Young, insecure male.....
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Depends how you measure
7 bpel. I have abs/low bodyfat anyway plus shaved pubes
5 girth at base and middle.
Measure lenght along top off penis.
My second girlfriend was a really beautiful, athletic, smart FL girl who asked me out. I was very inexperienced and she only had 2 guys. She said her college boyfriend had a really big penis. They tried anal once and she said never again. She tried swallowing his cum once and said never again. Thanks a lot asshole! The other guy she was with was an older guy that had more experience and really just fucked her good. When I was a young inexperienced guy (early 20s), I had some similar thoughts as you do.
If you want to have a great relationship, then:
A. being a good guy makes you better than 90% of the guys out there (including your girlfriend's dormmate);
B. being a good guy who is a really good boyfriend makes you better than 99% of the guys out there;
C. being a good guy who is a really good boyfriend who is a really good lover makes you better than 99.9% of the guys out there; and
D. being a good guy who is a really good boyfriend who is a really good lover who has a large penis makes you better than 99.99% of the guys out there.
Basically, stop worry about your penis size. Your girlfriend already sees you as B in my list above. If you start focusing on having a fun sex life, you'll get to C. If you worry about penis size and what some other guy did with your girlfriend before you, your insecurity will eventually take you off the list completely. This forum has the info to help you improve your penis, but don't let the tail wag the dog by obsessing over it.
If you want to have a great relationship, then:
A. being a good guy makes you better than 90% of the guys out there (including your girlfriend's dormmate);
B. being a good guy who is a really good boyfriend makes you better than 99% of the guys out there;
C. being a good guy who is a really good boyfriend who is a really good lover makes you better than 99.9% of the guys out there; and
D. being a good guy who is a really good boyfriend who is a really good lover who has a large penis makes you better than 99.99% of the guys out there.
Basically, stop worry about your penis size. Your girlfriend already sees you as B in my list above. If you start focusing on having a fun sex life, you'll get to C. If you worry about penis size and what some other guy did with your girlfriend before you, your insecurity will eventually take you off the list completely. This forum has the info to help you improve your penis, but don't let the tail wag the dog by obsessing over it.
thats BS casue average is like 5-5.5x4.8
Its been said numeorus times in numerous studies
So why this guy is concerend with his 6.7x5 he shouldnt be?
anyway I have noticed your tone in psots towards me and I guess you have an attitude with me so I will ignore you in future, cheers
Wow. Great posts. I'm quite taken-aback at the good advice here.
Okay, so, according to you guys, my insecurity is unwarranted, given the criteria I have presented you with. Hmm, I will try and soak that up. I've honestly never considered the fact that maybe she likes me better in every department....I thought that was impossible.
It is very easy for me to be casual and funny in the beginning, because I don't care. But after I get an emotional connection to the woman, this deluge of insecurity hits me like a tidal wave.
Has anyone thought about the picture(s) that may or may not have been taken? Would that bother other guys and is that something that has happened to a lot of women these days? (what with mobile phones, etc).
Great replies guys. Keep em comming. I am too poor right now to afford a councilor, and, based on the responses I have gotten thus far, I doubt it would be as beneficial. Wow, never thought a pe site would
have people like this....right on.
P.S. For the record, what is the generally agreed-upon average size? (Nbpel, bpel and mseg)
Okay, so, according to you guys, my insecurity is unwarranted, given the criteria I have presented you with. Hmm, I will try and soak that up. I've honestly never considered the fact that maybe she likes me better in every department....I thought that was impossible.
It is very easy for me to be casual and funny in the beginning, because I don't care. But after I get an emotional connection to the woman, this deluge of insecurity hits me like a tidal wave.
Has anyone thought about the picture(s) that may or may not have been taken? Would that bother other guys and is that something that has happened to a lot of women these days? (what with mobile phones, etc).
Great replies guys. Keep em comming. I am too poor right now to afford a councilor, and, based on the responses I have gotten thus far, I doubt it would be as beneficial. Wow, never thought a pe site would
have people like this....right on.
