Cialis FTW For 'Psychological' ED

[leadbelly]

Hey dude,

Great to hear that you're getting over the hump. I did the exact same thing with some previous girlfriends. Had wicked ED when trying to have sex the first few times, then got some Viagra, took it for 2 weeks and then never needed it again in the relationship.

My issue is that I'm still quite nervous with each new girl, so I actually just got some Cialis 5mg from my doc. Trying it out today. I just took 5mg on a very empty stomach it's now 2:40 in the afternoon. I'm meeting up with my new girl at 9pm. Gonna have a light lunch in 40 minutes after the pill gets absorbed, then gonna take another 5mg about 90 minutes before I see her tonight.

I've had good success with Viagra but my doc only had Cialis samples this time. I used it once before and had confusing results so I'm hoping for better this time. When I tried Cialis last year I got no erection during foreplay and then talked to the girl for awhile and said I just need to get comfortable with her. Then while we were laying there 20 minutes later I just got a random 10.0 erection. So the stuff does work for me I'm just trying to figure out the dosage and timing.

Wish me luck.

 

[bakoso]

start doing kegels and edging.

 

[code_junkie]

Hey dude,

Great to hear that you're getting over the hump. I did the exact same thing with some previous girlfriends. Had wicked ED when trying to have sex the first few times, then got some Viagra, took it for 2 weeks and then never needed it again in the relationship.

My issue is that I'm still quite nervous with each new girl, so I actually just got some Cialis 5mg from my doc. Trying it out today. I just took 5mg on a very empty stomach it's now 2:40 in the afternoon. I'm meeting up with my new girl at 9pm. Gonna have a light lunch in 40 minutes after the pill gets absorbed, then gonna take another 5mg about 90 minutes before I see her tonight.

I've had good success with Viagra but my doc only had Cialis samples this time. I used it once before and had confusing results so I'm hoping for better this time. When I tried Cialis last year I got no erection during foreplay and then talked to the girl for awhile and said I just need to get comfortable with her. Then while we were laying there 20 minutes later I just got a random 10.0 erection. So the stuff does work for me I'm just trying to figure out the dosage and timing.

Wish me luck.

GL man. How'd you make out? For me it seemed like dosing a couple of hours before was good enough. I definitely felt the effects of the Cialis 36+ hours past my dose. I'm not sure if Viagra is similar as I've never taken it.

 

[LifeGivingSword]

I too have been experimenting with dosage/timing/meals with Cialis. So far, the best results I had were taking 10mg of Cialis 2 to 3 hours before I had sex. I took that Cialis right before eating a medium sized meal.

I just wasted a Cialis tonight. The girl turned out to be a virgin and her mom called her home while I was just about to take off her skirt.

I too notice the effects well into the 36 hour range.

 

[leadbelly]

All in all my date on tuesday was a total success. I spent the night and I think we had sex 2 times and a blowjob or two. This was the first time with this girl, we'd only kissed before.

I had taken 5mg of Cialis at 2:40 in the afternoon and then took 5mg Cialis + 1000mg Yohimbe about 90-120 minutes before arriving at her place. I definitely had some anxiety but not too bad. Before I headed out I had a little talk with myself and basically told myself to accept whatever happens. If my dick didn't get hard I wasn't gonna obsess over it.

We ended up watching a movie for about 90 minutes so by the time we got naked plenty of time had passed since ingesting the pills. I could feel my guy getting hard while we were making out but not a 10.0 hard-on. We got naked and I was about 7.0 hard. Like good but not hard enough to comfortably put on a condom and know that it would stay hard in the process.

She went down on me and I thought it was hard enough to put a condom on but during the time it took to get a condom out of my jeans and put it on I could feel that it was going down while I was trying to penetrate. This was the only negative of the night. I just made some joke about 'jumping the gun' and she went back to oral and I got hard again and had an orgasm. It was a kinda hard to orgasm partly because of nerves and because I was having trouble feeling what was goin on, but once we both got that first orgasm out of the way I was more relaxed.

We laid around naked for awhile and talked about whatever. Then started getting back into it. This time I got hard enough to have sex, though if I recall there was still a little bit of softness when I penetrated but once I started thrusting it got harder and we had a long sex session. Then we went to sleep. Then had sex again in the night and it was even better that time. No issues.

