Cheating?

[JonPop]

Nope, I agree with MBD. If your ass is hanging out that far, it will be an inevitable thing to get caught. This is a very personal thing and I wouldn't want to get caught in the middle.

 

[happy stud]

I disagree with both of ya'lls ass. If its a damn good friend of yours and he met a good looking woman at a bar and went back to her place and fucked her once yea I wouldnt say anything either. But if hes carrying out a ful fledged affair you know its a matter of time before his ass gets caught. Then he might get a divorce. Naw man fuck him if he gets mad. Thats what good friends do. They tell their friends theyre fucking up.

 

[MrBigDick]

I disagree with both of ya'lls ass. If its a damn good friend of yours and he met a good looking woman at a bar and went back to her place and fucked her once yea I wouldnt say anything either. But if hes carrying out a ful fledged affair you know its a matter of time before his ass gets caught. Then he might get a divorce. Naw man fuck him if he gets mad. Thats what good friends do. They tell their friends theyre fucking up.

I do see your side to it Maurice...........I seriously do. However, it's been my belief that if a buddy of yours is cheating on his wife, it's strictly HIS business. I wouldn't condone his behavior at all and in fact, if you DO get involved, you could risk losing your buddy. What if his wife wouldn't have ever found out? What if his wife was a bitch and wasn't giving him any pussy and he went out on her just to get himself a little poontang? There are so many variables to this situation. I stand by my original decision. I'd keep my fuckin' nose out of it. Now, if he point blank asks me my opinion, then I'd tell him straight up how fucked up he is for cheating but unless he asks, I don't offer.

 

[Nikki]

There obviously are good and bad reasons to tell or not to tell your best friend/family member to stop fooling around. Having gone through a divorce, I know personally how painful it is. So, if it were my best friend, I would tell her is she willing to get divorced over a fling, perhaps for a guy she really doesn't care about in the first place. Yes, she might get mad at my intrusion, but maybe I also hit a nerve and got her to think is this affair worth throwing her marriage away.

 

[MrBigDick]

There obviously are good and bad reasons to tell or not to tell your best friend/family member to stop fooling around. Having gone through a divorce, I know personally how painful it is. So, if it were my best friend, I would tell her is she willing to get divorced over a fling, perhaps for a guy she really doesn't care about in the first place. Yes, she might get mad at my intrusion, but maybe I also hit a nerve and got her to think is this affair worth throwing her marriage away.

There's also another side to this. Perhaps their spouse or gf/bf would be willing to totally over look this violation of trust and work things out? Cheating is a VERY painful experience but sometimes, partners are willing to overlook it so long as it's only a one time deal. Just playing devil's advocate here.

 

[Nikki]

There's also another side to this. Perhaps their spouse or gf/bf would be willing to totally over look this violation of trust and work things out? Cheating is a VERY painful experience but sometimes, partners are willing to overlook it so long as it's only a one time deal. Just playing devil's advocate here.

I guess I am confused. I was referring to talking to the person who was having the affair, not the person who is the innocent party. Yes, cheating is very painful for the party who was cheated on, that is why in my view trying to talk some sense into the person who is actually cheating could prevent their SO from ever finding out about this affair.

 

[baybabe]

On the "Porn" note... My boyfriend and I only see each other usually on the weekends because of our work schedules (I suppose) It seems like torcher to me but anyway, I think it was only about 2 days since we were together (we had sex, probably several times that day). so I went over to his house before he got home from work so that I could start making us dinner (with his permission of course) I let myself in, started things on the stove, went to the couch and hit the tv on BINGO... UHHH UHHH OOOOH YEAH BABY UHHH UHHH...LOUD AS EVER!!! I turned the tv OFF immediately and sat there. I was sitting quietly when the curiosity was KILLING me, I HAD to know what type of porn he would choose...is it BDSM? oh my or maybe Asian girls? I had to know! so I opened up the dvd player and read the title, it was "young beauties" instantly I was sorry I looked cause Im 32 and even though people NEVER guess my age as over 24 I STILL was feeling insecure about it. Then I was thinking... I cant have a problem with it because I WATCH PORN HELLO! Whats the difference? Well, I thought to myself..the difference is that I HAVE BEEN WANTING AND WAITING FOR HIM TO FUCK ME FOR LIKE 3 DAYS and all he had to do was invite me over!! So anyway I was pissed a little cause I felt like he should have been having sex with me instead of sitting at home watching porn...COME ON FOR GOD SAKES! I wonder if he would be jealous if he found that I had been watching porn?

 

[W.M.P.]

...the difference is that I HAVE BEEN WANTING AND WAITING FOR HIM TO FUCK ME FOR LIKE 3 DAYS and all he had to do was invite me over!! So anyway I was pissed a little cause I felt like he should have been having sex with me instead of sitting at home watching porn...COME ON FOR GOD SAKES! I wonder if he would be jealous if he found that I had been watching porn?

Well, although I don't know how truly aware he was of your libido back then, the truth is that many guys are so used to not getting as much sex from their girls as they want, that they'll just watch porn and get off quickly instead of having to go through the annoyance of asking their girl for some when she's most likely not in the mood. Of course, there's also the guys who are simply hooked on porn, one of my very best friends being one of them. In fact, he'll still jerk off at least once a day regardless of whether he gets sex from his girl on a daily basis. I for one don't care much about porn these days, although I did so in the past. However, whenever I've had a steady source of the real thing, masturbation (not to mention porn) doesn't even cross my mind.

