It didn't go in.

[guilhax_05]

So heres my story.

Me and my girl are virgins, so we have no experience whatsoever. One day I called her to come to my house and we started foreplay with each other.. for about 1hour and a half. I put 2 fingers on her, give her a orgasm, and did all this with lube. I had rocked hard erections all the time, but once I put the condom, it seems like I lost a little bit erection and hardness because the condom seemed to cut my blood flow, it felt too tight for me and when I was ready to start sexual intercourse my dick just seemed floopy kinda like a longer flaccid but erect, it wasn't hard enough. So my question here is why this happened and I want ya'll to give me some tips because tomorrow we going to try again

 

[James8X6]

Connies are meant to be tight, but not so tight they constrict blood flow. Maybe you need to upgrade to a larger size? What are your stats? I'm not sure what "large" for condoms is though.

Maybe a bit of performance anxiety as well? That happens to everyone the first time, putting too much expectation on yourself etc etc. Just gotta relax

 

[Cdn]

It is probably the condom being too tight, just try out different types until you find one that suits you and her.
If your huge in the girth department Magnums might be a necessity.

Regars
Cdn

 

[guilhax_05]

My girth is not big. It's 13cm. So it's not alot. I was very relaxed, I think..

 

[beetleboy]

Likely just simple anxiety. Even with a condom are you still worried she might get pregnant? You've got your whole life to lose your virginity so don't be in a hurry, just take it easy and when the time is right it will happen. Don't rush it.

 

[Yiagos]

Although I have no experience with virgin vaginal sex, I think you must relax and focus to the final target. Since your girl has no experience this depends on you mainly. You may watch a soft porn during loveplay just to "teach" your girl; to be more familiar what she will do. Don't be dissapointed any first time is not easy.
To go further me and my girl have done sex for many years (both we had different partners before our relation) but the first Annal :biggrin1: sex was not successful (her anus is very tight).
Therefore try and retry

 

[not2big]

Try holding the base of your penis tightly while pushing in against your body. This usually strengthens your erection enough to achieve penetration. Once you are in, relax and nature takes care of the rest. Also make sure you are both well lubed. It's been over 40 years since I had to do this, but as I recall, it worked for me.

 

[Pegasus]

Hmm 13cm is what 5.25" and after prolonged foreplay it may have been larger at the bigest point? I usually recomend a large fit at 5.5" plus, but you may be a guy whose penis just doesn't like a condom too tight . Another factor can be glans size etc.

 

[RockstarParkingDude]

did your hands or lips go cold at the same time?

i remember when i was much younger and more inexperienced, almost every time i was with a new girl i had the same problem. stress and anxiety will do a few things physiologically - heart rate increases, palms get clammy, blood vessels constrict causeing the hands and lips to go cold or tingly.

if that sounds familiar, just keep trying you'll get used to it.

 

[guilhax_05]

One more question guys. Do you guys know the best position for her to loose virginity?

 

[Steve23]

I'd say missionary, you on top. So she can just lay there and enjoy it without doing any of the work if shes shy

 

[Yiagos]

Yes missionary position is one option. But if your girl has perfect butts in view, you may try the doggy position. You will do any of the work also choosing it. Doggy position is recommended for backdoor sex :biggrin1:
Good night and don't surf much here. Practice and you'll succeed!

 

[Steve23]

Maybe for her first time she might not want to go on her hands and knees and feel like a dog

 

[HotLatino73]

Start with missionary. More intimate.

 

[Batwoman]

Yes, definitely missionary. It gives both partners a feeling of intimacy, and gives you (as the man) control enough for penetration etc. She'll want to be able to see your face, and your eyes, for reassurance.... and vice versa. That is especially important for a first time.

I might add that while doggie is one of my favorite positions now, it took years for me to feel confident enough in myself to enjoy it. Guys love it (in part for the view!) but it is almost guaranteed to make a girl feel like a piece of meat if she is not super-confident in her relationship with you, and with her own sexuality. Save it for later when you are first starting out.

 

[CUSP82]

Gee I thought I was getting palpitations because of the hurricane coming until I read this thread! Okay I'll go calm down now and take my medicine! ( I think this last post was done or purpose just to tick me off!)

 

[beetleboy]

You might also try it with her on top, letting her take total control of the situation. It may help relieve any fears she has of not having any control of the situation.

 

[guilhax_05]

Thanks alot guys

 

[Yiagos]

You are 20 years younger than me, thus I feel you like a nephew of mine
Nephew don't push hard! Keep your erections as hard as possible but show to her your love. It is very important cos you are the first man.

while doggie.... but it is almost guaranteed to make a girl feel like a piece of meat if she is not super-confident in her relationship with you

I agree but this stands for women who have done relations. On the other hand a gentleman can always conquer a shy girl. Therefore our friend's girl won't say to him "I feel uncomfortable for doggy position".

while doggie.... and with her own sexuality.

Yes it's true.
As men wonder for penis size women wonder if they are very sexy in view.

 

[guilhax_05]

She is not shy with me.. Sometimes she puts on the doggy position just to tease me, she likes the feeling like that when we are semi.nude. lol