I don't know if this is causing me to last longer or not... I'm not taking any chances and doing it anyways, they never hurt, only side effect is sleep so take before bedtime.

 

[bigbookofpenis]

well i dont have any right to ask you, but you know what all people here would be interested in

if you would stop taking antiashistamine for next 1 month (to ensure complete clearance from your body)... would the PE return ?

on the other hand if you would dare to do this experiment it would probably solve one of the most interesting NEW FOUND CURES in recent months on PEGYM...

this antihistamine link is VERY NEW and UNEXPLORED CURE around PEGYM and you would have an unprecedented chance to lead the research on antihistamine for others to follow...

 

[capital255]

Thats what I wanted to know too will after 1 month of not using a anti-histamine product really improve your stamina or will it come back?