I agree, don't just listen to the doctor. Research it. They may be start but they have flaws just like everyone else.
I NEED HELP BADLY..i cant cum during sex(but dont have ED)
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If I read this correctly, you say when you were younger you use to make yourself cum 30+ times in an hour through masturbation? I would bet money there is some sort of link between that and your current problem.
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That is still a rather super human amount to do that, even for a teenager. Even at my horniest I could only do 5 a day when I was a teenager.
Yeah over 30 a day is still extremely excessive. In an hour or 2 like you had wrote is mind boggling. From your description it sounds like your hand moving really fast is the only thing that can make you cum regularly now... you trained your body that way through too much masturbation. I suggest you stop all masturbation completely if you havent already.
seems more psychological than physical, forget about the problem and enjoy the sex. The anxiety is putting pressure on you to cum which is doing the opposite, ask your gf to surprise you at random times for sex e.g outdoors etc if shes adventures, or maybe blindfold one another, take turns and let them do anything. Its all to do with hhe mind than physical, in your case, im no doctor though.
Happened to me, though i was slightly bored of the repetitive sex and was always the last to cum, still am but i can still cum during sex, just takes awhile.
Like i said, its all psychological, if its not fully turning you on then you'll struggle, sex for the basis of sex could be a problem, try making love and DON'T think about you, think about how amazing the experiences is. Try getting her to give you a bj with a glass of cold water, drinking some to make her mouth icey, then sucking the head of your penid. If she aint into oral, you could get some cock rub and just relax. You could also try asking her to maybe do some things you've fantasized without making her feel normal sex aint good enough, all depends on your partner's willingness and you letting go, question is, do you feel anything? Are you enjoying it? If your missing one of these, you will struggle to cum inside of her. (you tried pleasure enhancement condoms? They can help alot if you're struggling bare back)
Happened to me, though i was slightly bored of the repetitive sex and was always the last to cum, still am but i can still cum during sex, just takes awhile.
Like i said, its all psychological, if its not fully turning you on then you'll struggle, sex for the basis of sex could be a problem, try making love and DON'T think about you, think about how amazing the experiences is. Try getting her to give you a bj with a glass of cold water, drinking some to make her mouth icey, then sucking the head of your penid. If she aint into oral, you could get some cock rub and just relax. You could also try asking her to maybe do some things you've fantasized without making her feel normal sex aint good enough, all depends on your partner's willingness and you letting go, question is, do you feel anything? Are you enjoying it? If your missing one of these, you will struggle to cum inside of her. (you tried pleasure enhancement condoms? They can help alot if you're struggling bare back)
You know...
It's ALL psychological if you can make yourself cum without problem when you're alone.
I recently was with my previous partner and she talked with me about my slow cum issue. Not really an issue, because I can cum with her, but it had to be manual for me.
We discussed how intently i was innately a pleaser. I wanted to make sure she was happy, even when she was doing her best to make me happy. I wanted my penis to be hard for her while she sucked on it. so I would constantly worry if my penis was going soft, making up for it with Kegels, trying to make sure it stayed hard.
i would focus on the pleasure, but I was always in the back of my mind making sure I was staying hard and making noises for her to be happy. Even when she tried to make it about me, i was making it about her.
She interjected and said "no, you can't do that! we're going to have to work on that." so she said that night we'd make love as long as it took for me to clear my mind.
She made good on her promise, but that night it was kind of different, she took major lead. started with giving me oral. I felt myself trying to be a pleaser and stopped the thought process. She was pleasing me. just being there was pleasing to her. I stopped thinking about the feeling on my penis and just let it grow in her mouth. i was just like "that's the real thing, not my hand, so no need to go into my mind, just watch her do it." that kept me SUPER hard.
Then when she straddled me, she rode it in such a way that I was getting more feeling than i could imagine out of it. This whole thing lasted about 15-20 minutes before I gently pushed her off me just as I came.
I came because I stopped focusing on being a pleaser and more on just enjoying what was happening.
It's ALL psychological if you can make yourself cum without problem when you're alone.
I recently was with my previous partner and she talked with me about my slow cum issue. Not really an issue, because I can cum with her, but it had to be manual for me.
We discussed how intently i was innately a pleaser. I wanted to make sure she was happy, even when she was doing her best to make me happy. I wanted my penis to be hard for her while she sucked on it. so I would constantly worry if my penis was going soft, making up for it with Kegels, trying to make sure it stayed hard.
i would focus on the pleasure, but I was always in the back of my mind making sure I was staying hard and making noises for her to be happy. Even when she tried to make it about me, i was making it about her.
She interjected and said "no, you can't do that! we're going to have to work on that." so she said that night we'd make love as long as it took for me to clear my mind.
She made good on her promise, but that night it was kind of different, she took major lead. started with giving me oral. I felt myself trying to be a pleaser and stopped the thought process. She was pleasing me. just being there was pleasing to her. I stopped thinking about the feeling on my penis and just let it grow in her mouth. i was just like "that's the real thing, not my hand, so no need to go into my mind, just watch her do it." that kept me SUPER hard.
Then when she straddled me, she rode it in such a way that I was getting more feeling than i could imagine out of it. This whole thing lasted about 15-20 minutes before I gently pushed her off me just as I came.
I came because I stopped focusing on being a pleaser and more on just enjoying what was happening.
CaptainJohnson
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I have this problem. except in the lazy dog postion.
I almost came today in the oyster position, and could have if I wanted to, but wanted longer sex.
What I learned works:
1) Quit the porn.
2) Skip a day of sex here and there.
3) Lower the amount you masturbate. You are either getting laid, getting a favour, or jacking off. Don't jack off the same day as all the other stuff.
4) Don't go too fast too soon. Once you get into a rythmn, don't jackhammer the girl. Start with a speed you like and wait for the arousal as you focus on her sexy bodice. Also, by avoiding the jackhammer, you are doing her a hell of a favour. Jackhammers are not sexy.
Have fun and practice safe sex!
I almost came today in the oyster position, and could have if I wanted to, but wanted longer sex.
What I learned works:
1) Quit the porn.
2) Skip a day of sex here and there.
3) Lower the amount you masturbate. You are either getting laid, getting a favour, or jacking off. Don't jack off the same day as all the other stuff.
4) Don't go too fast too soon. Once you get into a rythmn, don't jackhammer the girl. Start with a speed you like and wait for the arousal as you focus on her sexy bodice. Also, by avoiding the jackhammer, you are doing her a hell of a favour. Jackhammers are not sexy.
Have fun and practice safe sex!