I got 2 sample packs of once-a-day Cialis so 14 pills total, so I took one yesterday, and another today. I'm trying the once-a-day thing and definitely notice more blood flow to my penis throughout the day. I get random semi-hardons and it's easy to get blood flow when I just think about something hot.

I'm seeing this girl again tonight so I'm gonna take a 2nd 5mg pill before we meet up and I'm gonna take one Stamina Rx pill. We'll see how that goes. So far so good.

Better living thru science!

 

[code_junkie]

Gratz man! Thatta boy! :thumb:

 

[leadbelly]

Quick update. (not trying to hijack your thread)

For sleepover #2 I went with 5mg cialis earlier in the day, then 5mg Cialis about 3-4 hours before sex and 1.5 Stamina Rx pills (yohimbe/sex herb combo pill)

This combo plus having some success under my belt equalled a massive erection that basically required nothing more than naked kissing to arrive. Booyah. Ended up having sex 3x throughout the night. Lovin' these pills.

 

[code_junkie]

Sweet!

I think that you'll find yourself building more comfort and confidence each time you have a good night in the sack. I recommend that you try not to develop a dependency on supplements/drugs though. Instead, gradually trim your doses until you don't need them at all. Try to find the root causes of your ED and eliminate them via whatever means possible. You might even be surprised to see that you don't need supplements or tadalfil at all already!

As I mentioned somewhere in this thread, Cialis tablets aren't scored or anything and thus are tough to split into measurable doses. I used a digital scale.

 

[leadbelly]

Yeah for sure. I'm gonna start phasing out the meds after a few more lays. Already felt a huge reduction in anxiety from sleepover #1 to sleepover #2.

Another thing I'm slowly getting better at is accepting that the reason we have foreplay is to get aroused. I'm now ok with whipping it out even if it's not hard and thinking, "yeah this is all good, it'll get hard," whereas before I'd think, "ok I should have a hard-on by now, we've been kissing for a minute."

 

[needhelp]

Very informative thread. Im definitely about to try this. Here is my problem:

About 6-7 months ago I tried having sex with this girl a few times and couldnt for different reasons(was a virgin btw). Im sure anxiety was a factor, along with too much porn/masturbation, plus I was drunk a couple times. Anyways one time we tried sober and I lost my erection like 30 seconds in, and couldnt get it back up afterwards. That is when I found this site and learned that too much porn can be terrible for your sex life. So from that point forward I tried to stop. I only caved in like 4 different times but overall I did a pretty good job of quitting. Anyways me and this same girl tried a few more times after we had been drinking and I could never really get/maintain an erection but I just blamed it on the alcohol.

Fast forward to last weekend. It had been like a month and a half since the last time I watched porn or masturbated. I figured eventually I would be so horny that when the time came I'd be ready to go drunk or not. Well last weekend I went to a friends house for July 4th weekend and there was this new girl there that I just met and was talking to and stuff. Well I had been drinking a mixture of beer and bourbon since about 3 or 4 in the afternoon and me and this new girl went to have sex about 3 or 4 AM. My mindset going in was that I doubt I could get it up but I sure as hell was gonna try. Well this girl gets my junk rock hard and we have sex for a little while(had been drinking for 12 hours so Im not sure exactly how long), but eventually I lost my erection and instead of getting it back for me she went to bed to make me want more the next night. Well the next night the same thing happened(drinking 12 hours or so, have sex about 4 AM) but I didnt cum this time either. In my defense I drank a lot more liquor the second day than the first but we still had sex for a solid 10 mins or so(again, drunk so not sure on time). Anyways I thought I was finally over my problem and figured it was just the porn and since I had stopped for good I thought I was good to go.

Well me and the girl I met over the weekend went to have sex Tuesday(sober this time). I lost my erection like a minute in, she gave me oral and I came like 30 seconds later. We went to have sex again yesterday and things went terrible. I got like a semi hard on when we were making out but when it came down to it I couldnt get it up for nothing. I had a naked girl straddling me and was soft as can be. Very frustrating, but I was tired though and that couldve been why. Anyways she wanted to have sex again when we woke up this morning. Her grinding her ass up on me couldnt get me hard and I couldnt get myself hard when I was fingering her.

