How to flirt and get a girl hot online

[MrBigDick]

In any man, I find NOT being dedicated to his kids (if he has children) to be a major turn-off. But does being a dedicated dad turn me on? Not in the sense of pushing my sexual buttons. Rather, it makes me admire him and want to know him better. Past that stage, any attraction would depend entirely on how compatible we were, shared interests and opinions, and most of all, on simple chemistry.

One unavoidable fact about being a single dad that influences relationships is that having children takes time and energy. If you are a dedicated dad, you probably spend a lot of time on child-centered activities (even if your kids don't live with you). You probably talk a lot about your kids and what they are doing when they are not around, and spend a lot of time with them when you can. Some women don't deal well with this competition, especially if they don't have children themselves. I remember that before my children were born, I found talk of other people's kids to be insufferably boring. But once I had children of my own, suddenly it was an interesting topic.

Anyway, if you are a single dad I suggest that you look for single moms as potential dates. You might find you have a lot in common (single parenthood if nothing else). I expect that single moms have the same problems finding suitable/interested/patient/compatible partners too. Anyway, can you sort internet dates that way? It might be worth thinking about.

Thank you Batwoman, your words are spot on. In the couple of years it's been since I initially did do the internet dating thing, I've had the opportunity to really figure out what it is I truly want. I have always tended to steer clear of unmarried women without children for the simple fact that they are typically looking for a guy to settle down with and have kids with. That ship has sailed for me. I'm looking for an accomplished, well rounded, intelligent lady who is a single mom that I can form a relationship with and hopefully a family. I'm simply looking for a single mom who's looking for the same thing I am: someone, who already has kids, doesn't want anymore kids and wants to form a relationship with me. As you pointed out and as I figured out through my dating different women, women who have children and are doing the single parent thing as I am KNOW what challenges are involved in raising kids today and that common bond can be used as a tool through which she and I can get to know each other better.

I figure I may be a single dad and while the health, safety and well being of my kids are hugely important to me, I also have my own identity and am my own person and am looking for a woman who can identify with that sentiment and believes that as well. This time though, it's different. I'd LOVE to find the right lady but I'm also ok just being me and being single and I'm very, VERY happy with who I am inside.

 

[MrBigDick]

The ball is rolling now. She and I are doing a lot of talking and flirting. I love it. Here's her latest message that she sent me, she said, "U r so fuckin hot!! i wanna come see u so bad i just need to figure out how to get away from my asshole man he is so dam controlling and watches every move i make write me back k:" How sweet is this. Thanks everyone for the great advise. She is with a major asshole guy that beats on her. I want to go kick his ass so bad. Not to sure what to do about this one.

If I were you dude, I'd stay the fuck out of this entire situation. She's got a boyfriend and while he might be a controlling piece of sh*t, she picked him. Further more, how do you know he beats on her? Did you actually see him smack her or is this just what she's telling you? She could be telling you all of this crap about the guy she is with to justify in her own mind to go off with you.

I agree with what BB wrote you, there are too many girls out there for you to be dealing with a woman who's in a supposed abusive relationship. Besides that, what's to say he finds out about you and he doesn't go directly after you to kick YOUR ass? Be very careful man. If what she says is true and he's this controlling, he'll use any means necessary to keep her because he's THAT insecure about himself, even if that means having you rubbed out.

 

[Pirate]

I agree with MrBigDick. She is either in a problem situation or is herself a problem situation, or both. Be very careful and make damn sure that you know what yo are getting into. She sounds like she maybe willing to put you at risk while looking out for herself. Is she considering your best interests?

 

[Justin56537]

Were both full of lust. i don't know what to say. I understand what everyones sayin and the relationship is purely sexual. We are good friends from the past that always wanted to have sex but never did. Ya, I'm not feeling to great about the controlling boyfriend either. She says she plans on leaving him and moving back to town. Bla Bla Bla I know. And ya I haven't seen the bruses. I'm gonna sit back on this one and let her make the moves. I don't feel very confortable about this endeavor. Thanks for the advise. I'm gonna be extra cautious now.

 

[Batwoman]

Were both full of lust. i don't know what to say. I understand what everyones sayin and the relationship is purely sexual. We are good friends from the past that always wanted to have sex but never did. Ya, I'm not feeling to great about the controlling boyfriend either. She says she plans on leaving him and moving back to town. Bla Bla Bla I know. And ya I haven't seen the bruses. I'm gonna sit back on this one and let her make the moves. I don't feel very confortable about this endeavor. Thanks for the advise. I'm gonna be extra cautious now.

Good luck and be careful, Justin.

 

[Batwoman]

I figure I may be a single dad and while the health, safety and well being of my kids are hugely important to me, I also have my own identity and am my own person and am looking for a woman who can identify with that sentiment and believes that as well. This time though, it's different. I'd LOVE to find the right lady but I'm also ok just being me and being single and I'm very, VERY happy with who I am inside.

I think your head is in a good place, MrBigDick. Good luck and don't let go of your priorities, they are the right ones.

