I can make the first last however long but I don't because I feel its stupid to hold back. I guess i'm lucky to have a chick that loves making me cum quick. I do however keep going after I do. So I figure if you keep going whats the point of all the damn pressure to last 30- 40min on your first round? I feel thats taking enjoyment away from the whole experience for both parties. It is natural for a guy to orgasm and our bodies didn't come with sexual time frames. In a matter of pleasing your lady you should but it should be pleasing to her that you came no matter in seconds or hours. then jump back on the boat if you can't just keep going. Personally I think the scale tipped to far for women instead of that balance that was seeming foreseen then until now. Plus I feel really sorry for those guys how do all that lasting and there women doesn't even cum or only does it one time. So for me if its about making the sex last on your first orgasm then alright. But for me sex should be more about freedom if you cum quick it should be nothing just don't be lazy and/or selfish.on a side note I couldn't imagine having less than 2 orgasms during sex unless its a quickie. Any thoughts on my little ramble?
Too much pressure on lasting longer
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It sounds like you're able to maintain an erection after orgasm. I believe there are some people, myself included, that lose their erection after orgasm, which is probably why there's so much pressure on lasting longer
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As long as everyone is getting all the pleasure they need, nothing else really matters.
I work both on my endurance (so I can last longer) and my control (so I can cum faster) simply to give us more options to enjoy sex.
I work both on my endurance (so I can last longer) and my control (so I can cum faster) simply to give us more options to enjoy sex.
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Woman do not expect to have a cock ramming in and out of them for 30+ minutes.. they expect the whole experience to last about that long.. guys generally come on average between 2-8 minutes... when you think of a first kiss with someone new it can seem like it lasted an hour but the reality is it was only a couple minutes, your mind is in a different time frame.. its the same thing with sex women are not laying there going two minutes, three minutes, four minutes .. they are laying there thinking oh i like how his balls slapping my ass feel.. oh fuck he is going deep..oh his breath is tickling my neck...yes yes!!
If your woman is not complaining about what you call "cumming quick" then the pressure you're placing on yourself is coming from you not your girl. It sounds like you do continue to satisfy her after you cum that first time .. that is all that matters... even if you are a quick shooter, just caressing her afterward can enrich the experience to a point where she is not feeling like it was a let down.
If your woman is not complaining about what you call "cumming quick" then the pressure you're placing on yourself is coming from you not your girl. It sounds like you do continue to satisfy her after you cum that first time .. that is all that matters... even if you are a quick shooter, just caressing her afterward can enrich the experience to a point where she is not feeling like it was a let down.
Good post in general. I have some similar thoughts about that. And the problem is that for now you only see pleasure in letting go the orgasm. You don't enjoy the road just the goal. For now my body somewhat agrees with you, but there is a way to make all your sexual activities enjoyable, for now i am not sure how but i will find a way.
In the beginning i also saw it a preasure to last longer, now i see it as a challenge because i know there is more to it. You maybe should think about it as the preassure but prolonging your satisfaction. For example i get a lot of satisfaction from the feeling i have at the first PONR and i want to make that feeling last longer. From another perspective i'm actually trying to hold back, but from my perspective i'm actually prolonging the pleasure. It is because i was trying to prolong the pleasure that i somehow managed to get a rolling orgasm which is probably the most enjoyable feeling i had in my life, only later on i read that ROs are very rare.. (I'm talking about RO over and over again, and it sound like i'm bragging but i really want to make a point, that this is something men should not miss in life.)
That pressure can be turned into enjoyment, that will make you more horny, that in return will make your girl even more horny, it is a vicious cycle
I hope that the post was somewhat helpful.
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Didn't saw the name of the subforum, but i will keep it anyway.. might help....
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Siding on with the14u, I have to say as that i have gotten older, my post coital libido has dropped significantly, therefore I want my one shot to last as long and pleasurable as possible. I am not usually ready to go for at least another hour, to possibly 2. (Boy was the back to back days nice). Based on my reading, it seems that this is the trend for most guys as they progress through life. I'm sure there will be older guys that say they can perform right after, and maybe PE can help us with that too....
There was a thread earlier about a technique to help you get "right back in the boat" by not stimulating your rim around the glans during the "O". I am with you More about diminished pleasure. Doing this diminishes my pleasure, so I am not sure its worth it. if the sex for that night was already good.
