Hello everyone, I'm a newbie on this site and I was wondering if any of you guys experienced a situation similar to this one. This could be kind of a long discussion but maybe an important issue forgive me. Before I start I just want to say that in no way am I trying to come off cocky, arrogant, selfish, egotistical, etc. on this post, just wanted to see what you guys think. I'm 20 years old, I'm in good shape as weightlifting bodybuilding is just a hobby of mine, and I've been doing some jelqing exercises on and off for about 2 or 3 years. i have never started jelqing out of insecurity or anything like that, I just did it for personal improvement because I always do my best to make everything better. I do not believe the size of a penis makes a man by any means. At 100% when I'm with a girl, I'm just about over 7 inches (like 7-7.3 my guess) with around 6 inches girth(could be a bit more could be a bit less whatever). Girls in the past have told me I'm the biggest etc. etc. I'm not being cocky never really cared about my size this is just part of the story. Recently I've met a girl, and it seems as though we've fallen very much in love with eachother. This girl has told me that I'm the best she's ever had when it comes to sex and I never have problems making her orgasm or squirt several times whether it involves penis or oral sex. When I would have sex with her sometimes she would scream you're so big she would make some nice comments about my size etc. whatever. Now I don't know if this girl is inexperienced because she hasn't been with many guys(she told me 3 before me) or what the deal is, but sometimes she can make an indirect comment about my penis size that really really bugs me. Sometimes I could just make a joke saying my penis is tiny and I don't remember exactly what the convo was but she could say something like 6 inches, or she could say that I'm good at using it atleast. Yesterday she was in bed with me while I was getting erect and she touched it and looked at it and said it isn't that big and that I've been bigger before. She can make comments like these sometimes, I don't think it's her intention to insult me or put me down and make fun of my penis. I do think she genuinely has feelings for me and she told me she doesn't care about the size of a penis. She did tell me that she was with a guy who had 9 inches but wasn't as thick as me but I get really irritated if she brings up sexual past with previous guys I told her i thought it was really disrespectful and she got scared and ashamed and never said anything again. I dont think some women realize that comments like these can really mess with a guys head, it can really mess with me sometimes. When I did some jelqing I felt like I started doing it out of self consciousness. I don't want to mention how I feel about these comments to her because I don't ever want to come off as an insecure self conscious loser, but she's clueless. Have you guys experienced something like this? Am I being an idiot? I don't feel like I should focus on this at all but it can bug me, it bugged me enough to rant about it on this goddamn forum.
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i think your a really good size should not feel insecure because you are above average .
How did she measure up her ex was 9 inches, did she get a ruler out when he was erect?
My advise would be do not let her get to you and don't let her know you feel insecure about these comments it shows signs of weakness in my opinion, and there is no reason for you to feel bad.
i have not had this experience as i am only 4.5 inch erect and 4.5 inch girth always been to embarrassed to have sex with a girl due to my size, your situation is not half as bad as mine. LOL
How did she measure up her ex was 9 inches, did she get a ruler out when he was erect?
My advise would be do not let her get to you and don't let her know you feel insecure about these comments it shows signs of weakness in my opinion, and there is no reason for you to feel bad.
i have not had this experience as i am only 4.5 inch erect and 4.5 inch girth always been to embarrassed to have sex with a girl due to my size, your situation is not half as bad as mine. LOL
Thanks for the reply. How the hell would I know how she knew her ex was 9 inches he prob just told her, but I really would have rather not known about that. Lol I could def sympathize with you man I just wrote an essay about this crap lol, I wouldn't tell her how I feel about it though because it would show weekness. Get off this site and go have some sex you shouldn't be insecure about your size at all once you whip it out no one cares, if you know how to use it you'll be successful and if she insults you and makes fun of you over it then she doesn't deserve you anyway.
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This is standard female stuff designed to make you insecure . While it is a standard head game ,I believe it is nasty stuff and should have you consider your relationship.
I agree with Pegasus on this one. If she is telling you that your 7+ x 6 is small I think she's playing a head game and trying to kill your confidence. I could see if you were like under 5 in girth then you would be considered high average, but at your size you would be in the top percentile. 6 inch girth is no joke, that's downright big. And 7+ length is no way small either. Sounds like head games to me.