 

[MrBigDick]

Were both full of lust. i don't know what to say. I understand what everyones sayin and the relationship is purely sexual. We are good friends from the past that always wanted to have sex but never did. Ya, I'm not feeling to great about the controlling boyfriend either. She says she plans on leaving him and moving back to town. Bla Bla Bla I know. And ya I haven't seen the bruses. I'm gonna sit back on this one and let her make the moves. I don't feel very confortable about this endeavor. Thanks for the advise. I'm gonna be extra cautious now.

We're just lookin' out for you bro. I work at the local courthouse and I read some scary sh*t in the some of the papers I process for people. Boyfriends going insane and putting her in the hospital, threatening the new boyfriend..........all kinds of whacked out crap that simply isn't worth it. And if you allow her to make the moves, you make DAMN sure your info is kept totally confidential and out of HIS reach. You don't need her psycho boyfriend (if she's telling you the truth) coming after you. And if she's willing to put your safety at risk by seeing you, she isn't being much of a friend or potential partner to you at all.

 

[MrBigDick]

I think your head is in a good place, MrBigDick. Good luck and don't let go of your priorities, they are the right ones.

Thanks Batwoman. It's taken me many, MANY years to get to this point in my life. Liking who you are inside, having your self esteem firmly intact and having a healthy, positive outlook on all aspects of your life.........man, there simply isn't anything like it. It's a great, GREAT feeling.

 

[Justin56537]

Update

Update

It's looking a little worse. The last two words are scary. I hope you guys don't mind me putting my drama on here. Anyways, here's what she wrote, "my number is xxx xxx xxxx but pleasr dont call me unless i call u because my dude will beat the sh*t out of me ok i have tx but wouldnt be able to tx anyways cuz he goes through my phone i had to get a new one cuz he smashed my other one and it wasent the first time he broke my phone so if ill call u then answer but dont just call anytime cuz he keeps tabs on me and i dot wanna get beat up again ok i can call u when im at work or sumthin ok ill be callin u when im at work i work 5 to close friday nite i can call u then and the rest of the weekend i work 11 to 5 i delete all my messages so dot worry he dont even know i have facebook so dont worry ill give u a call this weekend k i wanna see u soon to just do not call me i will call u ok i dont wanna die anytime soon miss u! luv u". What do I do now. I'm thinking it's not worth it no matter how good it is. What do you think?

 

[NP97]

Well, I would suggest telling her that if she is worrying about her well-being over texting some guy, she should probably not be dating that person. Let her call you or whatever, but otherwise I would just kinda drop it.

 

[Batwoman]

It's looking a little worse. The last two words are scary. I hope you guys don't mind me putting my drama on here. Anyways, here's what she wrote, "my number is xxx xxx xxxx but pleasr dont call me unless i call u because my dude will beat the sh*t out of me ok i have tx but wouldnt be able to tx anyways cuz he goes through my phone i had to get a new one cuz he smashed my other one and it wasent the first time he broke my phone so if ill call u then answer but dont just call anytime cuz he keeps tabs on me and i dot wanna get beat up again ok i can call u when im at work or sumthin ok ill be callin u when im at work i work 5 to close friday nite i can call u then and the rest of the weekend i work 11 to 5 i delete all my messages so dot worry he dont even know i have facebook so dont worry ill give u a call this weekend k i wanna see u soon to just do not call me i will call u ok i dont wanna die anytime soon miss u! luv u". What do I do now. I'm thinking it's not worth it no matter how good it is. What do you think?

Justin, she sounds scared and desperate. I get the feeling that she is grabbing at you as a lifeline out of a really bad relationship. It sounds like she is very unhappy with the guy she is with and honestly has the hots for you, but is thinking with other parts besides her head. Don't get sucked into this.

My advice: tell her that you really like her but you cannot and will not get involved with her until AFTER she leaves this guy. Ask her not to call you or text you until she is rid of him completely. I know it will be hard (since you are really hot for her too) but I think it would be in her best interests as well as yours. You don't want to be looking over your shoulder for the foreseeable future, do you? And what if the situation is as she is portraying it, and he finds out about the two of you and beats her up or worse? Best to stay clear until she gets her life in order.

Maybe if she has something to look forward to -- you -- she might actually do something about getting rid of this guy. But if you keep letting her talk and text you, she isn't going to do anything except get you both into trouble.

Most towns have some sort of place that battered and abused women can turn for help -- a shelter or counseling service. Look into whatever there is in your area, and send her the phone number. That could do her a world of good, and it would also let her know that you really do care about her. Then move on with your life and hope that she can do the same with hers.

 

[majic]

It's looking a little worse. The last two words are scary. I hope you guys don't mind me putting my drama on here. Anyways, here's what she wrote, "my number is xxx xxx xxxx but pleasr dont call me unless i call u because my dude will beat the sh*t out of me ok i have tx but wouldnt be able to tx anyways cuz he goes through my phone i had to get a new one cuz he smashed my other one and it wasent the first time he broke my phone so if ill call u then answer but dont just call anytime cuz he keeps tabs on me and i dot wanna get beat up again ok i can call u when im at work or sumthin ok ill be callin u when im at work i work 5 to close friday nite i can call u then and the rest of the weekend i work 11 to 5 i delete all my messages so dot worry he dont even know i have facebook so dont worry ill give u a call this weekend k i wanna see u soon to just do not call me i will call u ok i dont wanna die anytime soon miss u! luv u". What do I do now. I'm thinking it's not worth it no matter how good it is. What do you think?

