Lost my virginity!

[kingcobra630]

Alright so this past weekend I lost my virginity on the night of my 21st birthday. To be completely honest it was with a larger women I met on the internet. It honestly wasn't as awkward was I was expecting(had a few shots before meeting up with her), but was an average to slightly above experience. I'm posting it here cause I actually had a couple questions regarding sex and similar topics. I came pretty quickly, but I think that's somewhat expected for having sex the first time(came 3 times in like 2 hours lol). I have nearly a 7 inch dick, but as we were doing missionary it felt like I was barely inside of her; was this because she had so much fat on her vagina that only a portion of my dick was actually penetrating her? I also had a hard time getting fully hard, I think this was a mix of nerves, me not being all that attracted to her, and having somewhat weak EQ in general. She also was getting extremely wet, and when I started eating her out, I had to stop after like 10-15 seconds because her pussy juice tasted so bad...does it always taste that bad? I have made out multiple times before, gotten head and eaten a girl out once before, and I remember the last girl not tasting all that great either...but I don't think it was nearly this bad lol. The girl I had eaten out before also wanted to have sex, but I wasn't able to get hard even after she blew me, which I believe was cause of nerves and knowing 2 of my buddies were watching me(thats another story lol). I think the reason I was able to get hard this time was because I had taken a couple of shots to ease the nerves, so what can I do to be able to have sex sober and not have these nerves?

Some of you might ask, why are you having sex with someone you're not attracted to? Good question lol. I actually go to one of the largest colleges in the country, and I flirt with and get hit on by attractive girls a good amount; I know I'm an attractive guy(not trying to sound like a douche lol), but get really nervous around attractive girls and about having sex with these attractive girls and not knowing what I'm doing and possibly being considered small and then having the same circle of friends and these stories getting out. So pretty much I wanted to get the experience without anyone finding out.

 

[BigO]

Lol.
fat smelly ugly chick
lol

 

[BigO]

Sorry, could not help myself.

Not all girls taste bad. Maybe you should back away if it smells a little dank up in there.

 

[kingcobra630]

Lol thanks for the constructive feedback!:bad:

 

[BigO]

First, congratulations!

Yep, nerves can play a big issue with EQ and libido. And that, along with it being a new experience, makes a quick first time very, very common. Nothing to worry about.

Lack of experience and the position you were in could have attributed to the difficulty with penetration. And yes, if she had some extra padding, it could have been an issue too. It was not due to your size, which is well above average.

As for the tastes of her, or a woman in general, it's either something you like, or you don't. Cleanliness, diet, and PH balance can affect things, so that may be part of the issue.

What can you do for next time? Relax, enjoy the moment, do some deep breathing first, and don't worry about performance.

Have a look at this thread, which has some great pointers for the first, or hundredth time.
Losing Your Virginity: the 411

 

[CUSP82]

It might actually help if you like the person. It tends to give you a better eq!

 

[BigO]

Lol thanks for the constructive feedback!:bad:

Oh man, I was just joshing you, count how many times you LOL'd in your original post. BAsically you said she was fat, smelly, ugly and tasted bad and then wondered if it may effect your EQ.

Your also asking if you will be able to have sex and not be nervous without alcohol. To answer you...NO, not until your a bit more experienced. Its just part of the natural process.

Since you are a good looking guy, why are you here talking about being hit on by hotties but banging fat ugly smelly bad tasting chicks at the age of 21 for the first time?

Wonder what she is saying about you. Just something to think about.

And congrats on getting laid but next time if you get hit on by so many good looking gals bang one of them instead and dont let anyone know you banged a wart hog

 

[kingcobra630]

workin_4_it, thank you very much for the feedback and answers! Will definitely take your advice!

And like I said BigO, I get super anxious and nervous around girls I find attractive because of self confidence issues...but thanks for the feedback as well!

 

[corageon]

It might actually help if you like the person. It tends to give you a better eq!

OP - congrats on getting your first lay, but I honestly myself would never eat our a girl who I just met , especially a fairly "large" one - and ...well, idk what much else to say - Gotta be honest, I lol'd a bit on this one....better luck next time mate - try going for someone maybe who's kinda in between this and totally beautiful - either way - your experience has shown you something important....................!

tzzt

 

[WIItard]

Lol.
fat smelly ugly chick
lol

It's like cars, no point in having an nice first car because you will crash it.

 

[corageon]

It's like cars, no point in having an nice first car because you will crash it.

Or have the wrong people or "friends" crash it, lmao.

 

[kelthuzad1986]

Pretty awesome man! The more you get used to sex, the easier it will be to get it up when needed. That was my experience. Losing the V card is a curse almost I think. It makes you crave sex constantly.

