Hello Nikki, you could add some valuable tips here...
Okay, here you go. I didn't see this thread initially because it was not in the Women's Perspective area.
There have been some excellent suggestions given already. The rose petals, wine or champagne, chocolate strawberries, candles, bubble bath, etc. are all great things to do. I would say if she is really special, then take your time and do what I call "pre-foreplay". This is done throughout the day at a restaurant, on a walk on the beach, etc. There is no time limit here. Just go slow, take your time and enjoy each other's company. Tell her how beautiful she is. Tell her she has very beautiful eyes and has a very beautiful smile. Tell her how much you enjoy being with her. Tell her she is so smart, funny, etc. Hold her hand. Lightly brush her face. Walk with your hand gently around her waist. During pre-foreplay, stay away from anything sexual. Therefore, do not squeeze her boobs or ass right now or talk about sex in any way. Make her feel special! Use your imagination as to things you can say to her. Tell her how you have become another person since you have met her. Tell her how lucky you are because you know every guy in the world would love to be with her. Go slow and relax. Don't blurt all these things out at once. Let the conversation and mood slowly evolve. Don't be a fake, though. If she is a little overweight, for example, then don't tell her she has the greatest body you have ever seen. She will know this is a lie and then won't believe anything else you say to her.
After dinner and a bottle or two of wine or champagne, slowly kiss her. Nibble on her earlobes and neck. Give her many slow, soft kisses all over her face. Then slowly start to French kiss her. Slowly start to kiss her neck and shoulders, also. When you get her blouse off, slowly kiss all around her boobs without touching her boobs. Then start to French kiss her some more. Kiss the parts of her boobs that protrude from her bra. Continue to kiss and hug her. Slowly let your hand graze her boobs. Watch and listen for signs. Is she enjoying your little "torture the titties" routine? How is she breathing? Does it seem like you are getting her excited? Slowly squeeze her boobs and nipples for just a couple of seconds and see how she reacts. Keep kissing her while you are playing with her boobs. When you get her bra off, gently squeeze her boobs while slowly running your hand all over them. At first, avoid her nipples. Continue touching and kissing her boobs, again, avoiding her nipples. Pay attention to her nipples, though! Are they getting hard? Nipples are similar to a penis. When they get aroused, they get longer! Slowly touch her nipples as you continue playing/sucking/licking her boobs. After doing this for a while, pay attention to how she reacts. Some women really enjoy a lot of "nipple attention" and some don't. Some women also enjoy their nipples gently squeezed and pinched. (I do, but not really hard.) Flicker your tongue over her nipples while continuing to squeeze her entire boob. Sometimes, my hubby will put a small piece of ice in his mouth and rub it on my nipples. Be careful with ice, though, because leaving it too long on her boobs/nipples could get her out of the mood. Just a few seconds is enough. Continue to do all of this until you think she is ready for you to go "south"!
When you get her jeans/shorts/skirt off, continue kissing her and playing with her boobs. Now, this is where the men and boys are separated. Can you multi-task? Slowly run your hand over her stomach and then slowly run your hand over her thighs, especially her inner thighs. Continue touching and kissing her all over. You want to continue to glide your hand all around her pussy without touching it. (This takes so much disipline that most guys fail at this part. But just keep telling yourself how much you are going to be driving her crazy!) Most guys quit sqeezing the woman's boobs and kissing her when they get her undressed down to just her panties. So, make sure you go back up "north" every few minutes.
If your goal is to give her a night she will never forget, then you must master this foreplay perfectly!!! Her panties need to be soaked and she needs to be begging you to take them off! Occasionally brush your hand over her panties, feeling her pussy for just a split second. Continue teasing her like this for a while. Slowly put your hand on the top of her panties and go a couple inches inside of them. Then pull them out. She should be groaning because she thought you were going all the way to her pussy. Continue running your hands all over her inner thighs. (Don't forget to squeeze and suck her boobs. Don't forget to kiss her occasionally and tell her what a great body she has!) Stick you hand down her panties very slowly and run your fingers over her pussy, then pull them out again! Do not stick your fingers in her pussy yet!! This should be driving her crazy! (Most guys have no disipline to continue this type of foreplay. Just remember, the longer you can do it, the hornier you are going to make her!!)
Learn to read her body language. Is she groaning a lot by now? Breathing hard? Thrusting her hips upwards to invite you to finger her? Now, very slowly insert your finger in her hot pussy. Put it in very slowly then quickly take it out and take your entire hand out of her panties and proceed to rubbing her inner thighs. You might have even made her so horny she is trying to take her panties off herself. Don't let her! Tell her you want her to never forget this night and to trust you. Keep teasing her by running your fingers over her inner thighs and occasionally stcking your finger in her pussy then withdrawing it. Always start with just one finger then after a few minutes insert two fingers. Again, every woman is different, as are as every man's fingers. If you have huge fingers always make sure to go slow enough to allow her to get accustomed to them.
Her nipples should be rock hard by now. Lightly squeeze and pinch them. Again, notice her reactions. Some women are more sensitive than others.Continue going back and forth between her boobs and pussy. If her panties aren't soaked and her pussy isn't hot and juicy, then keep doing all of this until it is! Tease her by acting like you are going to take her panties off. (My hubby is great at making me think he is about to take them off and, so I instinctively raise my hips so he can take them off easier, but he never does.) This is just driving her crazy, but she is thinking to herself, "Wow, this guy is a really great lover!"
When you do take her panties off, continue to do exactly what you were doing while they were on. When you move down to her pubic area, kiss and nibble all around her pussy, again just as you would if her panties were still on, but don't kiss/lick or suck her pussy just yet! You are driving her absolutely crazy by now! She will be trying very hard to thrust upwards and get her pussy into your mouth. Show her you are experienced and disiplined! Keep teasing her for a few more minutes before you start to slowly run your tongue up and down her pussy.
Alternate between sucking and licking her pussy for as long as you both can take it. Take her clit and very slowly and very gently nibble/suck and lick it. Be very careful here because this is a very sensitive area. If you are doing your job right, she should be squirming all over the bed, holding your head as you are giving her an incredible orgasm! She will be BEGGING you that she is ready for the real deal. Put another small piece of ice in your mouth and run it in her pussy and clit. But not for long because it will cause discomfort. (How long could you take an ice cube on the side of your dick?) Let me tell you what my hubby does that sends me into multiple orgasm land. When he has me so horny and I am begging him to stop teasing me and to start screwing me, he will stop licking/sucking my pussy and then takes just the tip of his penis and inserts it into me. Then he pulls out. Sometimes he will very, very slowly insert all of it in me then slowly pull it all the way out. Then he will rub it up and down my pussy very slowly. And I am going absolutely crazy begging him to stop teasing me! He does this variation several times! Then, when he really wants to get me even hornier than I already am, he will go back down and suck/lick my pussy for a while longer!
If you want to act like my hubby, after he sucks/licks my pussy several more minutes, he knows I am ready to go all night. So, he will come up next to me, kiss me and tell me he loves me and that I have a killer body body that every man in the world would die for. Then, he rolls over onto his back and asks what do I want to do now! I then get on top and insert his rock hard penis into me and violently buck my hips up and down until I am having the orgasm of my life. While I am riding him, he will finger my clit which really makes it even more incredible! After I ride him for a while, I get off and we do various postions until we are both emotionally and physically worn out.
Does this help any?
