wife feels uncomfortable on top

[asian_man]

to make a long story short, i came on here to help me with ed. i was somewhere around 5.25 bpel and 4.0 eg.

my goregeous wife has always had 2-3 O when we'd make love. she's small down there so we were a perfect fit. since i've gotten my ed fixed and made gains, (approaching 6.25 bpel and 5 avg eg) plus my dick has been harder consistently our sex is great again. she's adjusted to the increase.

however, when she's on top, she doesn't like that position as much anymore. i can feel i'm hitting her cervix at times that's making her uncomfortable. before i could go at it hard when i was on the bottom. know she kinda has to ride me smooth.

she usually comes missionary and 3/10 times on top but since my gains this year, it's been over 9 mos since she came on top.

anyone else has this issue with their girl?

 

[Glamissand1]

Give her more foreplay! The problem is her cervix hasn't had enough time to ascend( move up out of the way). So just get her going good and hot before you head in( pun intended).

 

[asian_man]

there are times when she's already had her big O from oral and missionary. i've also tried lube. it's not that i'm hurting her it's just to her something feels different. i'll explore more techniques. thanks!

 

[CaptainJohnson]

Also you must consider that the g-spot is shallow, and you have to adapt your new size and how you penetrate her to properly stimulate it. Try penetrating her shallower, and angling towards the anterior wall. Find out at what point on the anterior wall she enjoys most. Watch her movements. If you can't reach the speeds you could before without hurting her, that probably plays a role in this issue.

 

[asian_man]

thanks man....i'll keep that in mind.

 

[boomerz83]

I have to think that she is still able to orgasm on top as imo thats the failsafe position w most girls in my experience. You mention that you used to be able to go hard and now not so much..have you tried just not moving at all while shes on top? just hold your pube bone up and let her grind away. my wife is very petite at 5 ft tall and im 7x5.25 or so and top works great for us ( as long as i let her do the work lol)

 

[Black Amethyst]

I agree with boomer. Let her do the work and of course no need to go all the way in.

 

[CaptainJohnson]

I agree with boomer. Let her do the work and of course no need to go all the way in.

This is a good point. Usually, when a girl is on top, guys don't move very much, if at all.

The thing is, if your girl is used to riding on top while you slam hard from below, that might mean she has become used to cumming in that position. It may take time for her body to become used to a slightly different circumstance. I would just say keep at it, and experiment.

 

[asian_man]

I wanted to follow up on this thread from 3 years ago. I haven't been on this forum that much. My erections have been great (I came on this forum for ED not gains).

I do stretches still in the shower and I haven't really measured but I feel like I'm the same size if not a little more.

Anyway, since my harder erections and growth over the years, my wife comes great in missionary but has never came on top. It's been years since she came on top and it all happened with my gains. She enjoys the sex but I've had to take it easy on her.

Anyway, I wanted to share my experience. Just because you're bigger and longer etc doesn't mean your girl is going to come more. My wife comes a lot but she just thinks the girl on top position is uncomfortable but she still enjoys it.

 

[Hacker]

Congrats on your success with the PE!

 

[WIItard]

It could be just the way she is set up. My wife loves to be on top but doggie style she does not like. Just the way she is shaped.

 

[namsokiek]

It could be positioning. If she scoots down a little she can angle your penis past or rather behind the cervix. She can also get more clit action from your shaft by tilting her hips forward more in this position.

 

[Koolaidman]

Does she know about your PE? Has she made comments on your increased size?

 

[theLog]

Nice gains. Way to go for a guy who just came for the ED! :hat:

Another thing to consider is what emotional response she's anchored into those first couple times she went to have girl-on-top and felt discomfort. It could easily have been just not yet being acclimated to the new size and this affected her perception (as opposed to if you were to entirely hypothetically have waited to let her get on top and just stretched her out with other positions for a while. I bet she may have had a different response once she "got back on top again" in this scenario.)

Consider re-wiring the perception with using a vibrator on her only while she's on top after she's experienced an "O" or two from other positions.

At worst, if it doesn't work, you tried something new.

 

[closed224]

As I have grown my wife and I have found some of the old positions don't work as well, but some new ones do. Your wife still enjoys the on top position so don't worry about the goal oriented part of orgasm in that position. Just enjoy and change it up to other positions that work also. Congratulations on yuoir gains. Others have learned the same lesson. The gains can change things and not always for the better in some positions. Good luck, and enjoy.

 

[Mrs. workin_4_it]

It's going to take awhile for her to get used to the new size. Try different angles and ask her what feels better. Now that my hubby has gained length, sex can be more uncomfortable at times. I just say angling and he knows that he needs to adjust his position.

 

[Callyman]

being on top has a less chance to bottom then any other position. I can't imagine your to big for her. If she cums in other positions and is not making faces like it hurts then its mental and you will just need to keep working at it.

I would say she isn't warmed up, when women get warmed up properly they can take way more than you realize.

 

[jackjohnson]

She has a genetically tight vagina. You are a very lucky man. She probably doesn't want you any longer.

Maybe stop length work and just do girth work.

 

[Party]

being on top has a less chance to bottom then any other position. I can't imagine your to big for her. If she cums in other positions and is not making faces like it hurts then its mental and you will just need to keep working at it.

I would say she isn't warmed up, when women get warmed up properly they can take way more than you realize.

hmmm? Could be the effort of riding you, distracts her from her orgasm. I know when I'm on top she cums quicker, bigger, more often than when she's riding me. May have nothing to do with the new you , congrats by the way. What has she said about your new size ?

 

[this-moment]

dang nice gains dude 5.25 to 7! i see that when you wrote this post your length was 6.25 when u had this problem now your even longer how has this affected things?