Sex without condom and dangers of STDs?

[zorofriki]

OK so obviously i hate using a condom. This might be okay when you're in a serious monogamous relationship and in complete trust of the other person, but how do you deal with it when it comes to casual sex, with people you dont really know well?

Are there signs or obvious symptoms you can notice without asking or knowing about the other persons history?

Besides HIV-AIDS are there any other deadly STDs when not treated? I think HPV might be one of them, but then again, this one might be treatable as well.

 

[Kent09]

hey man, i would advice you to use condoms.
stds are not too bad for men, but you do not want to spread these stds to women.
you don't have to worry too much about stds in general, as a man, if you see it from your standpoint only.
clamydia, gonorrhea, syphilils, and almost all stds are curable, but some can kill you if you do not realize that you have them or find out.
stds are a struggle to deal with in general, so as i said, use condoms.
there is no point in going to the doctor as a man unless you have some discharge, burning sensation when you pee or any discomfort, it is not that hard to "know" that you got stds if you are a man, so not too much to worry about.
you might want to get checked from time to time if you sleep with a hooker, but remember that if you go to early they might not find it (not sure how long you should give it before you go to the doctor in these cases).
herpes, hiv and hpv are the only ones that are not cureable, but all are manageable.
herpes is not too much to worry about, as a lot of people have it.
1/5 of the population got herpes and 3/5 to 4/5 of single women aged 45+ got herpes.
you can look for outbreaks when it comes to herpes, as there is a way bigger chance to get it if the other one is having an outbreak.
in general, it is very hard to spot other stds from just looking (can depend on how long they have got the std as well).
but as i said, herpes, nearly everyone got it, and if you sleep around with a lot and wanna have fun, do not let that std stop you lol.
when it comes to hiv, it is very, i would say extremely unlikely that you will get it. Very few got it and it's usually transmitted through gay sex.
you can hardly get it, if at all, through vaginal sex.
it can be transmitted through blood though, so watch out for that.
hpv, men are lucky on this one.
in 90% of hpv cases, the body (for men) gets rid of the std naturally, but for women it can have serious consequences, while nearly none for men.

i might be wrong on some places, in that case i hope someone can correct it

 

[Kent09]

if you are really big on having casual sex without condoms and you do not care, then i would say go for it if the woman lets you and you trust her, go for it if she lets you and you "nearly trust her", do not go for it, if you do not trust her.

you are at risk from getting transmitted even with condoms, sex in general is not safe, at all, unless in a monogamous relationship.
i do not think there is 1 std you are 99-100% safe from if you use a condom.
it is not like you can go and fuck a whore and not get stds cuz you wore one.
actually, maybe you are 100% safe from hiv if you use condom and fuck a woman, but that is nearly the only std, if not the only one.

 

[Kent09]

btw, you might transmitt a woman with hpv without even knowing as you will not realize the std as a man.
i read a story where a man trasmitted a woman with hpv and it apparently ruined her life because it was the worst case hpv for women.
she sued the guy and won $1.5m, because the guy apparently know that he had the std.

 

[Jay1983]

Anyone can have any STD(s) without any signs and/or symptoms.

 

[Kent09]

Anyone can have any STD(s) without any signs and/or symptoms.

this was a good point, forgot about that.
it can depend on the stage of the std as well.
it is not true that you can have "any" std without symptoms, some stds give you symptoms always, but you might not know that you have it if you don't look for the right things.
syphillis will always have symptoms, and pretty sure hiv will have to (probably not in the very early stages).
actually, in a lot of cases you won't have any symptoms at all when it comes to clamydia, gonorrehea and herpes etc, thank you for pointing this out jay.
also, with hpv and men it's not only that you will have no symptoms, but no side effects as well, atleast for 90% of cases. (so this is good for men)

 

[Dangler]

Not worth the risk.

 

[pudendal]

Drug resistant gonorrhea is spreading. Herpes is incurable. HPV is incurable and causes cervical cancer and genital warts (there's now a vaccine but it's relatively new and only given to girls before they become sexually active, so most women we'd have sex with now, unless quite young, wouldn't have received the vaccine). Syphilis can kill you if it goes untreated. Hepatitis can kill you.

 

[TPW]

Hey Zorofriki,

The biggest challenge with STD's and STI's is that most symptoms are not easily detected; if at all. And while many are no longer life threatening, when left untreated, they will cause all kinds of medical problems such as infertility in women and sterility in men.

Since the likelihood of your casual sex partner presenting you with a detailed record of their sexual history prior to having sex is slim to none; it is always best to err on the side of caution.

