Who I am as A Man.

[DeepConcentration]

Ladies... I'm somewhat at an impasse.

I am a man no doubt. I can fix just about anything. If it needs fixing it gets done immediately. Doesn't get put off. I can't stand the thought of coming home from work even after a lengthy shift in the pouring rain and not jumping in and taking care of things or at least helping my SO around the house (no actual SO yet). Making dinner together. Cleaning up. Throwing blankets in the dryer so they're warm to snuggle with each other under.

I love drawing baths with salts and essential oils. I create my own sugar scrubs using essential oil. And love scrubbing and slowly appreciating the entirety of the female form. And it taste amazing too!

I give full body, deep tissue massages. But I'm serious about them. They are truly meant to relieve stress and muscle adhesion. Once I can feel all the tension subsiding I get more intimate.

I love doing all of these things... Some people think I have a whipped mentality. But truly it's a passion of mine and gives me pleasure... So many people are quick on the trigger when it comes to intimacy. I love taking my time, and building it all up. And even if no sex is possible I still do it because I care so much.

This is the tiny extent I go to not only because I believe it pleases her. But because it pleases me.

My friend said I should get my massage therapy license and become an escort. Because apparently this is what all ladies are missing with a man. In her words 'I'm only in fantasies and dreams, erotic dreams'


Thoughts???


-DC

 

[arkham]

I would like to know how to make those sugar scrubs. Sounds lika a good hand made gift.

 

[DeepConcentration]

I would like to know how to make those sugar scrubs. Sounds lika a good hand made gift.

Turbinado sugar, base oil (avocado or almond is great) and 2-3 different essential oils ( little goes a long way). Making the blend it depends on what you want to make it do... Stress relief is huge in intimacy and something that excites and wakes the senses!

Clary Sage, Ylang Ylang, and Lavender... The best combo as far as smell and boosting sexual energy while simultaneously relieving stress.

 

[arkham]

Turbinado sugar, base oil (avocado or almond is great) and 2-3 different essential oils ( little goes a long way). Making the blend it depends on what you want to make it do... Stress relief is huge in intimacy and something that excites and wakes the senses!

Clary Sage, Ylang Ylang, and Lavender... The best combo as far as smell and boosting sexual energy while simultaneously relieving stress.

Noted

 

[Pegasus]

You have no SO ? Who do you do this for?

 

[DeepConcentration]

You have no SO ? Who do you do this for?

I've done it for my friend before.

 

[BTBrian]

Could you be as intimate and tender with a random person as with a friend!

 

[MrB8]

You are who you are, and I see nothing's wrong with what you say, you like stuff, care, and so on, why is that a problem.

Fixing stuff doesn't make a man, drawing baths and enjoying hobbies doesn't make you less manly.

Do what you enjoy doing, don't listen to downers, and never doubt yourself.

 

[camaro]

You have done this only once?

 

[anonymity]

what's the question?

 

[heretohelp]

Try asking direct questions through the duration of your posts, it will help you get more targeted and useful answers

I'll just go with your title for now. My advice to you would to give up this idea of who you are coming from the fact that you identify as a man. That's like saying 'who I am as a person with brown eyes' or 'who I am as an office worker'. It's only one part of a much larger whole. Don't allow yourself to be tied down too much by what others may expect of you in a certain role. Men are men whether they're good at fixing things or not, whether they're good at massages or not. Oils don't make your penis disappear. Sensitivity doesn't make your masculinity wither. Start thinking of who you are in general rather than fixating on these pre-conceived notions relating to your physical characteristics.

 

[islander]

Massage with a partner is very personal. Massage by a stranger is physical not emotional. So when you do get a SO dont jump in with massage. Wait till after you are intimate for a while and a real couple if you want her to engage in the moment both physically and emotionally. IMO
Great recipe. I make my own too different oils and I use coconut oil. Great gifts as well.