 

[MrBigDick]

Alright so this past weekend I lost my virginity on the night of my 21st birthday. To be completely honest it was with a larger women I met on the internet. It honestly wasn't as awkward was I was expecting(had a few shots before meeting up with her), but was an average to slightly above experience. I'm posting it here cause I actually had a couple questions regarding sex and similar topics. I came pretty quickly, but I think that's somewhat expected for having sex the first time(came 3 times in like 2 hours lol). I have nearly a 7 inch dick, but as we were doing missionary it felt like I was barely inside of her; was this because she had so much fat on her vagina that only a portion of my dick was actually penetrating her? I also had a hard time getting fully hard, I think this was a mix of nerves, me not being all that attracted to her, and having somewhat weak EQ in general. She also was getting extremely wet, and when I started eating her out, I had to stop after like 10-15 seconds because her pussy juice tasted so bad...does it always taste that bad? I have made out multiple times before, gotten head and eaten a girl out once before, and I remember the last girl not tasting all that great either...but I don't think it was nearly this bad lol. The girl I had eaten out before also wanted to have sex, but I wasn't able to get hard even after she blew me, which I believe was cause of nerves and knowing 2 of my buddies were watching me(thats another story lol). I think the reason I was able to get hard this time was because I had taken a couple of shots to ease the nerves, so what can I do to be able to have sex sober and not have these nerves?

Some of you might ask, why are you having sex with someone you're not attracted to? Good question lol. I actually go to one of the largest colleges in the country, and I flirt with and get hit on by attractive girls a good amount; I know I'm an attractive guy(not trying to sound like a douche lol), but get really nervous around attractive girls and about having sex with these attractive girls and not knowing what I'm doing and possibly being considered small and then having the same circle of friends and these stories getting out. So pretty much I wanted to get the experience without anyone finding out.

Well, hey, congrats......sex is sex bro......

 

[BigO]

workin_4_it, thank you very much for the feedback and answers! Will definitely take your advice!

And like I said BigO, I get super anxious and nervous around girls I find attractive because of self confidence issues...but thanks for the feedback as well!

Don't worry so much. Just ask them out and if one out of 10 says yes the you have a date with a hottie.

Just to make you feel better I lasted about 14 seconds my first time out of the gates.

You will gain confidence along the way so don't fear rejection. We all get turned down sometimes and if I had 100 bucks for every crush I had only to get turned down I would be well off but my wife is hot so it just goes to show one will like you back.

Your alright man.

 

[TPW]

Hiya Kingcobra630,

Sex is no different than learning any new skill or ability in that the more you do it, the better you become. And as you have recently discovered, our innate sexual nature is also there to lend a helping hand enabling us to "know" what to do so there is no need to feel nervous or anxious.

Now aside from the obvious pleasure, the more you indulge in sexual play, the greater your confidence will become. You will also discover more of what it is that you like and don't like. Something you may also want to keep in mind is that in most cases, the greater the emotional connection you have with your lover, the better the sex will be even if it is simply a hookup.

Should you be interested in becoming more proficient in the nuances of sex, I would recommend spending a little time learning about sex from reputable sources. There are a great many threads on this site as well as articles on my blog that you will find helpful. Consider starting with the following threads/forums:

https://www.pegym.com/forums/womans-perspective/28252-best-threads-about-women-sex.html

https://www.pegym.com/forums/womans-perspective/

https://www.pegym.com/forums/relationship-forum/

I would also suggest you take time to learn about the human sexual response (his and hers) as well as female sexual anatomy.

Now regarding your specific concerns:

Just as a man's fat pad can impact sex, so too can a woman's. Extra weight of either partner can and will affect insertion but can usually be circumvented with a change in the sex position.

Not everyone enjoys the taste or smell of sexual bodily fluids and that is absolutely fine. I will say, however, that there are fun and interesting ways that can be circumvented as well. For example, sucking on a strong mint or cough drop just before or introducing a flavoured lube or even a fun food source like chocolate sauce can help make it more palatable. One caveat, if the smell is overly strong or "fishy" it may indicate an infection or an STD so refrain from oral sex.

Yes, a drink or two is acceptable if you find that it provides you with the relaxation you need at this time since you are new to sex but I would advise against drinking too much or using it as a long-term crutch.

One last thing...always use protection. Seriously.

Good luck and best wishes on your new sexual journey.

 

[namsokiek]

They say "you are what you eat" and if you (or she) are not eating sweet stuff the taste will be far from sweet.

A lean, healthy diet with a good helping of fresh fruit (pineapple, melons, etc) will make a drastic difference.

I went on a cruise and we were eating very rich cuisine. Tasted great at the table, but at the end of the week the "midnight snack" was not something I wanted to savor. One week at home eating our normal fare (including a lot of fresh pineapple) and the bedroom buffet was better than ever.

 

[kingcobra630]

The Passionate Wife, thank for very very much for that feedback and advice! I'll definitely take your advice and do some of the reading you have suggested!

namsokiek, I believe it haha... I'll be sure to get a healthy serving of fruits from now on!