How could a woman safely initiate a PE conversion with their man?
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No, no no...
wow, to think you've been misreading "kick" all these years. *shakes head*
sly kiss-ass'ing LOL!
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I think any woman should be very careful about bringing PE to their man's attention.
Any inkling that she is concerned with his size/wants him to PE for this reason - would cripple many men.
Any inkling that she is concerned with his size/wants him to PE for this reason - would cripple many men.
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Men's egos are WAY too fragile. The only way I can see a woman bringing this up to man is if said man was already open about feeling inadequate in that area and open for any ideas on how to improve.
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I think the MMO aspect of PE is one place to start that has nothing to do with size. For a guy to be able to have more than one orgasm in close succession.... how cool is that? I mean, would a man find it threatening if his partner suggested that she was interested in it? I know someone mentioned this earlier on the thread, but everyone kind of blew by it. I think MMO might be the best opening to discussing PE with a man.
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Is this directed at me? I feel that it is, so let me respond
About the erotic fiction, those are emails that I send my husband when he's away at work, which he lets all his work buddies read and gets to brag about with them. I see no problem sharing them here as I had no problem with him sharing them with the guys he works with. Full of innuendo and flirting: I can be a flirty girl, but let me tell you, I come home to one man and that's the way it's always been Here's my take on it: If and when the opportunity arises that I mention the gym to my husband, it will be solely to mention MMO and the benefits of kegeling. My husband is full of confidence in his package and our sex life and in no way do I want to suggest he needs to change, I don't want that for me or for him. I am perfectly fine the way he is. I found the gym looking for ways for me to better improve what we already had going on
Sorry, OP, I think I opened a can of worms when I posted and this thread got directed at me, or maybe for me
And to answer your original Q, No, there's no safe way to initiate a conversation unless he, himself, is complaining about his penis and it comes up then. Otherwise, a woman bringing up the issue would only hurt his convenience and cause more problems for the couple in the long run.
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Is this directed at me? I feel that it is, so let me respond
Here's my take on it: If and when the opportunity arises that I mention the gym to my husband, it will be solely to mention MMO and the benefits of kegeling. My husband is full of convenience in his package and our sex life and in no way do I want to suggest he needs to change, I don't want that for me or for him. I am perfectly fine the way he is. I found the gym looking for ways for me to better improve what we already had going on
Sorry, OP, I think I opened a can of worms when I posted and this thread got directed at me, or maybe for me
Most likely not directed at you at all. Sometimes we get defensive, it's all good.
For me personally, it depends on how i met the person as to whether or not I'll get territorial. If I met her on a website, then i'd get a little iffy, if she had conversations on that same website with other guys... It's just how things go. However if I met her out in the streets, then i wouldn't be so threatened by a website or something (unless the guys are old BFs or something) outside of that web is web, real is real. Nothing else to it.
I think the guy who has been hurt realizes that there's no way he "owns" a woman. thereby, there's no way he can make her do anything to be with him or make her want to leave. That is her own decision, and he becomes suspicious of channels that she may use to "exit" hence the "flirting" but as I said, If i met her in person while walking down the street or in a icecream shop, i wouldn't care if she flirted with guys online. I can't see them, i don't know them and if they're as far away from each other as we are, they pose no immediate threat.
That's a good Idea starting with Multiple Male Orgasms. Just make sure it's not directed at him as if to say he doesn't last long enough. The defensive guy in me would construe it as an insult (asking my partner, she used to get on me all the time about being TOO defensive).
Someone mentioned that men's egos are too fragile... Well to be honest to a LARGE majority of men, being "manly" is all about three things. Big Cock, Big Muscles, Big Wallet. Big cock to please her, Big Muscles to Protect her, and Big Wallet to Provide for her. If any one of these is missing, you're batting 66% (a D is not a passing grade, LOL!) Granted we all HERE know that much of this is inaccurate, if you attack any of those Attributes (His ability to please her, His ability to Protect her, or his ability to provide for her) you're essentially attacking his manhood. Thereby, you're attack his self-worth and "ego." Anything dealing with identity is going to be a sensitive subject to broach.
It's just as sensitive as talking to a woman about her weight, there's certain things you don't do.
You are a married women so you should be able to talk about anything really but you know him better than me so approach it as you see best,i would not be offended if my lady mentioned anything like this to me but i am very approachable and easy going so he may be different to me.I remember a few years ago my ex at the time was feeling out of energy for a while so i said"come and do some workouts with me at the gym in the week" and she blew up on me and said "so you think im fat then you stupid b*****d".So i had to explain that losing weight was not the point of us going to the gym but raising energy levels was as well as making us feel better all round.She was only 130lbs any way but she took it as i thought she was fat.
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Is this directed at me? I feel that it is, so let me respond
Here's my take on it: If and when the opportunity arises that I mention the gym to my husband, it will be solely to mention MMO and the benefits of kegeling. My husband is full of confidence in his package and our sex life and in no way do I want to suggest he needs to change, I don't want that for me or for him. I am perfectly fine the way he is. I found the gym looking for ways for me to better improve what we already had going on
Sorry, OP, I think I opened a can of worms when I posted and this thread got directed at me, or maybe for me
Not directed at you per se, and I wasn't criticizing, just expressing how I would interpret posts if my they belonged to my girlfriend and I stumbled upon them for example
I didn't want to imply that you were unfaithful or overly flirtatious
no harm no foul?
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Not directed at you per se, and I wasn't criticizing, just expressing how I would interpret posts if my they belonged to my girlfriend and I stumbled upon them for example
I didn't want to imply that you were unfaithful or overly flirtatious
no harm no foul?
No problem Padawan. I wasn't bitchin' at you. Just simply stating my reasoning or lack there of
After re-reading my post, I could see myself, with my hand on my hip, shaking my head side to side, with my finger pointed at you reading what I wrote and I thought you make take it that way.(It's really hard to type feelings into words without coming across a certain way) Depends on the situation on how to bring PE up. . . this is a very sensitive subject for most men. For me, my husband is always making a comment about wishing he was bigger or how can I last longer etc etc. So I researched it and found this site, which is by far better then the other 3 I saw. So I said "Hey Babe, I found this awesome site for men with some of the same questions/concerns you have" He said " Awesome, check it out for me and let me know what you think.. . .etc" But he brought it up I didn't. I think the best way to bring it up would be not to make it about him. . .I would start so the other day one of my girlfriends & I were talking about women's health etc, and started researching the topic. Besides kegels we found other ways to help us maintain our sexual health. On that site was information for men too! Have you ever heard of doing kegels or jelqing etc? I never knew men needed to do exercises etc to maintian their sexual health too.
I think the best approach would probably be to only mention Kegels in the beginning, nothing about PE just yet. Make it sound like doing them would be a great benefit to his sexual pleasure, don't mention anything about any side benefits for you, that way he won't at all think you're implying he's inadequate or that you're just telling him about it for your own pleasure. Just focus on the awesome things strong PC muscles can bring that have nothing to do with size such as (strong PC muscles lead to stronger contractions during orgasm, strong PC muscles can lead to the possibiliy of multiple male orgasms, etc.) You can gauge how receptive he is to your suggestions and if he seems excited about the whole prospect, maybe a bit down the road start mentioning PE and how it can lead to better, more spontaneous erections, a healthier penis now and down the road, etc.
