tired of being insecure

[helicase]

I was kinda nervous about joining a site like this but figure it might help since i can be open and anonymous.

My story is this. Ive slept with three girls one being my current gf. My measurements are roughly 7.5 length by 6 girth.

Anyway ive never thought i was real small or real big until my last gf. She was obssessed with size and always talked about it. One day she decided to tell me about some guy she had hooked up with who was huge and it bugged me. Then to comfort me since he was white she said so what any black guy is that way. race is not an issue with me just that she said that kinda stung even though shed never seen one in person. A few other times shed talk about huge guys and it made me insecure to the point i couldnt have sex anymore and if i tried i couldnt get it up.

My current gf is the first girl ive tried to have sex with since then and she has made several subtle comments about large dicks but nothing too bad. Just recently she decided to tell me though about another ex who was huge apparently.

So now after just barely starting to get over my insecurites and unable to perform. The worst thing is as soon as my pants go back on i have a raging hard on. I wanna get past all this and was hoping this site will help. Mainly im looking to focus on length and i started jp 90 day thing today.

thanks

If one could kill a person and steal his penis, you would be on my hit list. I can't believe people are whining with 7.5x6 measurements. Dude if I had that I would walk around with a smile 24x7, and never need cheering up.

 

[amiok]

If one could kill a person and steal his penis, you would be on my hit list. I can't believe people are whining with 7.5x6 measurements. Dude if I had that I would walk around with a smile 24x7, and never need cheering up.

100% agree

 

[Nino Brown]

Dude I am 5" bpel , And I never use to give two shits what a girl thought of my size. I actaully had girls coming back for 2nds. Maybe my confidence or maybe what they say is true its all about the motion of the boat. Until lately I met this girl who I actually like and she is a size queen and she talks about her ex's and how she wants a guy with a big dick. Because of that I have not even done nothing with her yet. She is like your ex girlfriends she always use to talk about her ex and their big dicks and how she will only date a guy with a big dick. The more I chilled with this girl the more insecure I became. Which led me to this website. This girl brought the worst out of me I feel I am not good enough for no one. Than one day I was like fuck this bitch, I was enjoying my life when I had the "I don't give a fuck attitude" and actually slaying girls and those same girls would come back for more and I am only 5". I got rid of this girl because she only brought only bad on me , but something came good out of it, that I found this website. By the way that girl was really insecure you could tell by the way she talked and stuff she said. But you have no idea I would kill for a 7.5 x 6. Your blessed dude and you should be happy. I would be walking around naked if had your measurements. This girl liked me though I could tell , but I couldn't be with a girl that brought so much negativity out of me. Don't worry I will give her a call when I reach 7.5 x 6

 

[dstern22]

I find it amazing, how just about everyones girlfriend on this site has an ex with a huge dong.

According to any study, huge dicks (anything above 8x6) are very very rare. So three possibilities spring to mind... 1) These girls don't know size. 2) A large number of them are liars. 3) The stats we know are false.

Unless she's slept with a lot of men, the chances of her having seen a bigger one than yours are fairly slim.... If the stats are true of course.

I know right? It seems like everyone's ex's are 9 or 10 inches. But if you really ASK them "did you measure?" the answer will be "no". And as I've said if they DID measure, they probably did it along the side, and if it was slightly over 8 it would be considered 9. I guess it's possible that all the stats are off, but I highly doubt it. Memory fades, dicks looks different on different sized guys... I'm about 7.5 x 6.25 or so and I feel like I'm pretty big. (dosen't mean I don't want to get bigger) but in no way should you feel insecure about that size.

 

[darinsixpack]

Dude I am 5" bpel , And I never use to give two shits what a girl thought of my size. I actaully had girls coming back for 2nds. Maybe my confidence or maybe what they say is true its all about the motion of the boat. Until lately I met this girl who I actually like and she is a size queen and she talks about her ex's and how she wants a guy with a big dick. Because of that I have not even done nothing with her yet. She is like your ex girlfriends she always use to talk about her ex and their big dicks and how she will only date a guy with a big dick. The more I chilled with this girl the more insecure I became. Which led me to this website. This girl brought the worst out of me I feel I am not good enough for no one. Than one day I was like fuck this bitch, I was enjoying my life when I had the "I don't give a fuck attitude" and actually slaying girls and those same girls would come back for more and I am only 5". I got rid of this girl because she only brought only bad on me , but something came good out of it, that I found this website. By the way that girl was really insecure you could tell by the way she talked and stuff she said. But you have no idea I would kill for a 7.5 x 6. Your blessed dude and you should be happy. I would be walking around naked if had your measurements. This girl liked me though I could tell , but I couldn't be with a girl that brought so much negativity out of me. Don't worry I will give her a call when I reach 7.5 x 6

