Angry!

[TTBB]

INTP
NO i don’t.. i suggest you go through and read my post more carefully or ask around, I do not always side with the woman often what I write I am not taking sides..
i will explain the female side of things..i also will explain the male side of things .. I basically explain emotion and reaction as I see it .. and i do not always side with the female.. i have not said that she has not had a part in the situation but I have focused on her side of things in my post as far as what she is going through and what she might be feeling towards Brian….I am just not bitter or jaded like you so I don’t write people off or view them as evil as quick as say you will… Don’t dis me because I am reasonable.
I have no issue in saying when a girl is a bitch or toying with a guy and i do often tell guys they should end relationships...And no i don't just see things from the female perspective i can see things from multiple perspectives even from male point of views even though i have no penis.
My advise is to not to wait around pathetically hoping she will come back .. my advise is to not try to control the situation or force it .. if he wants her still he needs to let her go .. if she comes back then he has the power to decide whether he wants her at that point in time .. so no he does not lose power in the situation and is not pussy whipped because he might hold a little hope that things could turn around with time .. she is confused and hurting at this time .. she is not in a position to be available for a relationship with him at the moment ..whether this is final and she is moving on only she knows and only time will tell.

You are a bitter man who lets your testosterone do the thinking for you and this taints and twists how you read what I write since i am a girl… Don't hate me because others like me as person and they appreciate my presence here and Don't dis me because they might agree with the advice i give ….yes I am female, GET OVER IT!

 

[Brian98]

Nothing....i was planning on ignoring it as maby she is trying to just see if i react, maby she is testing me. Im going to try my best not to bite, she won't sleep about and she doesn't look for men when she does go out, but im not going to wait about, il be meeting a girl at a new years party, see how that goes. As for her, il send her a simple text wishing her a happy new year and all the best for 2011, show im over her and there are no hard feelings, shall see how she reacts because we both broke up with each other once before, before this actually happened. I got carried away in an argument and told her to in the morning just go home and not contact me again, she was nearly in tears and was trying to leave my house at 4 in the morning after this, i realised my stupidity, apologised and comforted her, im a very guilt prone person. Then one night both our friends had birthday partys, i went to my friends and she went to hers, so im coming home from my friends party, we went bowling(walking distance from my home) and im coming home about half 12, she phones asking me to go into town and meet up with her and her friends, go to a club. Told her it's too expensive for me to go in by myself then get a taxi home by myself, so i decline. Im in bed, she keeps phoning me, im on the phone to her friend and tell her friend i only found out it was her b-day yesterday, next thing i know my ex gf in on the phone shouting, saying im making her out a liar and finished with me there and then, i didn't react how i did here, i was like fine whatever, il see you around. In the morning she's sent me loads of texts, tried phoning me so we end up talking and i can remember her saying she was gutted that i didn't really seem to bother, i was just like fine ok then and that brought her back to me, im thinking i should have reacted like that when this happened.

And please, don't argue over different views and opinions, niether is wrong or right, it's just how you view it and there is no need to start pointing fingers saying this is wrong and starting arguments, you can't change a persons opinion on things.

 

[TTBB]

And please, don't argue over different views and opinions, neither is wrong or right, it's just how you view it and there is no need to start pointing fingers saying this is wrong and starting arguments, you can't change a persons opinion on things.

Sorry Brian .
i am arguing the point, that because i am female i am not bias with the advise and thoughts i have given you.. I am not trying to push my opinion on you .. just responding to what was directed at me

i think you are doing the right thing with what you have written in the post above..stay strong

 

[Pegasus]

Ummm ttbb, I have slightly altered a post without altering the meaning, in the interest of keeping the site mellow.

 

[Brian98]

Im not pointing the finger at you or anything, i know your trying to give me the best advice you think, thats completly fine and il listen and i appreciate it completly that your trying to help, i know im not in the right mind at the moment, im saying and considering doing things out of pain and anger and thats not the way to go. For whatever reason she unblocked me, maby so she can see my account as mines is open to everyone, not just friends. I don't know what she is thinking, i never will unless she talks to me but your completly right, her mind may be completly screwed by whats happened, i deal with death differently to other people, it's not something that ever bothers me, ive lost people quite close to me and it's really not affected my day to day life, i just get on with things and then it looks like im an inconsiderate arsehole when i don't seem to show any emotion at someone dieing, i told her straight i don't deal with people dieing well and she acknowledged it. But im not a horrible person, i just seem cold hearted when it comes to death, it just isn't something that bothers me but i need to try being more considerate that other people don't deal with things the same way i do in the future.