P.S. For the record, what is the generally agreed-upon average size? (Nbpel, bpel and mseg)
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If you had a brain you would realise I was not asking the average. I was replying cyicnally to the preivous posts.
He stated 'my gf said I had an average penis.'' (his stats listed as 7.5x4.5 post current-8x4.75) and original poster stated he is 6.7x5
My thought in my head is like whats this guy on about?
huh??? what you on about 7x5 is average? since when?
but off course I never wrote it like that.
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Well, I read this entire thread and I have some insightful words of wisdom for you. First off, she's with you! Quit worrying about some other guy or guys she's had sex with. They are in the past and everyone has a past. This guy who supposedly took photos of her? OK, so he did (I'll assume he did because now a days, MOST guys like to photograph that sh*t and brag to their buddy's about the chick they just nailed). I'm presuming this was BEFORE you entered the picture. If this is the case, again, it's in the past.
In my opinion, stop worrying about why she likes you, the greater point is that SHE DOES. You're the only person who can get over your insecurities, no one else can do that for you. Focus on enjoying the fact that you've got a beautiful gf who thinks your the cat's meow and stop this nonsensical worrying about why she's with you. Just enjoy it!
So, a big concern is you think your penis is too small to satisfy sexually most women and you want it bigger so you think this will make you better.
Ok im not the sexgod know it all of penises
BUt, IMO if yo are 6.7x5 inches. Then with good thrustign nad techinque at that size you can satisfy quite easily 90% of all women.
If you added 0.3 inch perhaps hits g-spot or soemthing I read? So 7 is good?
GIrth 5.5 could be better but above 5.5 not necessary.
Nontheless from what I read and on my experiences a 6.7x5 penis is pretty more than adequate
Ok im not the sexgod know it all of penises
BUt, IMO if yo are 6.7x5 inches. Then with good thrustign nad techinque at that size you can satisfy quite easily 90% of all women.
If you added 0.3 inch perhaps hits g-spot or soemthing I read? So 7 is good?
GIrth 5.5 could be better but above 5.5 not necessary.
Nontheless from what I read and on my experiences a 6.7x5 penis is pretty more than adequate
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You have to be honest with yourself about what bugs you about the photos: (A) she was dumb enough to do it, (B) she did it with another guy but not with you, (C) the dude might use the photos to embarrass her, (D) the dude might use the photos to embarrass you (with his large dick), (E) something else. Whatever. She seems to have laughed it off. You should too. If your insecurity is really driving you nuts, take your own pics. Better yet, take your own picks now and every three months while you're doing your PE training.
The convenience of mobile phones, facebook, etc. have made people oblivious to the dumb things they do. Getting a drunk tattoo is sometimes less embarrassing than something that can be posted online. Unless you're a pornstar (or wannabe reality star), just don't do it. Nothing good can come of it.
It does most so.
BUT dont you agree that his penis is the last thing he needs to work on. And that it is a good size. Not a moster porn cock. But from a physical point of view his penis can and should be more than adequate for most females?
Well theres one thing he can stop fretting over then.
Sure do PE all you like ust for fun and keep it a hobby and work on your other mental aspects
PS- he said
''Now, I have a statistically COMPLETELY average penis (6.7 bpel, 5.8 nbpel, 5 inches mseg''
just for the record.
