Abuse is not always doing something against someones will. Abuse can be mental. Abuse can be verbal. Abuse can be taking advantage and exploiting someones weakness. Taking a womans desire to please a man and using it to his advantage. He was physically causing them pain and you might call that abuse. Humiliating and degrading a person is considered abuse (when the US humiliated prisoners in Iraq the world called it "torture"). Denying emotional responses to another is deeply abusive. I did not say he raped them, that would mean against their will. He did know he was causing them pain. Causing someone physical pain is something you can get in trouble for, you cannot for mental and emotional. So, I see the physical pain he put on the women as physical abuse. I do view abuse of any sort as disgusting be it mental, emotional or physical. I will not apologize for abuse. I will not make less of it. I will not change words to make it sound like it isn't so bad (PC).
Getting a nice 8"x6" but loosing anal sex chance?
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Abuse is not always doing something against someones will. Abuse can be mental. Abuse can be verbal. Abuse can be taking advantage and exploiting someones weakness. Taking a womans desire to please a man and using it to his advantage. He was physically causing them pain and you might call that abuse. Humiliating and degrading a person is considered abuse (when the US humiliated prisoners in Iraq the world called it "torture"). Denying emotional responses to another is deeply abusive. I did not say he raped them, that would mean against their will. He did know he was causing them pain. Causing someone physical pain is something you can get in trouble for, you cannot for mental and emotional. So, I see the physical pain he put on the women as physical abuse. I do view abuse of any sort as disgusting be it mental, emotional or physical. I will not apologize for abuse. I will not make less of it. I will not change words to make it sound like it isn't so bad (PC).
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This is the OP. Where is "abuse" anywhere in that post? Viking simply said it was painful; there is no indication he was abusing them here. A lot of assumptions are being made here - dangerous assumptions. Let's not take this someplace it wasn't intended.
Ernie...He didn't come out and say he abused anyone. He knowingly caused physical pain which is abuse. I even acknowledged that he didn't rape them. Now that would be "dangerous assumptions".
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Where did he display intent to do them harm? All he said was that it was painful for them. That whole sex act could've lasted a minute or so, they said it hurt and then they stopped and went to something else. There's nothing that relays that he continued against any objections. You are reading something that frankly isn't there. And THAT is the dangerous assumption.
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Where do keep seeing abuse? Huh??? If my gf and I try some bondage stuff and she gets hurt (or I get hurt for that matter), all of a sudden it's abuse?!? Come on - let's get real here. NOTHING in the OP indicates abuse. He simply said it was painful for them. Simple.
Now to your point, I never stated abuse only takes when there is an objection - I totally agree with your statement as there are all different forms of abuse. But in THIS case, you can't place that label here.
Now to your point, I never stated abuse only takes when there is an objection - I totally agree with your statement as there are all different forms of abuse. But in THIS case, you can't place that label here.
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I won't say talk about abuse anymore. I have said where I stand and I am not swayed.
As far as to how abuse got brought up was me saying it was abuse since he knew fully he was causing the women pain.
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As far as to how abuse got brought up was me saying it was abuse since he knew fully he was causing the women pain.
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Popping a girl's cherry can be painful to the girl, I hope I am not a abuser for doing that years ago.
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There is too much being read into everyone's posts here. How about we just stop talking about abuse and get back on topic?
Anal sex is NOT abuse per se. It could be under some circumstances.... but so can almost anything else if done with ill intent or without permission etc.
Let's move back to the whole point of this thread, that is that most men who like anal sex do not want to hurt their partners, they want it to be pleasurable.... hence they are concerned about size and it's implications.
Anal sex is NOT abuse per se. It could be under some circumstances.... but so can almost anything else if done with ill intent or without permission etc.
Let's move back to the whole point of this thread, that is that most men who like anal sex do not want to hurt their partners, they want it to be pleasurable.... hence they are concerned about size and it's implications.
He is only concerned about size bringing down his chance to pleasure his own cock with anal sex!!!! LOL The partners pleasure? The implications he spoke of was not getting anal sex!
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misty: as sad as i am that you missed your masturbation last night, i agree with everyone else. I have been at both the giving and receiving end and I can tell you that penetrating can also hurt but I have never felt that the receiving female or male was abusing me; the keyword here is consent. I am worried that, for some reason, you seem to have difficulty distinguishing between sex and abuse, if this happened to me I would want to talk to someone about it.
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well I missed alot by not having much time on here for a few days. I think that if you want more girth and you like anal sex you just have to decide which is going to be more important in the future. It is simple if you break it down. In one hand (or two) you can have a bigger dick. The other choice is you can have more anal sex, which do you want more. My wife has vary rarely wants anal, but in those highly erotic moments she likes it, not often but once in a great, great while she wants it. Every time we do it she says it hurts after words but while we are having anal sex(in the act) she absolutely loves it. I ask her and she says no, we dont do it but when she says yes we do. Now back to the choices. I would choose option 1, the bigger dick because I want that and I still love vaginal sex enough to live without anal sex.
Just because YOU got taken advantage of doesn't mean everyone who partakes in anal sex is being taken advantage of. Your feelings are not the basis of feelings for every other man or woman out there. It's sad that you've had some bad experiences in the past, but you can't keep forcing those experiences onto every other person saying this is how it is.
what you describe is not really an anal sex issue not even a sex issue altogther.. it is a question about your relationship with that person and some choices that you should have probably not made. Remember that there are young and impressionable males reading these forums and by trying to create such links you could create sinister connotations about sex in their minds and complicate their relationships unnecessarily.
It is porn that these people learn from. Any sinister thought are already there. I'm on the womans side. I don't like seeing them get used up. There is so much more but you are all so sure of yourselves and your handling of women. Your minds are already made up.
Men and women get used.Personally I would love a woman to use me anyway she wants but I'm a bit weird an into all that stuff. The point we should all remember is that more importantly than being male or female is that we are something far more important. We are humans which gives us by right a certain set of rights and dignity. It is up to each one of us, no matter how we have been raised, that once we become adults to realize our humanity calls us to seek out what is right,what is truth, and to stand by those rights and truths no matter what the rest of the world may feel!
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