Are you REALLY ok with her having better before you?

[BigO]

For my 2 cents. . .I do understand why it would bother a man if I told him I have had bigger and better (I know it would bother me). But most of us women are emtional creatures and if we connect with you emotionally then it's better. If you please her emotionally and physically then you are the best. She is being very honest wih you. You care about her, you treat her right, she loves you, you please her (or pleasure her). . .you are the best she has ever had because of it all. Just accept it. . . .you ARE the BEST she has ever had

Unfortunately he will never understand this with out a more positive out look, Its starting feel like the seed is trying to be planted in the minds of others, very unfortunate indeed.

 

[Koh]

I really couldn't care less about the guy's before me; someone's always going to be better....

As long as I'm the one giving her that good dick at the moment, then I'm good.

 

[BigO]

I really couldn't care less about the guy's before me; someone's always going to be better....

As long as I'm the one giving her that good dick at the moment, then I'm good.

Short, sweet and repped

 

[Steve23]

As long as either of you aren't yawning during sex, there's nothing to worry about!

 

[MrBigDick]

You are way overthinking this OP. If the a girl has had 20 sex partners, then the chances of her current partner being the best are very slim, but does it really matter so long as you are above average in this category and having great sex? What % of girls do you think are currently with the guy who gave them the best sex ever? Barring situations where the girl is a virgin or near virgin, then I would say that % is very low b/c while important, it definitely isn't everything. You probably aren't the wealthiest or best looking partner she's ever had either, I mean there are tons of things you can be insecure about if you're looking for them, but why not just accept that she is with you for a reason, that the overall person you are is the best fit for her.

By the way, having said all this, I think any man or woman with tact would be smart enough NOT to tell their partner that they aren't the best ever, if that's the case. There is just little that can come of it, and if the sex happens to suck, there are mature ways to discuss this with your partner and improve the sex without destroying someone mentally or making them feel insecure. I agree with others that if she pretty much mentioned unsolicited that she had been with "pro athletes with huge cocks" then she probably has some underlying issues herself that I'd watch out for. A good girl who's confident in herself and the relationship doesn't need to play mind games like that to try and make you feel insecure and give herself a leg up in the relationship.

Exactly!!

 

[amiok]

I have to say. I am probably the most insecure dude here. But I could give a flying fuck about what or who the girl I am with has fucked before. How good, how big, I don't care. Maybe it is because I know I am the smallest, and the worst lol. But, as long as I can get her off who gives a sh*t. My two cents.

Here was my original quote. I in no way wanted to hijack the thread.

 

[nightsky]

It is an insecurity...you always want to please your partner.

That's why I try to perform as best i can every time. I make sure she has her orgasm every time.

 

[Rasputine]

I have to ask the question,If he was so much better why isn't she still with said better.

 

[Stretch Armstrong]

Don't care. A hell of a lot more to a relationship than sex..

 

[Starbuck1776]

Past lovers are the (wait for it)......the past!

I don't care about who was before, and I hope she doesnt care about my past lovers!

 

[Stretch Armstrong]

Let me ask a question for the guys.. do you care if your current girl doesn't give heqd quite as well asa girl in your past? Are you sitting there thinking about past blowjobs while getting one from the girl you love?

 

[Closed039]

Let me ask a question for the guys.. do you care if your current girl doesn't give heqd quite as well asa girl in your past? Are you sitting there thinking about past blowjobs while getting one from the girl you love?

Very good point. But how about after 50 blowjobs, where you still have never came one time from her, then you might start saying "hey my last girl was better." Similarly, when the poor girl has to let you get on top of her and fuck her brains out and you aren't making her cum even though the last guy did, she will think about it. Just my 0.02.

 

[ColtAR-15]

Let me ask a question for the guys.. do you care if your current girl doesn't give heqd quite as well asa girl in your past? Are you sitting there thinking about past blowjobs while getting one from the girl you love?

I have never had head from anyone other than my wife but I am fairly sure she isn't much good at it. I suppose if I did have one before from someone else and it felt real good and I couldn't help but orgasm then yes the contrast probably would cross my mind. If the difference was only marginal then I probably wouldn't put much thought into it. I suppose the same thing would probably apply to women when their having sex.

 

[Rando]

It is an insecurity...you always want to please your partner.

That's why I try to perform as best i can every time. I make sure she has her orgasm every time.

I think maybe 50% of the issues with sex just come down to the mental aspect of it. I really hate the word "perform" in this context b/c it makes it seems like the guy is putting on a show or routine. I think the best way to go about sex is to just relax and let whatever happens, happens. If she has 1 orgasm or 10 or 0, that's fine, but chances are she will probably enjoy the overall act much more if you go in with an attitude of just having fun rather than viewing as a "performance" with an end goal in mind. Sex should never have goals and there should never be pressure on either party to "perform" or live up to past lovers.

 

[secureman]

Have to say it. I think the world was a better place when the majority of people had 1 or few partners in a lifetime. And this coming from a guy who has been around. If you're with a girl who has a good amount of sexual experience and it hurts you then I think you need to break up with her. Some people are able to deal with certain things. Find a more innocent girl or someone you feel comfortable with. That's what works for me even if it sounds hypocritical.

 

[Rando]

I don't think I agree with those sentiments. Ignoring sex, some people go through tons of relationships before they find "the one" and of course some never do. Now going back to sex, if you've only had a couple partners at most before settling, you might not get the chance to find a girl that you really click with sexually which would be a sad thing. I think people in general are just way too freakin insecure and just need to be comfortable in their own skin, then it really wouldn't matter how big their dick is, whether or not they're the best, whether or not he/she is too experienced, etc.

 

[Ravenously]

This isn't the Matrix, there isn't "the one", more like "one of many that are compatible". If every person had just "the one" out there, the species would be in a lot of trouble. We would have gone exstinct by now.

 

[BigO]

If you worry about the last guy being better than you are to the point you end up harrassing your lady about it, then he was better than you. Insecurity is a big mental turn off and once she is not turned on all the physical love is just not going to take her any where.

 

[Rando]

If you worry about the last guy being better than you are to the point you end up harrassing your lady about it, then he was better than you. Insecurity is a big mental turn off and once she is not turned on all the physical love is just not going to take her any where.

Wow, I really, really like that quote. "If you are worried if the last guy was better than you...then he was"

Whether it is true or not, just the confidence that you ARE the best goes a long way in ensuring that you are at the very least on the better end of the spectrum. I doubt that guys who KNOW they are very skilled in bed really care about how good their girl's past partners were.

 

[bherbigest]

Plain and simple, women settle for less than what they have had. Wether it be, how attractive you are, how built you are, how big your cock is, how long you last, how good in bed you are. Women are different than men, they care most about how compatible you are in all the areas that dont involve physical or sexual aspects. You can be ugly, fat or skinny, not muscular, have a small cock, be a two pump chump, and her worst lover. Guess what? If you are able to make her laugh, stimulate her mentally and emotionally, make her feel important and loved, she will love you, she will stay with you regaurdless of how you look, or how good you are in bed. Not at all what a man wants to hear, but it is the simple truth. be her best in the mental and emotional areas and she will stand by you untill the end.