 

[baybabe]

Of course, there's also the guys who are simply hooked on porn,

This is my concern. When he found out I saw it...let me back up...he thought it was strange that when he got home I was lying there with no tv on so when he said whats up with that? I said that I didnt wanna mess up the tv by pressing buttons etc. He said "Like accidentally viewing the porn I was watching?" I said "Hey I dont know about all that but what evvv". He said something about how every once in a while he watches it, I instantly remembered that he said that same thing about another "Thing he does" but the truth is actually that he does that "other thing" a few times a DAY sooooo Im a little concerned with the porn thing but its not my place, as often as we are together its a booty call anyway.

 

[Nikki]

Well, although I don't know how truly aware he was of your libido back then, the truth is that many guys are so used to not getting as much sex from their girls as they want, that they'll just watch porn and get off quickly instead of having to go through the annoyance of asking their girl for some when she's most likely not in the mood. Of course, there's also the guys who are simply hooked on porn, one of my very best friends being one of them. In fact, he'll still jerk off at least once a day regardless of whether he gets sex from his girl on a daily basis. I for one don't care much about porn these days, although I did so in the past. However, whenever I've had a steady source of the real thing, masturbation (not to mention porn) doesn't even cross my mind.

I think you are right. Do you guys think constantly watching porn becomes a substitute for meeting/dating girls?

 

[JonPop]

I think you are right. Do you guys think constantly watching porn becomes a substitute for meeting/dating girls?

Yes. In this day of instant gratification, this can easily become a substitute. Get horny, turn on porn, jack off, the pressure on the libido is gone. Easy, cheap.
I myself, do not watch porn.

 

[MrBigDick]

I think you are right. Do you guys think constantly watching porn becomes a substitute for meeting/dating girls?

I think for some guys it absolutely does. As JP stated, the instant gratification and pressure off your libido is far easier than going out and playing "the game" to get some pussy. That's probably why I did that for years and years because I just didn't want to deal with women and playing "the game" to get me some. Now, it's totally different. I've got a girl with a never ending supply of libido who wants to have sex every day of the week. The weeks that I don't have my kids over night, I'll easily get laid all 7 days. I don't have to ask for it (although I do just to get the ok to get between her legs), it's just there for the taking for me. I do watch porn but not as often as I used to. In fact, I didn't watch any this entire week because I was just busy and constantly getting laid so what was the point?

 

[Radiohead]

When I was with my girlfriend for a year and a half, I watched porn a handful of times. Since we broke up, I've been watching a lot of porn. Not everyday, but about 1-3 times a week. Sometimes more

But yeah, porn is the #1 substitute for a girlfriend. Besides, it's free! (just kidding)

I'm currently ''working'' 3 girls at school. I dunno which one will be the lucky winner, but we'll see.

 

[W.M.P.]

Do you guys think constantly watching porn becomes a substitute for meeting/dating girls?

If the guy is an insecure, depressed looser, then it does become a substitute. For a normal guy, porn will NEVER be a substitute for the real thing.

 

[W.M.P.]

I think for some guys it absolutely does. As JP stated, the instant gratification and pressure off your libido is far easier than going out and playing "the game" to get some pussy. That's probably why I did that for years and years because I just didn't want to deal with women and playing "the game" to get me some. Now, it's totally different. I've got a girl with a never ending supply of libido who wants to have sex every day of the week. The weeks that I don't have my kids over night, I'll easily get laid all 7 days. I don't have to ask for it (although I do just to get the ok to get between her legs), it's just there for the taking for me. I do watch porn but not as often as I used to. In fact, I didn't watch any this entire week because I was just busy and constantly getting laid so what was the point?

But even through that long dryspell, you know you would've never chosen porn over putting yourself out there for the right candidate. Porn was a quick fix, but you were looking for the real thing and it eventually worked out.

 

[Nikki]

Well, what some of you are saying is that because porn is so easy to come by via the Internet and due to the privacy of viewing it in your own room, some young guys will "depend" on it more/longer than in the past. Instead of learning to interact with girls, some of these guys would just prefer to masturbate watching porn instead of putting forth the effort of attracting a girl to have real sex with. Is this how you view the situation with some young guys now? If so, is there anything we can possibly say to those who are members here to encourage them to reduce their porn fix and start spending more time with real girls?

 

[Keep]

Well, what some of you are saying is that because porn is so easy to come by via the Internet and due to the privacy of viewing it in your own room, some young guys will "depend" on it more/longer than in the past. Instead of learning to interact with girls, some of these guys would just prefer to masturbate watching porn instead of putting forth the effort of attracting a girl to have real sex with. Is this how you view the situation with some young guys now? If so, is there anything we can possibly say to those who are members here to encourage them to reduce their porn fix and start spending more time with real girls?

Well, I am like that , so bad...

 

[Nikki]

Well, I am like that , so bad...

Just try talking to a few girls you think are nice or cute. Don't put any pressure on yourself thinking you "have" to score. Just strike up a conversation with one or more. Will you try that for me?

 

[Keep]

Just try talking to a few girls you think are nice or cute. Don't put any pressure on yourself thinking you "have" to score. Just strike up a conversation with one or more. Will you try that for me?

I cant promise , but I will try ..

 

[growing4her]

Keep , practice and practice. Any time you have the chance ,put in a little extra effort and practice making small talk with the ladies. A girl at the gas station,grocery store ,line at a restaurant or anywhere.It will build up your confidence and help you relax. Use any and all situations to say a few words and find some common ground .Before you know it ,you will have it mastered and be able to casually slip requests for dates/numbers right into a 2 minute chat.