I feel like when Im drinking, its actually easier for me because I dont think as much, but when Im sober my mind is racing a hundred miles an hour and creates a devastating snowball effect. Another thing is I like this girl a lot and I know shes pretty experienced so I kinda feel like I need to impress, which I know is not a good thing. It just makes no sense that I can drink for 12 hours and be fine but when Im sober its pathetic. So I guess my question is what do you guys think I should do, and if it is the Cialis route(which Im leaning towards right now), how do I go about acquiring said Cialis? TIA and sorry for long post.

 

[code_junkie]

@needhelp:

It seems like either state you're in (being drunk or sober) has its disadvantages.

When you're drinking excessively, especially for 12 hours at a time, almost anyone's dick is going to be physically debilitated. I know mine would be. On the other hand, if you're not drunk, you're mentally debilitated in the sense that you're experiencing severe performance anxiety, which can be just as bad, if not worse.

I can completely understand your performance anxiety as the issues I've discussed within this thread pertain to my current girlfriend, who has a lot more experience than I do. All of the girls I've slept and fooled around with before her had less experience than I did. Most were actually virgins. When I had ED issues the first time having sex with my current girlfriend, I was surprised and confused as I'd never experienced this type of problem before. The only difference between her and the other girls I've been with was their levels of experience relative to mine.

It's a cold hard fact, but I'm going to be straight with you. Repeated failures in bed are probably only going to hurt your confidence and have a snowballing effect. So it's time to take action. You have options.

Most importantly, it's great if this girl is understanding. If this is the case the first thing you need to do is talk to her about it. Just discussing it with her will relieve so much tension and it'll let her know that it's not her fault.

Secondly, as hard as it may seem, you need to not give so much of a fuck about getting her off. Having sex is about both people getting pleasure from the experience. You're worried way too much about her getting off and not enough about yourself getting off. During foreplay and sex, take the time to stop and smell the flowers. Admire her. Feel her skin. Enjoy the way she smells. Sex is a multi-sensory experience. Use ALL of your senses. Tell your brain to shut the fuck up and just enjoy it for what it is.

This is where my recommendation might be debatable amongst other guys here at the gym, but I highly recommend drugs like Cialis for pretty much any kind of ED, especially yours as your difficulties are so similar to what mine were. I can almost guarantee you if you take 10mg of Cialis and go into the sex optimistically, you'll come out feeling like a stud.

Now the best and smartest way to get Cialis is by going to your doctor and having a full checkup done. If your doctor is cool, he'll write you an RX on the spot. The unfortunate part is that, with some doctors, this can take a long fucking time. You'll have to wait for the appointment to come up. You may have to schedule a referral to a urologist and wait for THAT appointment only to be told there's nothing physically wrong with you. That being said, I chose to go the route of seeing a psychologist since I discussed my issues with my girlfriend and I knew she was going to be patient with me.

If your situation is more time-sensitive though, you can order Taldafil (generic Cialis) from some overseas company. Personally, this is how I'm going to get my Taldalfil in the future since it's so expensive getting it the legitimate way. Just know that everyone and their mother here on the forum will advise against this-- and for good reason. You might get your credit card ripped off. You might get some crazy poisonous/carcinogenic material in your pills instead of Taldafil. You'll never know what you're getting. However, there are a couple of reputable websites that I know of. I can't post the URLs in this thread, so PM me if you want the site.

Hope this helps. GL and keep us posted.

 

[needhelp]

Yea I feel like this is all I need. Just one good time and Ill be good to go.

And Im not so much worried about impressing her as its just another thing that snowballs in my brain when my penis doesnt work like it should. I pretty much tell myself this girl is used to having good sex and not only am I not giving her good sex, Im not able to give her hardly anything, and this just makes me feel worse.

But on the bright side she is a cool, understanding girl and seems like she likes me a good bit so everything will be fine as long as I can get things worked out soon.

 

[leadbelly]

@needhelp

Hey man, just chiming in with my thoughts on your situation;

I agree that when I read your post I thought, "ok, this guy needs to lay off the booze." We're kind of social conditioned to think that getting a little drunk makes sex easier but I think for guys who have ED stuff come up it actually makes it harder to have sex. Again that's just been my experience.

