Disaster strikes!!!

[Squid]

Brother, answer this: You think your children will grow up better in a household with parents that obviously are not good examples of being loving towards each other rather than have two parents divorced? You do your kids a diservice by staying together when there is no more love between you. If what took place is as you said, she is not trying to make things better that is for sure. My advice is seek therapy and if she doesn't or it doesn't work, leave for both yours and the kids sake.

 

[kingpole]

Determined there is nothing wrong with you it is all her. Perhaps she should be reminded of her short comings. And what the hell dose she mean by you being selfish????

 

[Pegasus]

If you have a no hoper ,as you seem to ,the only way to win is to get as clear of them as you can.
Living well will be your revenge, watching her stuff her life up will help also.

 

[Big Al]

Big Al...i dunno what to do? I told her we should part ways and she said go ahead and ruin ur kids lives because ur so selfish! Im frustrated. Should i start PE back up or give it another week. My PC muscle isn't sore anymore. Morning wood has returned. I'm afraid i'll start PE and down everything goes and she starts laughing at me some more.

So you're supposed to stay in an abusive relationship where your children can see their father continually demoralized while their mother screws around? What kind of message will that send them?

I'm not a psychologist or a therapist, but it sounds like your wife has you completely under her thumb.

If your PC is ok then go for it. A question- are you doing PE for your wife(!) or yourself? No offense, but how you can even bring yourself to have sex with such a person is beyond me.

 

[Big Al]

All right then Mr.D grow some balls and get rid of her. Your kids will survive and will be much happier without all the bickering and arguing that goes on daily in your house.
Consult an attorney and start the ball rolling. You only have one life and it goes by rather quickly. OR, continue to lead a miserable life. Your choice.

I second that. If there was any hope of salvaging your relationship then I'd say to stick it out, but from what you're telling us, she has you exactly where she wants you, with you suffering and your children victims of collateral damage. Even if your kids don't know the facts, they will pick up on the negativity in your household.

 

[LookAlive]

Seriously man, you posted about this before right?

She's not good for you.

 

[JonPop]

LA, your footer says it all.

 

[PEkid]

Yeah man LA is right. Ditch the bitch. And feel like a man again. She knows your weak spots and she keeps targeting u there. I say she is not worth the trouble. And shes not worth your time. just leave her and love your kids more.

 

[Mr. Determined]

Big Al, ur right. I started doing PE because of her. But something did come out of it. I really liked it. And i want to continue. See if i can really achieve what others have. Why not! I believe if u have enough motivation, patience and dedication u should b able to gain. Everyone is dead-on as far as my relationship is concerned. I'm definitely moving on. Talk to a lawyer...it'll b messy but in the end i think i can get my sanity.

I started PE again last night. Simple routine

10 Min Warm up.
3 min stretch (all direction...very slowly...taking time with the stretch)
5 Min jelg ( 3 to 4 second stroke)
10 min edge.

It felt extremely good. No kegels. I'm afraid to kegel. But i know i must for rock hard erections.

I noticed that i had no morning wood but upon contact with my penis it became hard quickly. And i edged for 5 min ( sortof jackoff)

Throughout the day i felt great.

My stats:

5.8 BPEL
4.5 EG

working on getting to 7 BPEL, 5.0EG

Thanks guys for all your input.

 

[MrBigDick]

OK, I HAVE to chime in here. I read this entire thread and Mr. Determined, I typically don't like calling anyone's wife out but as JP said it, your wife brother is a complete and total bitch. Life is too fuckin' short brother to be living with someone who disrespects, demeans and degrades you and then makes everything out to be YOUR fault. And I know because I was there. I lived with that sh*t for 7 long years man and when we filed for divorce, man, I couldn't move out of that house fast enough. My ex wasn't downright mean or cruel to me like yours is with respect to my manhood but she did pin nearly EVERYTHING on me and blamed me for just about every argument she and I ever had. I was the asshole and she was the innocent little victim ALL THE FUCKING TIME! So, having too much respect for myself and my life and realizing just how short life is, I took my ass down to the very courthouse that I now work for and on 12/22/03, I gave myself an early Christmas gift that year.......the gift of liberation. I filed for divorce from her. On 9/22/04, I was paroled and I haven't looked back since.

I've been happily divorced now for 5 years and I don't regret one thing about having done it and I've got two kids that bore witness to it. My kids at the time were 5 & 2, now their 11 & 8. They are well adjusted, healthy and active kids who are doing AWESOME in school. The only person who's going to fuck with your kids' heads is your wife who I'm sure will bash you to them given her comment to you about you "ruining the kids' life".............nah bro, if anything, SHE'LL poison your kids' minds about sh*t on you. Just from what you've said about her and what she's accused you of, she sounds like the type that'll do that.

Fast forward to present day, I've got myself a horny ass, nympho cougar girlfriend who LOVES, LOVES, LOVES to fuck man and she NEVER complains about me, my dick or anything else. She's so grateful to get regular sex (her ex of 25 years hated sex..........a man hating sex?? go figure......) she simply doesn't care and in fact, she's worried sometimes that she doesn't do enough to show her appreciation for me and all that I do for her. When you find a good woman like what I've found, you take care of her. She's NOTHING like my ex and she and I click like a well oiled machine.

Life's short man, don't waste it with someone who doesn't deserve you. Know your value, take stock in who YOU are as a man and go make your life a happy one man.

 

[Big Al]

Big Al, ur right. I started doing PE because of her. But something did come out of it. I really liked it. And i want to continue. See if i can really achieve what others have. Why not! I believe if u have enough motivation, patience and dedication u should b able to gain...

Grow on that This may be the beginning of a whole new chapter in your life- one of goal settings/achieving and positive accomplishments. With a new found sense of self-esteem you can become the kind of man your kids will be proud of.

 

[Mr. Determined]

Mr. BigDick: Ur so right. I'm going to follow ur example. I have found my lost balls. They were somewhere in one of her Gucci bags. I'm blowing the dust off'em and revving the engine!

Big Al: Thank u for ur words of encouragement. I will stay at PE till I have accomplished my goals and then some.

 

[Big Al]

You're welcome

 

[MrBigDick]

Mr. BigDick: Ur so right. I'm going to follow ur example. I have found my lost balls. They were somewhere in one of her Gucci bags. I'm blowing the dust off'em and revving the engine!

Big Al: Thank u for ur words of encouragement. I will stay at PE till I have accomplished my goals and then some.

Listen bro, let me tell you something. It took me years to get the courage to finally admit to myself that my then wife was not the woman of my dreams nor was I in love with her. I still remember the night I went to bed and I laid down and I asked myself a very direct question: "Am I in love with this person". My answer was a very clear and firm "no". It was at that point that I realized that something had to be done, kids or no kids. I couldn't continue to live with someone who didn't respect, love or cherish me that I should've been nor could I be with someone who simply didn't enjoy sex. And it was only during a Dr. Phil episode I was watching when I finally had the guts to say "why are we doing this charade?" "You don't love me and I don't love you, we simply share a house and two kids". "Why don't we just get a divorce and call it quits?". She then confessed that she was going to ask me for a divorce after the holidays (this was 9/03) because she simply wasn't happy.

And there you have it. 5 years later, dude, I'm the happiest I've been in a long, LONG time. I love my life, the direction that I'm heading and I have my inner strength to thank for it. You can do it dude.