 

[TTBB]

Peg ..You did what you felt you needed to do .. It was a passionate get over it .. nothing less, nothing more.

 

[TTBB]

I don't think you are a horrible person Brian ..yes if you had posted the vid and the photos then i probably would.
Its good that you recognize now that people do feel and deal with death differently .. i am not good with death at all, if one of my parents died that way it would be very hard for me to emotionally cope with... people do deal with death in different ways. Sometimes the behavior people have after losing someone close to them can't be explained and it is hard for the people close to them... so give it time and see what happens ..and focus on yourself and doing things that make you happy and allow you to move forward .. life goes on and sometimes it loops back again...sometimes it doesn't but your find yourself in a better place

 

[phil88]

men shut down during death. it appears very cold. woman wanna feel. again this is because of the differnce in the membrane seperating both sides of the brain. when soemone dies, i dont wanna remember them, see anything about them. i hate funerals. to me its an attention grab, everyone trying to prove they miss the person more. and the gossip about who shows up..... i just want to get on with my life. move on and be happy. suppress, suppress, suppress, your only sad cause you dont get to see that person anymore anyways, most people are reacting to their own loss. they dont really think about the person who actually died. anyways, thats exactly what you should do. ignore it i mean. minus the happy new year text. i just went through same thing with a christmas text to a girl lol. i didnt send it i was happy i didnt. but i really wanted to. itll be better if you dont though.

 

[JonPop]

I do, however, have a distinct distaste for the horde of fawning, brown nosing applauders who extol your every utterance simply because you have mammary glands. And I am sure I am not the only one to find it cringeworthy, though I'll be the only one to say it out loud.

I was not going to respond. I thought about this all morning and felt that I HAD to say something. I have been following this thread and yes, went back and read some of your posts on other threads. You defiantly have an overall, very low opinion of women. SO:

INTP, you are a jerk. I'm calling you a jerk, because you are.

TittyTittyBangBang, is a unique human being with feelings. That you would choose to disrespect her on these boards is unacceptable.
Do you have ANY idea what special persons our female members are? That they would offer their time and advice that only a woman can give, on a forum such as this?
It's hard enough for them to fend off the flirtatious crap, both on open forum and in PM's.

That they have both the maturity and strength to participate on these boards, offering heartfelt advice, should be applauded. That you choose to snipe at TTBB, smacks of being a troll. AND you KNOW how I feel about trolls. This is your only warning.
P.S. Don't get into a pissing match with me. (jP

 

[CUSP82]

Amen to that one brother!

 

[TTBB]

I just want to let everyone know that I did not go running to the moderators or highlight this situation to anyone

The moderators stumbled across this on their own .. Evaluated the situation and responded at their own accord.
And I do appreciate the fact that they picked up on the issue and were smart enough to look into INTP previous posts.
Thank you for stepping guys

 

[CUSP82]

TTBB can handle herself pretty well don't you think? I do! The only reason she needs some of us old guys around is to prevent her from killing someone! Do I get my cookies now?????

 

[TTBB]

LOL@ do i get my cookies now?????
you are turning into the cookie monster cusp!!

 

[CUSP82]

I' ll take that as a yes! I'm not getting any from BW because I made a joke about chicken wings! Ok back on topic, what were we talking about here?

 

[Going411x7]

Poor guy! He's not gettin' any from BW. She's a tough nut to crack, Cuspie.

Yum, yum, COOOOOOOKIES!!! :caked:

 

[phil88]

not gonna lie, dude kinda scared me. i think that coulda been me if i hadnt gotten lucky and stayed in my rents basement a few more years.

 

[whammy]

There are two ways to think about this and both require you too stop being a wussy, leave her alone, and move on.

From on outsiders perspective, what more does she have to do to show you she wants you to leave her alone? Your actions, thoughts, and threatening to release sex tape show how crazy and obsessed you really are! wow, dude.

From the perspective of a man that has been dumped like this...dont waste your time. Shes not good enough to go through this... Shes shown her true colors. Those true colors involve cutting you off and hitting the club looking for dudes. isnt that enough for you to wake up, does she have to spell it out for you? The minute she broke up with you should have been your signal that her life no longer involves you. Why are you being a wussy...why havent you fucked some of her friends yet? are you kidding me with this...BE A MAN!

and on a side note. If you want her back...THE ONLY chance you have is to leave her alone. Move on, show her the kind of man you are...the kind of man that cares about HIS LIFE AND HAPPINESS...not the kind of man that obsesses over a girl that doesnt want him.