Coordination Question

[islander]

Those of you that think you are coordinated (no stiff tongue while fingering and no stiff barely moving fingers while kissing)

Can you kiss and finger at the same time. Actually moving fingers thrusting curling them independently of passionate kissing ( tongue lips face neck) all the while not losing a rhythm/ beat in either performance

Oral:
Do you prefer your lady to learn your rhythm or do you prefer to move your unit into her mouth at your pace.

Oral her:
If she doesn't ask for it or quickly and slickly changes things when she feels you are heading south does this hurt you or doesn't matter since you are both getting everything else

How y'all doing? I hope well

Thank you!

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[DemOne]

I can kiss and finger at the same time without losing rythem. Have done it before. I can also rub my belly, pat my head, and hop on one foot at the same time all while spinning in a circle. Does that get me a prize?

Her rhythm.

If she changes things it doesn't hurt me, but it definitely makes me disappointed for about 30 seconds and then I forget all about it. It's hard to stay disappointed when sexy times are ongoing.

 

[epoch]

I think I can kiss and finger at the same time without losing rhythym either way, although sometimes body positioning can become awkward for one or the other and we need to shift around a bit to stay comfortable and work out any awkwardness caused by body position. This is especially true of right-handed vs left-handed positioning.. I'm a lefty

When she gives oral, I prefer for her to set the rhythm and pace... I can always say "That feels great, if you slow down it might be even better.." or the like. I think oral is about her control over me and my member, more so than my control over what she is doing. Just my opinion. Did I say that more oral, more often would be good?

I never like it when my trip south is diverted in another direction. It's not that it hurts me, it is that it disrupts my rhythm and flow for a few seconds. I find myself thinking "Okay, so what do you want if not that, what do I do right now..." In a way, it takes me out of the initiator/dominance/direction-setting role and flips me into a momentary submissive role - and usually requires that I recover and flip things back around very, very quickly. It is like performance pressure? I'd really prefer that she says what she wants instead of silent diversion. I don't think there is a "slick" method of diversion that doesn't involve her actually speaking up and helping to set a new course in that instant of change - that takes the role flip and performance pressure off. I'm not sure anything else would.

 

[islander]

Dem: yes YOU would get a prize

E: I'm in a zen setting right now and just laughed out loud Ty lol

My actions are displaying my wants and I do say what I want.
I forgot about the lefty thing very true

I can't edit from my phone but

EDIT
How long is it reasonable to wait to see if the two can gel meaning match up rhythm wise and have you ended it because the mutual rhythm isn't there?

 

[BigO]

I can drop into the splits, survey 10 people in two uniforms skating in different directions, read whats happening around my net and flash my leather, snatching a puck at 90 mph all in a fractoin of a second. Im even better in bed!

 

[Steve23]

I can drop into the splits, survey 10 people in two uniforms skating in different directions, read whats happening around my net and flash my leather, snatching a puck at 90 mph all in a fractoin of a second. Im even better in bed!

I bet your wife tells you to stop brining hockey pucks to bed!

 

[epoch]

Dem: yes YOU would get a prize

E: I'm in a zen setting right now and just laughed out loud Ty lol

My actions are displaying my wants and I do say what I want.
I forgot about the lefty thing very true

I can't edit from my phone but

EDIT
How long is it reasonable to wait to see if the two can gel meaning match up rhythm wise and have you ended it because the mutual rhythm isn't there?

Islander - Yes, I've ended the interlude (and had it ended on me) if the right rhythm isn't there... although I can't say there is a specific time limit. Sometimes people who are normally in synch drop out of synch for a moment or two, and sometimes people never "click" in the first place. I have never had it interfere with a relationship, if both want the relationship to work for the right reasons. Hey, you get to Carnegie Hall through practice, practice, practice, right?

If you are talking and speaking about what you want, you are my dream woman. Silence is not golden for me, when in the sack. I need talk, laughter and a sort of determination to please each other and to be pleased. I'm not expressing that very well, but hopefully you can understand my meaning. I just had a recollection of a woman whose method of redirection was to take aggressive charge by grabbing my shoulders, flipping us over and saying something like "Now I am going to show you a thing or two..". Damn, that was a great thing!