Justin dont get involved with her on any more than a platonic level....and limit it. You dont want to turn your back on someone in need but at the same time you dont want to get too involved. She sounds like she may be looking to you to rescue her from a bad situation and that is just not a good footing to start on....and more often than not you all will lose.

If he is abusive she needs to go to the police and seek refuge within a support group....and unless you are a psychologist of some sort dont try to be her therapist; not only are you not qualified but it never goes well.

 

[baybabe]

Dude Justin,
First off I know young people tend to throw the "Love" word around carelessly but...she LOVES you? No. #1 She is in a relationship, #2 she's in a relationship with a guy that beats her...because she likes something about it, she does have a choice to get out you know? Does she live with her parents? If she does she could easily say "Daddy Im scared of xxxx will you help me keep him away from me and this house, turn away calls etc" my point is SHE CAN GET OUT why isnt she? Heres the answer...she is caught in the highly intoxicating ups and downs of an abusive relationship, what I mean is its a cycle. A cycle of super powered lust, after he beats her up there's a time where everything is unbelievably fantastic. He will tell her all his excuses like "I just fuckin love you so much and I get jealous" she thinks that he just cares too much cause shes so special and pretty awwww she likes it im sure. Then theres the sex, after he beats her up and they make up she is seeking love and affection and he is seeking approval from her and something that shows him she still wants him, sex is gratifying for both parties. Its like super charged make-up sex.

Bottom line is, dont get involved, drop her ass like a hot potato. You will continue to be in the crazy circle and its very young and immature of her to involve you in this situation. Seriously its irritating and shes selfish!!! Dont even reply her. Bro's before ho's...I'd stay on her boyfriends good side, he's dangerous.

 

[burt]

Dude Justin,
First off I know young people tend to throw the "Love" word around carelessly but...she LOVES you? No. #1 She is in a relationship, #2 she's in a relationship with a guy that beats her...because she likes something about it, she does have a choice to get out you know? Does she live with her parents? If she does she could easily say "Daddy Im scared of xxxx will you help me keep him away from me and this house, turn away calls etc" my point is SHE CAN GET OUT why isnt she? Heres the answer...she is caught in the highly intoxicating ups and downs of an abusive relationship, what I mean is its a cycle. A cycle of super powered lust, after he beats her up there's a time where everything is unbelievably fantastic. He will tell her all his excuses like "I just fuckin love you so much and I get jealous" she thinks that he just cares too much cause shes so special and pretty awwww she likes it im sure. Then theres the sex, after he beats her up and they make up she is seeking love and affection and he is seeking approval from her and something that shows him she still wants him, sex is gratifying for both parties. Its like super charged make-up sex.

Bottom line is, dont get involved, drop her ass like a hot potato. You will continue to be in the crazy circle and its very young and immature of her to involve you in this situation. Seriously its irritating and shes selfish!!! Dont even reply her. Bro's before ho's...I'd stay on her boyfriends good side, he's dangerous.

That's fantastic advice you just gave. I was in a relationship very similar to that one with a married woman several years back. It lasted about 3 years. I'll never do anything like that again, but learned some great life lessons. Your advice was spot-on, Baybabe.

 

[Pirate]

Dude Justin,
First off I know young people tend to throw the "Love" word around carelessly but...she LOVES you? No. #1 She is in a relationship, #2 she's in a relationship with a guy that beats her...because she likes something about it, she does have a choice to get out you know? Does she live with her parents? If she does she could easily say "Daddy Im scared of xxxx will you help me keep him away from me and this house, turn away calls etc" my point is SHE CAN GET OUT why isnt she? Heres the answer...she is caught in the highly intoxicating ups and downs of an abusive relationship, what I mean is its a cycle. A cycle of super powered lust, after he beats her up there's a time where everything is unbelievably fantastic. He will tell her all his excuses like "I just fuckin love you so much and I get jealous" she thinks that he just cares too much cause shes so special and pretty awwww she likes it im sure. Then theres the sex, after he beats her up and they make up she is seeking love and affection and he is seeking approval from her and something that shows him she still wants him, sex is gratifying for both parties. Its like super charged make-up sex.

Bottom line is, dont get involved, drop her ass like a hot potato. You will continue to be in the crazy circle and its very young and immature of her to involve you in this situation. Seriously its irritating and shes selfish!!! Dont even reply her. Bro's before ho's...I'd stay on her boyfriends good side, he's dangerous.

BB makes a whole lot of sense. Listen to her. Go find another woman.

 

[what what]

I don't know, but to me it sounds like she likes it rough. The best move here is to get out as fast as possible. You DO NOT want some violent misogynist coming after you, unless you like danger. If that is the case, when she calls, tell her you want to pick her up and kick the sh*t out her man in front of her. There really is not going to be a peaceful resolution here, unless you just leave her alone. Personally, I would go for it, but I like it rough...

P.S.-Never take me seriously, unless of course, you like it rough too... LOL