Friends with benefits.

[KMC]

A few years back I found a girl down for anything at anytime lol. How did I do it? I really did nothing at all, it just sorta fell into my lap. She liked me, I asked her straight up if she wanted to fuck, she said yes and it went on from there. After a few months she found a bf and we agreed to stop.

Anyway, there's this other girl I know and I've been "friends" with her for about 4 years, I say friends in quotations because we were only close for about 1 of the 4 years. Now, this girl is a sort of a slut (Don't like to use the word slut cause everyone likes to get laid) and numerous times we have been drunk and made out. She always tells me stories of other people shes fucked, which are quite a lot of stories, but I was never able to bang her for some reason.

Last weekend I drank with her again, got on the subject of sex and when I popped the question, I got the typical "I don't sleep with friends" speech. There was a twist to it though. She said something along the lines of she has to date her friends to sleep with them ( I think she said that. don't recall cause I was drunk ) Now I played around with it for awhile, saying shes missing out and blah blah blah, but eventually went home un-laid.

I want some opinions on this girl... Now I am a pretty good looking guy so I've developed a few theories of why I can't get her in the sack

1. She actually doesn't sleep with friends (which I think is bs)
2. I'm 100% unappealing to her
3. Shes playing hard to get
4. She wants a real relationship <--- I think this is the reason


I'd like to know what other people think of the situation. Has anyone else been in this situation? Any words of encouragement or advice?

 

[MrBigDick]

I think it could be a combination of any of the 4 items you listed. I've had a couple of "friends with benefits" relationships and the sex was always amazing...........where I err'd was crossing the line and making each of them my girlfriend (different times, not both at the same time). As fuck buddies, it went well, as relationship partners, it didn't work because they didn't truly want a relationship, just fuck. Lesson learned.

If you really want to lay some pipe with her, I'd say leave the topic of sex alone and see if she'd be interested in going out with you a couple of times and see where that leads.

 

[CUSP82]

The only friends with benefits I ever had had medical coverage complete with eysglass care. Ohter than that I don't know what you guys are talking about. ( but I wish I did)

 

[jakkie]

I have a couple of friends with benefits that keeps my sex life going as I am not in a relationship. Hope one of them become my other half ... but lets wait and see.

 

[islander]

4). She knows she won't be able to let u go

In a fwb u want to be physically attracted but not be able to fall in love so u need to already know the dude has negative qualities that remind u he is not a keeper

 

[NP97]

She honestly might be saying that because she wants you to ask her out.

 

[duppy]

The only friends with benefits I ever had had medical coverage complete with eysglass care. Ohter than that I don't know what you guys are talking about. ( but I wish I did)

lmao to fucking funny made me lol at 2am in the morning

 

[actionbuddy]

Altogether, the whole thing sounds rather tainted... If I were you, I would move on.

 

[WalrusGumBoot]

It just might be as simple as you are in her friend box and she is telling the truth that she does not sleep with friends. If she is telling you about her sexcapades, that is an indication of that she views you as a friend. She might have a criteria as to what she considers a potential lover. Maybe she is into bad boys, and the nice guys all fall into the friends category.

No matter how promiscuous a girl may be, very few of them want to carry around the label of being considered a slut like a badge of honor. They have guys hitting on them all day long, including her guy "friends". She knows you want to fuck her. If you are going to get there, you have to show that you don't belong in her friend box and should be viewed as a potential lover.

I personally would avoid this chick.

 

[duppy]

Say hi to herpes lol

 

[TTBB]

Maybe she won't sleep with you because she doesn't want to ruin a friendship.
If the two of you are in a relationship it becomes a little less complicated and a little safer then FWB.
Just because she sleeps around doesn't mean she has no desire for a relationship...just because she sleeps around doesn't mean she wants her friends to treat her like other men do.

 

[justadude]

... and numerous times we have been drunk and made out.

Was there any reason why you didn't go all the way on these occasions? What stopped you? I reckon shes either waiting for you to 'have your way' with her or shes dead keen and wants a relationship.

 

[Rockitman]

Friends with benefits never works: either you get emotionally involved, or one of you realizes that you are both using each other as a consolation-prize or for "B-grade" sex until a 'keeper' comes along.

You both sell yourselves short.

 

[MrBigDick]

Friends with benefits never works: either you get emotionally involved, or one of you realizes that you are both using each other as a consolation-prize or for "B-grade" sex until a 'keeper' comes along.

You both sell yourselves short.

I agree with this to an extent. If you wanna get laid and you've got a friend who's willing and able and doesn't have a problem with it, I see no reason why you two can't have sex.

 

[KMC]

Was there any reason why you didn't go all the way on these occasions? What stopped you? I reckon shes either waiting for you to 'have your way' with her or shes dead keen and wants a relationship.

I've had her shirt off, but then before anything happened she stopped.

.....But idunno, I seen her last weekend and shes further more proved shes unreliable as a "friend". So really its just a lose lose situation now.

Oh well, on to the next one.

 

[superpp]

I'm in a situation like that right now where the chick i want 2 have sex with and its not working out......
As stated above she sleeps with other dudes & tells me about it.... who she knows dont want a relationship, butttt doesnt do so with me 'if that has to happen i want it to be more'.....bulls***t
I was also hit that line with being A GOOD FREN and etc, but she doesnt feel like that good of a friend..... LADIES thanks for that input and GUYS you are not alone, i guess i will have 2 leave out this chick because im pretty vocal in communicating with women and she knows what i want....im sure she wants the same but probably just not with me.....