Need advice how to start talking to this girl.

[sik_silvia]

Ok, so i met this girl yesturday while at work ( she was a customer) she was a really cute chick and we were just going on about random stuff talking for ages about nothing really. we hit it off pretty well and even made jokes about each other etc etc. Anyways i didn't ask her for her number as i believe in proffesionality at work (but i wanted to).

Even the girl i worked with saw how well we got along and was saying i should have got her number, i later found out that they actually knew each other outside work. Anyways the girl i work with texted the one im keen on saying like ohh (me) wants your number, to which She replied and sayed "sure haha he is hot"

here is where the problem is. i have no confidence issues when talking to a girl directly, i can chat flirt etc. I guess this is probably when you are in person u can physically see how the other person reacts to you, body language, tone etc. but my problem is that i do not fell confident to sparkk up a conversation over a phone call or sms.

basically my question is what should i text her to spark up a conversation again with her to ask her out on a date. once im there on a date im superman, its the groundwork before that i struggle with.

 

[psychedelic_behavior]

Haha dude you can't be serious. You've done the hard yards here. Just don't be dumb and you're fine.

Texting "hey how's it going" is a safe easy start. Then when she replys with the obvious going good blah blah. You text her back concurring that you were listening to what she had to say. Something like "oh really awesome, i'm glad you're going good" not those exact words as they're pretty lame but you'll come up with something similar to that and you'll be sweet: ). And then ask her what her plans are for possible times when you could hang out with her, "what are you up to for the rest of this week?." See when she's available to hang out, try and organize the hang out as soon as possible so you don't have to rely on texting to keep her interested in you.

It's really dead easy man. Just say what you would say in real life. Don't over think sending the text message or it will come out like you are trying too hard the more you think about it. You've got her phone number. You know what to say to her. She's in to you. Congrats: )

 

[theking]

Agree with the poster above.

If you still dont feel confident enough, then a better way would be to take help from this common friend. Maybe get game tickets (Basketball, NHL does wonders with girls) and invite both of them. Will help for you guys to break ice. After the game you can go with your girl for dinner/lunch (just ask your friend to make some excuse and exit. You can preplan this).

This wont show you as a chicken and most girls do not mind helping guys, so this friend of yours wont either.

theKing

 

[MrBigDick]

Start with a simple "Hi, how are you? This is (insert your name here)" I do that all the time with new women that I'm going out with. Works all the time.

 

[phil88]

Hey How are you. What are you doing (insert night)? Would you like to (insert plan)?

Girls like confidence so get to the point. She gave you the number so she is waiting for you to ask her out. Remember when in doubt just say fuck it and go for gold. Girls appreciate a guy willing to try, even if he makes an ass of himself(actually making an ass of yourself in a certain way is an awesome way to get laid). Just be genuine, remember she already likes you, so your free to just be you. Looking for some extra help? Do not masturbate for at least 24 hours before the next time you talk to her. The pent up horniness will overpower any verbal reservations you may of had.

 

[Ongekibou]

Confidence, ego bordering on arrogance, and funny. She's already shown she's interested in you, so as long as you're not a completely boring, negative or timid sadsack, you'll no doubt get a bit of over-the-shirt boob action. At this point, you don't even have to try very hard. You can make her chase you.

Heck, as long as you say it with a smile and confidence, you can get away with saying mostly anything. Demeanour is more important. Also, avoid compliments about her looks, it makes you look shallow.

Then, if she asks why you didn't ask her directly, just say "I believe in keeping up a professional atmosphere at work." It's that simple. You could even prelude it with "I chickened out, haha", though make it clear your joking about that it, such as shaking your head afterwards, and following with "I believe...").

Simple.

 

[TTBB]

I personally would say don't text.. call her.
Texting is impersonal and you can't get a clear read on the persons response ..the two of you have chemistry when you talk you have established that while you were at work...so talking works for you .. its ok if you are nervous are fumble on words or get awkward, girls find that flattering
When i like someone i fumble on words and get awkward in the first exchanges.. it has never put any guy off me.. and i have never died from embarrassment..

 

[phil88]

I personally would say don't text.. call her.
Texting is impersonal and you can't get a clear read on the persons response ..the two of you have chemistry when you talk you have established that while you were at work...so talking works for you .. its ok if you are nervous are fumble on words or get awkward, girls find that flattering
When i like someone i fumble on words and get awkward in the first exchanges.. it has never put any guy off me.. and i have never died from embarrassment..

this.
i hate making phone calls. I mean guys from the previous generation deserve serious props for making the phone call work without texting at all. but the few times I have had to phone instead of text it has worked really well.

 

[aidan784]

Agreed Phil, wish I was better with it too.

Texting and technology in general has sort of spoilt some things in that respect I feel, if only for the miscommunication that happens through text. For me, sarcasm doesn't always come through too well.

 

[NP97]

Agreed Phil, wish I was better with it too.

Texting and technology in general has sort of spoilt some things in that respect I feel, if only for the miscommunication that happens through text. For me, sarcasm doesn't always come through too well.

All too true.

 

[phil88]

lmao I know exactly what you mean, id be rich if i had a nickel for every time i had to text a girl, "sorry i dont mean that the way it reads" lol