with a 1inch lose in nbpel it seems to me perhaps you need to lose some weight? Low bodyfat and shaved pubes can visually make a huge difference. I guess thats why I had so many WOW comments etc...skinny guy, low bodyfat, shaved pubes, 7 inch erecion= 9-10 inches to some woman
I have just over 7 bpel on a good day and nbpel aint much differnet
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Also I must quote
''but can't help but feeling inferior to those lucky guys with big ones (you have a big one, not huge. big). Almost like even though I can have sex with a woman, I can't give her that kind of "ultimate" sex, you know? Like that kind of sex that women go looking for when they are on the prowl and just want a totally satisfying sexual experience. Here's my question: has the best sex of your life been with a man with a big or above average penis?...(you have an above average penis)
I know that average sized men can be great in bed, but are big men a bit better? (you are big, not huge, big) I ask because I have reason to believe my girlfriend has had a few men that were very big, and me being very average, I feel very inadequate (you are not average though), like I can't quite have the same kind of "sex" with her has they did. Notice I say "sex" because I hate to call it love-making....I don't want to make love....I want to F*Ck, you know? I don't want to be the guy she settled for because I am more stable and nice and funny....I want to be the guy that makes her scream with pleasure. I can last for a long time, and she can have three orgasms (maybe fake, although they seem very real) in a row before I finish but I feel like I am excluded from being her "best" sex because of my average size. (ok so you just said Is quivalent to ''I want to be a rich man but I only have 1 billion dollars in my bank'')
I know this is macho and stupid, but I feel like less of a man, because my penis is not big enough to command any attention (maybe it dont command attention like a 10 incher but inside her its big). I.e. guys with big ones have to be careful because they can cause pain. A woman would never be intimidated by my penis (prob not big enough to be inimitading but do you want to scare her or give her good sex?), so I view it as though I am automatically less dominant and manly as the guys sporting the jumbo ones. (well you dont have a jumbo one thats true)
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Ill be honest the impression you are giving of your thoughts on penis size are similar to mine.
1. You have an above average sized penis
2. You dont have a monster cock
3. You have a big ego and big cock fetish
4. You want to impress girls just by being monsterly hung
1+2+3+4= You have a perfectly normal above average cock that can sexaully satisfy most women. However, pshcologically you would love to have a monster cock that will impress every women and leave them in awe and be amazed by your unit. You just want to be that guy with the monster cock. You want to be the biggest cock she has ever had and ever will.
''but can't help but feeling inferior to those lucky guys with big ones (you have a big one, not huge. big). Almost like even though I can have sex with a woman, I can't give her that kind of "ultimate" sex, you know? Like that kind of sex that women go looking for when they are on the prowl and just want a totally satisfying sexual experience. Here's my question: has the best sex of your life been with a man with a big or above average penis?...(you have an above average penis)
I know that average sized men can be great in bed, but are big men a bit better? (you are big, not huge, big) I ask because I have reason to believe my girlfriend has had a few men that were very big, and me being very average, I feel very inadequate (you are not average though), like I can't quite have the same kind of "sex" with her has they did. Notice I say "sex" because I hate to call it love-making....I don't want to make love....I want to F*Ck, you know? I don't want to be the guy she settled for because I am more stable and nice and funny....I want to be the guy that makes her scream with pleasure. I can last for a long time, and she can have three orgasms (maybe fake, although they seem very real) in a row before I finish but I feel like I am excluded from being her "best" sex because of my average size. (ok so you just said Is quivalent to ''I want to be a rich man but I only have 1 billion dollars in my bank'')
I know this is macho and stupid, but I feel like less of a man, because my penis is not big enough to command any attention (maybe it dont command attention like a 10 incher but inside her its big). I.e. guys with big ones have to be careful because they can cause pain. A woman would never be intimidated by my penis (prob not big enough to be inimitading but do you want to scare her or give her good sex?), so I view it as though I am automatically less dominant and manly as the guys sporting the jumbo ones. (well you dont have a jumbo one thats true)
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Ill be honest the impression you are giving of your thoughts on penis size are similar to mine.
1. You have an above average sized penis
2. You dont have a monster cock
3. You have a big ego and big cock fetish
4. You want to impress girls just by being monsterly hung
1+2+3+4= You have a perfectly normal above average cock that can sexaully satisfy most women. However, pshcologically you would love to have a monster cock that will impress every women and leave them in awe and be amazed by your unit. You just want to be that guy with the monster cock. You want to be the biggest cock she has ever had and ever will.
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I think a lot of mens general lack of self like and lack of confidence gets directed at their penis when its really not a penis problem.