 

[islander]

Lol

I've always had the click immediately. I am very coordinated and like to dance in bed. You know smooth partner sync dance type of thing.

I've heard that new lovers take time to get to know each other. I've not experienced that.

 

[epoch]

Islander - I get it. Sounds like something missing in the chemistry. Bummer, when all else seems right. I like the dance analogy... it definitely takes two to tango (well)! I can remember one date with a woman I liked, but when I kissed her - OMG, she was awful! I went home drydock voluntarily that night and just didn't have the heart to tell her that she was the worst kisser ever. Never tried it again, once was enough! Lol

 

[Steve23]

Lol

Yea I realize I'm pushing this. I've always had the click immediately. I am very coordinated and like to dance in bed. You know smooth partner sync dance type of thing.
I don't want to teach at all. Talk direct take charge yes love it no problem. Both though.
I've heard that new lovers take time to get to know each other. I've not experienced that. I don't like the feeling at all.
I'll try again but friend zone is coming on quick.

So you're saying if he doesn't like what you're doing in bed and you're not willing to learn the 'dance' because you don't want to teach, and maybe neither does he, it would be ok for him to friend zone you if the tables were turned?

 

[epoch]

So you're saying if he doesn't like what you're doing in bed and you're not willing to learn the 'dance' because you don't want to teach, and maybe neither does he, it would be ok for him to friend zone you if the tables were turned?

I got the sense that Islander sees things as applying in both directions. In real life, it certainly does. And it sucks for both parties when it doesn't work out as desired. I think some people are more appropriately friends than lovers, and vice versa. It is natural, and the selection process works both ways. You set your standards for selection, and live your life. If your standards are set too high or too low, you live with the consequences and adjust. Just my opinion.

 

[vulcan]

This thread is giving me the terrible realization that my love making might be a bit Robotic.

 

[epoch]

This thread is giving me the terrible realization that my love making might be a bit Robotic.

No problem, Vulcan! Put on Mr. Roboto (old Styx) and set the right mood, then go to town! In all honesty, I could never endorse this tune for any other purpose (YUCK)!!!

 

[islander]

Steve: correct
I would hope that he would say what he feels
You can have a Great guy that you just don't click or chemistry is just not there and vice versa

DS

 

[Steve23]

Yeah you can, but if you like the person and want more than a FWB then it takes more than a few times in some cases to see if you have real chemistry or not, but you said you don't want to teach at all, meaning you expect the guy to automaticly know what you like and dislike in bed without giving him much clues?

 

[islander]

I see what you mean. That is not what I mean. He is fwb only.

 

[TheSperminator]

I see what you mean. That is not what I mean. He is fwb only. Didnt start that way. Great friend material nice guy but not a permanent. He deserves better or different than me I am just thinking if the fwb is not good for both better to stop before it gets to the thought of a waste of time.
I'm not ready for a bf relationship only because of my guilt and fear I may hurt the person. So when I meet a nice guy I run. The wrong guy no problem. Yes I know totally fucked up. Not sure when I will let God take my guilt but until then I can only offer friendship.

I think you are way overthinking a relationship. Life's about fun. Enjoy the moments and if he doesn't fit you anymore so be it. You can't do good to all people you know

 

[islander]

Thanks sperm.

 

[Pegasus]

I love the way you guys must get so many opportunity and so many partners available. I remember when I was younger puting effort into basic sex instruction of my partners, especially if they were inexperienced. Some were very slow to learn but all improved . It can be a lot of effort though and if you have easy access to the next one, I can see some people would not find it worth the effort.

 

[longrodten]

I love the way you guys must get so many opportunity and so many partners available. I remember when I was younger puting effort into basic sex instruction of my partners, especially if they were inexperienced. Some were very slow to learn but all improved . It can be a lot of effort though and if you have easy access to the next one, I can see some people would not find it worth the effort.

If you never get good at one, how do you get good?