You ramble a bit here, but I sincerely like your attitude here. Fuck it, just take it out and make it happen. and yeah it does have a lot to do with technique over size. I hear it time and time again. Don't worry about the occasional size queen. Women can prefer a bigger size and because they are often huge down there themselves, it's all good. I think everyone should have their own preference. It's when they cross the line and put down others because THEY NEED A BIG COCK.....that's when I'll fire back. And you're right. A lot of times women (or men for that matter) who run around putting others down and very insecure inside.

 

[surv376]

Pretty much every girl out there has been with someone 'huge', bro. Girls these days really get around a lot and take their sexual liberation seriously. I don't necessarily blame them, but at the same time it puts me off marriage until at least I'm much older (still in my early 20s).

If it's any consolation, my ex gf cheated on her new boyfriend with me a couple times and he was apparently hung as sh*t but could rarely ever get off with him, meanwhile I am only slightly above average. Girls like big dicks, no lie, but it doesn't mean you can't be a sex god with an average member. Not that I am claiming I'm a sex god...Not quite there yet lol

 

[PEnoob]

I can't take any more posts from guys that have a 7 plus inch dick and feel inadequate.
I just can't fucking take it anymore!!!

This is from all of us that don't have a 7 plus inch dick. :fuck:

I feel much better now. That was therapeutic.

 

[Pegasus]

Girls (a) don't know size for s##t and (b) lie about it. It's very simple guys.

 

[Nino Brown]

You ramble a bit here, but I sincerely like your attitude here. Fuck it, just take it out and make it happen. and yeah it does have a lot to do with technique over size. I hear it time and time again. Don't worry about the occasional size queen. Women can prefer a bigger size and because they are often huge down there themselves, it's all good. I think everyone should have their own preference. It's when they cross the line and put down others because THEY NEED A BIG COCK.....that's when I'll fire back. And you're right. A lot of times women (or men for that matter) who run around putting others down and very insecure inside.

My bad I know I went kinda off topic. I was just trying to say that the dude has a 7+(which is huge) and I got a 5 but attitude can make a big difference. I totally agree with you.

I can't take any more posts from guys that have a 7 plus inch dick and feel inadequate.
I just can't fucking take it anymore!!!

This is from all of us that don't have a 7 plus inch dick. :fuck:

I feel much better now. That was therapeutic.

Man I was thinking the same exact thing, These dudes got a 7+ and are complaining. I would love to have a 7inch dick lol.

 

[ColtAR-15]

Insecure

Insecure

Insecure. You got to be f***ing kidding me. 7.5 X 6!
Try a 5" meg then you will know insecure.

 

[surv376]

Insecure. You got to be f***ing kidding me. 7.5 X 6!
Try a 5" meg then you will know insecure.

Honestly, 5" for girth isn't that bad. The average is around like 4.7" isn't it?

 

[Messerschmidt]

Insecure. You got to be f***ing kidding me. 7.5 X 6!
Try a 5" meg then you will know insecure.

So long as there are women out there that feed off a man's insecurities as a means of control, it doesn't matter what you've got. So long as they can say they've had bigger and liked it better, there is always room for insecurity.

 

[amiok]

Honestly, 5" for girth isn't that bad. The average is around like 4.7" isn't it?

Yea, you are correct

 

[Miamihurricane]

I wish I had a 7.5 penis, your lucky. I'm at 5.5 and trying to get to 7.

 

[ColtAR-15]

Honestly, 5" for girth isn't that bad. The average is around like 4.7" isn't it?

The key word here is "that bad". No offense if your this size or less. I feel we are in the same boat. Too bad most women will always prefer more than this. I think "average" eg if you believe the averages is 4.9".

 

[cantthin]

cantthin, (to respond to a 2 month old post) it really does sound like she's playing mind games with you if she's still doing it.