As for the time it takes, I cannot argue with TTBB, as my wife is the same. Straight humping, my wife is done after 15minutes, but that is generally not how we roll. We dont have a lot of caressing/nicety nice type foreplay, instead she likes direct stimulation, toys, oral, anal play etc, which then lead into sex, them maybe some more playing with toys/oral/fingers/hands then some more sex...Etc....I think at the end, variety is the spice of life. So yes, this will last an 1/2 hour to 1.5 hours depending on the mood. I guess porn has us fooled into thinking that straight up hard core "f"ing like those machines provide is what most woman want, and the truth is, sometimes they do, but most times its the other stuff that makes it "hot in here". That is my experience anyways, and i always try to start off with her orgasming before my dick even comes close to her pussy, just a sort of rule I have....kind of ensures that if I do come to quickly that night, she still got hers.
There was a thread earlier about a technique to help you get "right back in the boat" by not stimulating your rim around the glans during the "O". I am with you More about diminished pleasure. Doing this diminishes my pleasure, so I am not sure its worth it. if the sex for that night was already good.
As for the time it takes, I cannot argue with TTBB, as my wife is the same. Straight humping, my wife is done after 15minutes, but that is generally not how we roll. We dont have a lot of caressing/nicety nice type foreplay, instead she likes direct stimulation, toys, oral, anal play etc, which then lead into sex, them maybe some more playing with toys/oral/fingers/hands then some more sex...Etc....I think at the end, variety is the spice of life. So yes, this will last an 1/2 hour to 1.5 hours depending on the mood. I guess porn has us fooled into thinking that straight up hard core "f"ing like those machines provide is what most woman want, and the truth is, sometimes they do, but most times its the other stuff that makes it "hot in here". That is my experience anyways, and i always try to start off with her orgasming before my dick even comes close to her pussy, just a sort of rule I have....kind of ensures that if I do come to quickly that night, she still got hers.
I myself don't feel any pressure. But i do see it all over the place about premature ejaculation and/or lasting longer. Saying sh*t like a cure for premature ejaculation blahh blahh. I would kill to be able to cum in seconds! My point is expectations a up for a guy nowadays in that area. As far as a cock ramming in and out of a chick for 30+min varies I guess. Though I've yet to run into a chick that can go that longer than 20-30min straight.
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I might be strange but if a guy premature ejaculates with me or cums really fast,I take it as a compliment ...Sure, if it becomes an on going problem it would need to be addressed, but it is kind of flattering when very little effort, gets a guy over excited.
Lol...My girlfriend is like that. Its a wonder why most women aren't like that. They try make it like said guy isn't a man or something. Like I said I can hold it but I don't when i desire my girl intensely I let it lose with no time constraints and she smiles so hard..lol
Yup - my girl is like that too. She knows if I blow fast its because I'm so excited by her I can't hold back.
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Fast can be good, and so can slow -- the point is that it is best when a guy can control it, and not either cum faster than he wants to or take longer to cum than he wants to. The same is true for women.
What is most important is being able to satisfy both yourself and your partner. Is premature ejaculation a problem? Sure it is, if it cumming too fast interferes with your pleasure. The same is true of delayed ejaculation (which can also be a problem for some men). But nobody should be measuring themselves against some imaginary time scale where one has to always last a certain number of minutes in order to be good. What's important is that both partners enjoy the sex! The amount of time it takes you to cum is totally irrelevant, unless it is interfering somehow with the pleasure that you and your partner get out sexual encounters.
I am like TTBB and others here -- I interpret it as a big compliment if he cums quickly sometimes, but at the same time I want him to last long enough sometimes to make me cum hard during vaginal intercourse. If you are young enough to be able to cum more than once during a session, then that's great, you have nothing to worry about -- now. But as guys age, they tend to lose that ability, and that is when having control and stamina become more important. Both for a man's pleasure, and that of his lady.
That's where PE comes in, I think. By doing PE and edging and learning about your penis and sexual responses, you can gain both control and stamina. And then you can all be like gods in bed! More power to you!
What is most important is being able to satisfy both yourself and your partner. Is premature ejaculation a problem? Sure it is, if it cumming too fast interferes with your pleasure. The same is true of delayed ejaculation (which can also be a problem for some men). But nobody should be measuring themselves against some imaginary time scale where one has to always last a certain number of minutes in order to be good. What's important is that both partners enjoy the sex! The amount of time it takes you to cum is totally irrelevant, unless it is interfering somehow with the pleasure that you and your partner get out sexual encounters.
I am like TTBB and others here -- I interpret it as a big compliment if he cums quickly sometimes, but at the same time I want him to last long enough sometimes to make me cum hard during vaginal intercourse. If you are young enough to be able to cum more than once during a session, then that's great, you have nothing to worry about -- now. But as guys age, they tend to lose that ability, and that is when having control and stamina become more important. Both for a man's pleasure, and that of his lady.
That's where PE comes in, I think. By doing PE and edging and learning about your penis and sexual responses, you can gain both control and stamina. And then you can all be like gods in bed! More power to you!