I've never had this particular problem, but I'll say this: I don't think many women understand how complex these issues are. I remember when I first spoke to my wife about my BDD. I went into the very depths of my sexual history, from locker room comments to my first sexual experiences to the emergence of full-blown BDD. It was awkward...and embarrassing. A shock of nervous energy ran through my body. And when I was done, she was like: "I don't see what the big deal is. You want to get something to eat?" 
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My guess is she's already picked up on your insecurity or you wouldn't have gone to the effort to rant in the "essay" as the OP. So now you post this? I'm confused. Either she means a lot to you as stated in your OP, or you don't give a damn ("why would I consider a relationship because of this?") Which is it?
I think you need to do some self-analysis...just sayin'...
Thanks for the reply. I dont think she can perceive an exact measurement of my penis by looking at it and I wouldn't whip it out and tell her go get the ruler I want you to see how big it is lol. I don't think she cares that's why she can make ignorant comments without realizing it can turn head games for a guy.
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Are you having any relationship problems?
Did you comment on her body?
Did you inquire about her exes?
Did you comment on your size?
If yes, what were those comments, and what were her reactions?
Did you comment on her body?
Did you inquire about her exes?
Did you comment on your size?
If yes, what were those comments, and what were her reactions?
jockinthebox
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No problem bro no apology needed im just here to discuss this and see what you guys think if you experienced something similar with a girl.
Hey thank you for the reply. So far to be honest it's been about 7 months and there haven't been any real relationship problems she always tells me how satisfied she is with me. I have told her many times only positive comments on her body even if there were any flaws I told her i like them lol. Never have I straight up inquired information about her exes as it is none of my business. However at some point it began to feel really disrespectful to me if she was mentioning her exes to me or some sexual past experience with them. I told her how I felt about it she got really scared and ashamed and never said anything about it again. During that conversation though I did ask how many guys she was with before me because she made me angry we don't lie to eachother and she said 3 so I was assuming she's just a little inexperienced. Sometimes we would somehow get into conversations about penis size and I would just joke around saying I'm tiny I would say something like im 3 inches and she'd say 6 inches lol, but I remained humble and didn't say anything about it. She told me she thought I was 7-8 inches erect after our first encounters. To be honest there were times when I did get a bit cocky about my size and brought up how she commented on it during sexual acts, and this is when I got a bit pissed that she would try to downplay my size like I'm not big enough or something. This seemed to make her a bit uncomfortable so I'm just never bringing it up again. Honestly bro like what do these women want a 13 inch long 10 inch thick burrito between the legs like wtf?
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She is inexperienced, and probably did not know it bothered you until you mentioned it, maybe she too was playing with you when you talked about size, your three inches comment, or maybe she did not like that you got cocky about it later, but she felt bad when you said this bothered you so I do not think she meant you ill.
I think you should read your post again, and clarify your feelings on many fronts. You disagree with your self several times. The members are worried about you being hurt by some one who is saying I sensitive things to you about your penis. I wonder if you are not interpreting things differently than she is saying them.
Please love yourself, and your penis. Measure it and Dont guess how big it is. If you want to make it bigger start a beginner routine and safely work on your penis health. For your own sake and the sake of the girl Dont make up bad thoughts about yourself. You and your penjs are wonderful.
Please love yourself, and your penis. Measure it and Dont guess how big it is. If you want to make it bigger start a beginner routine and safely work on your penis health. For your own sake and the sake of the girl Dont make up bad thoughts about yourself. You and your penjs are wonderful.
Lol thank you for the reply. The huge story I wrote is pretty accurate im not the type of person that looks at things from my point of view only, that's why I just wanted to know what you guys think. I love myself and my wee im just wondering if the girls that witness 10 inchers become size queens for the rest of their lives.
Thank you for the reply. I did catch she was inexperienced when we had that convo. Maybe she's inexperienced with how penis comments can make a guy feel too. I can really sympathize with guys that have micropenises because when a girl makes you feel worthless with a negative dick comment its not really a good feeling, especially when I cant even fit my entire penis in her (she's asian lol).
As I have been told on here no one can make you feel worthless except you. You are also the one who can make yourself fell awesome. If she can't take it all she is not a size queen. Good luck brother.
