Can I ask a question?
Do you now experience plateau orgasm? The stuff inbetween that us PE suffers miss out on?
Um, I guess, maybe. Since beating it enough to find a new girlfriend and be able to last long enough, not full control by any means, but I reckon as long as most guys manage, I carried on working on myself and learning. I
really wanted to learn MMO and really explore orgasm. I had a suspicion that male and female orgasms were the same, just our machinery's different and worked on that. Dunno if that's true, but my god I've had bigger and better orgasms than I've ever known since and I could talk and talk about it and bore the pants off you.
Anyway, your question. If it's a good fuck and I'm with the right person - I'm sure some of this must be mental - I'll get close, like sit at a 9, and my PoNR fades away like a tiny point. The longer we continue, the further and fainter my PoNR gets (twenty minutes etc) and I can control creeping up to 9.1, 9.2, 9.3... no risk of me blowing, and it feels amazing. It feels better spending 15 minutes let's say in that place than most orgasms I used to have. Not a release, but my body's electric. Is that orgasm? I dunno. I've describved it to people as a half hour long mild orgasm before, so it may as well be.
And I've found sometimes now that after a while I actually can't finish. Not fucking anyway, I've had to pull out and finish myself off with my hands. Furiously. Even then sometimes I can't.
But here's the thing, I'm satisfied, I feel sooooo good. I start to understand how women can still be satisfied with sex even if they don't cum either, it feels just great.
I've been with women and learned to warn them that sometimes I can't cum, so they don't take it personally. I'd really like to be in that place, but flick a switch and finish, get the release and the endorphins, and after that much build up, I'll not be able to walk properly! But sometimes I can't, so I've still got work to do on myself.
There are worse problems to have. I can't cum from oral any more, but done right it sends me through the roof, shouting and all sorts, so whether that's orgasm or plateau or not, I don't really care, but I'll take that any day off the week. All day please. I'll take the day off work. Shut the doors.
What was the one thing that made a bigger difference than all of it? I suppose that depends on the person
I'm not really sure, not anything that would be helpful for you now other than something to look forward to, but for me, tipping the balance at first and having room to carry on wasn't the end of the story. It was release. A new horizon. I'd learned so much more about my body and my arousal that never leaves you and changes everything. I still had work to do, I wanted to not just get better, but get better than most men. I'd never had that freedom in sex before,
ever, so sex was never again ten minutes of penetration just to be enough, it became a party, where it wasn't about my orgasm any more, and I could start and stop, move, start and stop, turn her on her head, tie her up, start and stop for hours, and in that place, she gets a
lot of attention. And I found, very soon, that when you can go for an hour, be creative, get her off as well as any previous man, if not better (and that was
never about the size of my cock), those women become very very open to pushing boundaries. I spent time swinging, having group sex, bdsm, lots of things that made sex a story and a way of life, not just a fuck and a notch on the bed post. Being in that place changed my head, how I felt about myself, how I saw sex, how I saw relationships for
ever. And I know I can still get better, it's exciting as all hell.
And I know I'd have never got to this place without having been through PE.