My honest advice is either dump her ass and find a girl when she pulls down your pants breaks out in a huge grin and whispers in your ear "You're HUGE!" (As an unknown stranger on the internet, I vote this option - you will have a stronger emotional connection with someone you have a stronger sexual connection with); OR be completely honest and say "This is a REALLY sensitive topic for most guys, me included. I know I'm not SMALL by any stretch of the imagination, so please, don't make it seem like I am." I used a wording almost exactly like this when my ex talked about the guys she slept with and how big they were, and it put an end to it then and there. For a third option, ask if they have a picture with the cloth measuring tape next to the goods. The chances are is that she won't be able to back up her claim - don't accept that "He HAD to be 9 inches" (you have it right - chances are she's making that up and that he was probably about the same size or smaller than you), only accept it if you believe her (LOOK HER IN THE EYES. Eye contact is one of the greatest gauges of bullshit) when she says "I measured him." And if she did, great for her! It's awesome that she had that obviously pleasurable experience, but remind her it's the past. If after all that, she STILL gives you attitude, it's a worthwhile question to ask "Why aren't you still fucking him if you liked it so much?" (if you don't already know the answer.)

Talking about sex is difficult with your partner, but it's one of the most important conversations you will have during the course of the relationship. If she's unwilling to engage in constructive dialogue about it, see option #1 and find a girl who will because they're out there, in spades.

On a final note, regarding insecurities: We all have them. I was a sexual abuse victim, and as such, I had HUGE insecurities regarding my sexual inclinations, who I was as a lover (size is a portion of this equation), and what I really wanted from my sex life. When I realized that everyone is insecure, ESPECIALLY ABOUT SEX, it made me feel better about myself in relation to other people.

I hope that helps, and keep us posted on your gains : )

wow i expected maybe one response and i come back to 2 more pages.

I know what youre all saying' really. I i told her exactly that. The girl im with now never cam out and said she wished it was bigger or anything' she even said i was large...but then added not the largest. She also once said shed seen the smallest and biggest dicks in the world. It cut way more deeply because my last ex DID come out and say it was small and this is the first girl ive had the nerve to get naked in front of since then.

When i imagine what it would be like to measure an 8.5 or 9 though i cant wait. My confidence would soar.

And as far as i should leave her, in every other area our relationship is amazing...but i am realizing how much of an impact a bad sex life can have.

 

[mistydawn]

I have not doubt that women probably do purposefully say such things. I don't get how bringing down your man does anything for you. It isn't healthy for a relationship. I have learned from this board to avoid talks about cocks. In my past, if a guy brought up cocks I casually answered. I did not know the seriousness. Fortunately, only a couple of guys brought up the topic. Now I know to avoid it.

I had a BF with a VERY small penis and he was my best sex. He held the title for 15 years. Since the best sex I had was with him, I never paid attention to the size. I saw size didn't make good sex.

 

[Hanma]

Does EVERY other girl says manipulative, inconsiderate sh*t like this nowadays? I swear there's a lot of posts regarding that on this website, and it's starting to bug me quite a bit - and I don't even have a girlfriend.

Hey OP, if you mention your ex's big tits or whatever, and if she gets made at you for being a jerk and does not see any similarities between your comment and her's, you shouldn't waste your time with someone dumb.
Grumble, ramble, rubble ...

Gonna quote a post of mine:

D:
(from an insecure / paranoid man's perspective)
Maybe he was a jackass. Maybe he just wasn't nice.
Maybe ... it hurt her too much?
What if she's seeing "bigger" dudes behind my back!

And it goes on and on ...

Now, look at the pic below:

Don't worry about size ... Think about what lies inside you. Something bigger, charming, maybe even enchanting, that just needs to be shown, but give it time ... don't be so quick to judge.
Others may flaunt, yet even THEY may not be aware of their own shortcomings. It's only for show.

Lovers will remember the person, what made that person so amazing came from within - genuine love, confidence, the wits, who knows? Work on that if you have to. I never said it would be easy, but it would be worth it. Same for PE.

p.s:Billions of years of evolution, which spawned humans that had to survive with beasts and uncertainty for hundreds and thousands of years; just so we could feel bad about the way we look today? (thanks to media and society) ... fuck that.

 

[JonasKay]

Does EVERY other girl says manipulative, inconsiderate sh*t like this nowadays? I swear there's a lot of posts regarding that on this website, and it's starting to bug me quite a bit - and I don't even have a girlfriend.

Hey OP, if you mention your ex's big tits or whatever, and if she gets made at you for being a jerk and does not see any similarities between your comment and her's, you shouldn't waste your time with someone dumb.
Grumble, ramble, rubble ...

Gonna quote a post of mine:

Brilliant pic and post! It's all relative, i guess.

 

[Hanma]

Correct me if I'm wrong here, but isn't sex a narrow alley? There's only so much you can do for a period of time, right?