Here's a sombering thought; when you have sex with someone, you are essentially having sex with everyone they have had sex with. In other words, unless every single person you and your lover have been with used adequate protection - something you will never know with absolute certainty - there is no way to know if the coast is clear unless you have both been checked prior to sleeping together. And that isn't likely to happen with a hook up.

So play it safe.

If the typical condom is uncomfortable for you, perhaps you could suggest to the woman that she use a female condom instead.

http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-info/birth-control/female-condom

 

[Qandisa]

In a casual/FWB situation I don't have sex without a condom, period. In the last 5 or so years I've only not used one with one partner. If a guy tells me they won't use a condom I say that's fine, that just means that we're not getting intimate at all.
Sorry but I care about my health too much to risk it (and my life) just for casual sex. Not a chance.

 

[Pegasus]

So what do you dislike about condoms on the physical level (I don't deal with head issues).

 

[akaTrex]

OK so obviously i hate using a condom. This might be okay when you're in a serious monogamous relationship and in complete trust of the other person, but how do you deal with it when it comes to casual sex, with people you dont really know well?

Are there signs or obvious symptoms you can notice without asking or knowing about the other persons history?

Besides HIV-AIDS are there any other deadly STDs when not treated? I think HPV might be one of them, but then again, this one might be treatable as well.

Think About It ?

 

[zorofriki]

So what do you dislike about condoms on the physical level (I don't deal with head issues).

Ok thats a good question so let me get into that real quick. The practical concerns for me are.

-Of course pleasure, cause overall experience is lower, sensation from penetration isnt what it should be (it doesnt differ greatly though), and most importantly level of friction. Lesser friction means lower quality of erection.

-And due to less friction, and generally me taking my time and performing for longer than average, my thing has its ups and downs, meaning it shrinks and re-erects at times. This is major for me. Cause when going nude, i can easily touch it and it regrows, but when with a condom, air is trapped inside while my thing goes down, and i have to change the condom. That leaves me with wasting 2 and 3 condoms for one session... Imagine spending a weekend with a girl. I would have to use a couple of boxes with condoms...

 

[CUSP82]

Oh Russian roulette; my favorite game! ( as long as I'm not playing it!)

 

[akaTrex]

Oh Russian roulette; my favorite game! ( as long as I'm not playing it!)

Except playing Russian roulette with a SemiAuto?

The House Always Wins!

 

[corageon]

OK so obviously i hate using a condom. This might be okay when you're in a serious monogamous relationship and in complete trust of the other person, but how do you deal with it when it comes to casual sex, with people you dont really know well?

Are there signs or obvious symptoms you can notice without asking or knowing about the other persons history?

Besides HIV-AIDS are there any other deadly STDs when not treated? I think HPV might be one of them, but then again, this one might be treatable as well.

Some strains of HPV could be dangerous - even cancer causing. But most of the time, if you have a good immune system you won't have any issues..
I feel ya though brother, I don't like them either.
As far as HIV/AIDS...it's been within my research and others that it is a hoax - more and more people are waking up to this.

Watch Dr.Robert Wilners video and look up Dr.Peter Duesberg...

HIV does not cause AIDS....

But the drugs that are used for it along with a shitload of other factors contribute to the onset of AIDS...
It's a terrible scam / paradox.

Dr Robert Willner Injects "HIV" into himself on TV - YouTube

 

[Brandon85]

I am amazed at how many guys I know have sex without condoms. It isn't entirely the guys fault. The women they hook up with also don't care or insist on not using condoms.

As for std's etc. That is the risk you are taking when having sex with someone. Even your long term monogamous partner may come up with VD from a fling.

I recommend condoms for random hook ups. But in a long term relationship, most likely the partners don't use them unless for increased pregnancy risk reduction. I know some women insist on condoms even with long term marriages. For whatever that reason is.

 

[Jay1983]

Stop masturbating and sexual intercourse with the use of condoms will be quite stimulating.

Hey there's an idea!

 

[corageon]

I am amazed at how many guys I know have sex without condoms. It isn't entirely the guys fault. The women they hook up with also don't care or insist on not using condoms.

As for std's etc. That is the risk you are taking when having sex with someone. Even your long term monogamous partner may come up with VD from a fling.

I recommend condoms for random hook ups. But in a long term relationship, most likely the partners don't use them unless for increased pregnancy risk reduction. I know some women insist on condoms even with long term marriages. For whatever that reason is.

Haha, in my experience...most of all females especially in NYS do not care about condom use or not. lmao

 

[akaTrex]

Folks having Unprotected Sex with someone when not in a monogamous relationship is IMHO IDIOCY !

I am good friends with a a gal whose Ex screwed around on her unprotected and gave her a Present for LIFE!


Unprotected Sex with Questionable Partners...

As John Mason "Sean Connery"said in the Movie the ROCK: Personally, I think you're a F#@king Idiot.