If I were you I would try a totally different approach. Get your hands on some Cialis or Viagra. For a quick fix ask your doctor for some samples. I know this may take some balls but I've done it and it's not big deal, the doctor won't even remember it by the time he has dinner that night and you'll get what you want. Serious erections.

Don't drink any booze when you see this girl. It makes the pills less effective. Also take them on an empty stomach and then have a piece of bread 30-45 minutes later. Time it so that the pill has been in your system for 90 minutes by the time you anticipate sex. If sex doesn't happen until 120 or 200 minutes later you'll still be fine. Don't worry about that just make sure you're body has had time to absorb them.

As you can see in my early reply on my own situation I've found that adding 1-2 Stamina Rx pills to the mix makes the erections even better.

Try that out and let us know how it goes.

 

[leadbelly]

Also, you'll probably want to try out these pills alone on a night before you see her so that you can see how your body reacts to them. If you try Stamina Rx, go with one pill first because they contain Yohimbe and some people react weird to it. I haven't noticed much more than some facial flush and increased heart rate.

 

[needhelp]

@needhelp

Hey man, just chiming in with my thoughts on your situation;

I agree that when I read your post I thought, "ok, this guy needs to lay off the booze." We're kind of social conditioned to think that getting a little drunk makes sex easier but I think for guys who have ED stuff come up it actually makes it harder to have sex. Again that's just been my experience.

Yea every time I tried to have drunk sex before things never really got going. In this instance I wasnt really trying to get drunk to relieve any anxiety or anything, it was 4th of July weekend and I was just drinking to have a good time. The sex thing just kinda happened. I hadnt been able to have sex before when I was drunk and didnt think I would this time either but somehow it happened 2 nights in a row.

 

[needhelp]

Going to the doctor tomorrow, hopefully she'll give me some samples or write me a prescription, she better.

 

[Slip]

The hard part is telling your brain that you don't need it. It is a very powerful addicting drug psycologically.

Yep, that is what happened to me. I did have a real ED problem from taking AD. So I started taking Viagra. At first it worked great, but over time it wasn't as effective. I would not have sex unless I took one. I got depended on them thinking that I needed them to get an erection. Well a few months ago they just stopped working. I found this site a few days ago, and saw the Erection Tea topic. I made some tea yesterday, and low and behold I had a erection without taking the big V. I am guessing my body built up a tolerance for them.

 

[needhelp]

Hell yea got my samples! Ill let everyone know things go.

 

[code_junkie]

Hell yea got my samples! Ill let everyone know things go.

:thumb:

 

[divadams]

I've been having on-and-off problems with ED for the past year. The initial cause tends to either be fatigue and lack of libedo (my girlfriend has a high sex drive, which I'm not going to complain about in the least), or related to taking over-the-counter meds with pseudoephedrine for my allergies. I can be horny as hell, but one Zyrtec-D and I can't get hard for the life of me. Anyway, after an intitial failure, I'll go into a downward spiral of performance anxiety which lasts until my mindset changes, and I have a good experience which builds the confidence I need to get out of it.

My girlfriend is away for a few weeks, so I've been taking the time to experiment with ED meds. I discussed with my doctor, and he initially gave me a sample of Staxyn (an oral disintegrating version of levitra). I split the 10mg tablet in two as a test, and it definitely had an effect - stronger erections for a good 24 hours, but unfortunately it gave me an awful headache. I couldn't imagine wanting to have sex while feeling like that. So I asked for a prescription for cialis for daily use (figuring I probably don't need a high dose), took the first 2.5 mg tablet last night, and it worked pretty well. Good, if not rock-solid, erections all night long and very little stimulation, mental or physcical, required to get one. And the side effects are much more tolerable... bit of nasal congestion and muscle aches.

Besides the drugs, I've also changed my exercise routine, trying to get a good half hour of cardio at least three times a week. And my diet. I'm taking in lots of veggies (brocolli) and healthy fats (olive oil), and snacking on nuts. My nighttime snack of walnuts definitely helps... they're loaded with l-arginine and seem to improve my morning wood. Also supplementing with ZMAs before bed.

Anyway, I'm feeling pretty good about all this, and my hope is that I won't need much more than a low-dose cialis once in a while. It does wonders for my confidence knowing I have it if I need it.