So you will find on this site that men of all penis sizes have anxiety over their cocks and how the people they are sexually attracted to view their penis. How other men view their penis. When in reality it all comes down to how they view and feel about their penis. Emotions and Intelligence can be too different things. So you can know something but still struggle with your emotions.
So you will find on this site that men of all penis sizes have anxiety over their cocks and how the people they are sexually attracted to view their penis. How other men view their penis. When in reality it all comes down to how they view and feel about their penis. Emotions and Intelligence can be too different things. So you can know something but still struggle with your emotions.
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All salient points...so salient, in fact, that I can not really find a caveat.
I do have a HUGE ego. In fact, sometimes I think I have NPD. (Narcissistic Personality Disorder).
Another thing I should mention....since I was 15 I have been looking at porn everyday. I was so busy watching porn that I missed every opportunity to get laid that came my way, and there were several. I have never really liked women that much, probably because I was a late bloomer, and socially not good with them until recently. Typical really....insecure guy, doesn't know how to talk to girls, gets issues because of it, yada yada.
You know, I guess I do have a big-cock fetish. When I sleep with my girlfriend, I am more concerned with my cock size than I am with her pleasure. I also can't think about our "closeness" either. I just picture my cock going in and out of her and what it looks like and that is the only way I get off.
At first I was just using her for sex, and I felt great. But now, I feel "something", and it makes me incredibly uneasy.
I actually would trade almost everything to have a giant cock. I don't want to have a normal life, whatever that is anyway. No, were I sporting something bigger, I could live the life I want, which is to either be a porn actor, or a total stud. I know that is shallow, but it's all I really care about. This goes deeper than just cock size, I know, but sometimes you can't see the forest for the trees, as in my case.
Sex with a woman doesn't scare me. Intimacy does, because I feel vulnerable, and when I feel vulnerable I feel weak, and weakness is not manly. This girl has a way of breaking down my wall of machismo, and seeing who I really am, and it scares the sh*t out of me. I'm hoping that now that she's seen how insecure I am, maybe she's just pull the plug and do us both a favor.
I went to my psychologist, and he told me to STOP the porn, and I have. I have not intentionally seen porn for ten days or so, and I am not going to view it for a VERY long time, as it only hurts my pysche. I think it has really damaged me.
I do have a HUGE ego. In fact, sometimes I think I have NPD. (Narcissistic Personality Disorder).
Another thing I should mention....since I was 15 I have been looking at porn everyday. I was so busy watching porn that I missed every opportunity to get laid that came my way, and there were several. I have never really liked women that much, probably because I was a late bloomer, and socially not good with them until recently. Typical really....insecure guy, doesn't know how to talk to girls, gets issues because of it, yada yada.
You know, I guess I do have a big-cock fetish. When I sleep with my girlfriend, I am more concerned with my cock size than I am with her pleasure. I also can't think about our "closeness" either. I just picture my cock going in and out of her and what it looks like and that is the only way I get off.
At first I was just using her for sex, and I felt great. But now, I feel "something", and it makes me incredibly uneasy.
I actually would trade almost everything to have a giant cock. I don't want to have a normal life, whatever that is anyway. No, were I sporting something bigger, I could live the life I want, which is to either be a porn actor, or a total stud. I know that is shallow, but it's all I really care about. This goes deeper than just cock size, I know, but sometimes you can't see the forest for the trees, as in my case.
Sex with a woman doesn't scare me. Intimacy does, because I feel vulnerable, and when I feel vulnerable I feel weak, and weakness is not manly. This girl has a way of breaking down my wall of machismo, and seeing who I really am, and it scares the sh*t out of me. I'm hoping that now that she's seen how insecure I am, maybe she's just pull the plug and do us both a favor.
I went to my psychologist, and he told me to STOP the porn, and I have. I have not intentionally seen porn for ten days or so, and I am not going to view it for a VERY long time, as it only hurts my pysche. I think it has really damaged me.
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Isn't it illegal to take photos of sex without your partner's consent? Do most guys actually try to get away with that? Is a girl a tramp if she has allowed herself to be in that situation? Should I find a more wholesome girl?
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