I cried to my girlfriend....help?

[Pnatical]

So around last July i discovered this site and i learned about kegals and edging. I have a i cum to quick problem and my gf says it's okay cause we usually go a second round and i am able to give her an orgasm. I can tell though she is not happy and when she is not happy im not. I tried kegals for about a month and stopped. Then i did edging for about 2 months. While edging i could go up to more than one hour if needed to (is that when i reach PONR three times then cum????)...I did edging while no porn watching i actually been porn free since last August maybe. And still i cum fast the first round. I do the second round to but i sometimes is able to last long enough until my gf reaches an orgasm and she cums quick also which makes me mad because i cant even last long enough the first round...Also we don't use condoms and never have in our 13 month relationship.

I recently cried in front of her out of no where because of this problem i have. How could i spend the rest of my life with someone and not be able to satisfy them sexually and give them the proper dick they need? She says it's okay im use to it but i don't want her to be i wanna be able to last 45 minutes to an hour. Or make her orgasm at least twice during intercourse. Im really at my breaking point and im to the point where i dont even wanna have sex anymore. In March we are going to Reno and she even brought up cause i gave her the idea about a year ago to get some spray and some pills to last longer or go to the doctor and see what they have. In Reno we are staying two nights and i wanna be able to give her what she wants sexually but im afraid i cant. Im really considering the pill thing cause im that desperate so please could someone help me? This is my last chance and whatever advice i get i will stick with it and not stop i will keep going!!!

 

[jstane45]

Definitely settle down a bit, and don't stress. You'll overcome this and get past it. Wait for some folks that know about this to chime in and listen to what they have to say. But don't get overwhelmed by it, it's within your control to change, so you should feel empowered instead.

 

[TheGreatDivider]

Dude, do you want to lose your girlfriend? Because the way you're making an issue of this you're well on your way to a "it's not you, it's me" speech from her. She says it's fine, she is able to have an orgasm with you, what more do you want? Honestly, you're putting too much focus into your dick to make her cum when you need to be thinking about using your fingers, your tongue, and kissing her to give her more than just a PIV orgasm.

 

[Knoblin]

havent you ever drank a case of beer or more and tried sex?its pretty damn hard to cum...i suggest getting really drunk and giving it a try.

 

[Pnatical]

Thats what i been doing for the past year of our relationship using my fingers or tongue....Girl want dick nothing else after a while. Thats like a male getting a handjob instead of the pussy itself. After a while you want the pussy not a handjob. She says it's okay only because she wants to be with me forever cause everything else in our relationship is golden so she has to deal with it.

 

[Pegasus]

Read the stickys.

 

[camaro]

Did it occur to you that the stress makes you finish faster?

 

[xgr44]

havent you ever drank a case of beer or more and tried sex?its pretty damn hard to cum...i suggest getting really drunk and giving it a try.

I really suggest this.. because it works! go 5 or 6 shooters of vodka/rhum or something similar and go fuck your girlfriend i swear it works.. Everytime i know i will have sex with a girl i do this, sometimes i can last about 40-45 mins of hard porno pounding but i drink ill bit more..

Masturbate / edge then blow your load go drink the 6 shooters i have been talking about and then come back here tell us about your experience. You may not believe it.

 

[Knoblin]

if you can think of Mickey Rooney right b4 PONR..works EVERYTIME for me!!

 

[pterodactyl]

Lol. Can you imagine being in a commited relationship and every time you want to have sex say "Babe hold on i have to get drunk first."?

Try the stop and start with her. Make it a fun game for both of you. When you are getting close stop and go down on her. Make her cum and go back in until you get close again. Even better when you go down on her stop right before she cums and then go back in. tease her like you are teasing yourself and when she finally does cum she will explode. School is in for both of you.

 

[Pnatical]

why drink after blowing a load...or you talking about before?

 

[xgr44]

I just want to make sure what i said IS NOT THE SOLUTION. I hate having to say/do that but it works..

Premature Ejaculation pisses me off to a point i cant even describe, so much anger inside of me when i cum to fast makes me completly furious. so much shame.

Once your balls are empty when you finish 1st round you have more stamina in bed for the 2nd round? YES combine that with effects of alcohol thats why i was saying blow your load then drink some shooters.

I got a fuckin problem down there, i can edge sometimes up to 30-40 mins watching porn but once i stick my dick in a slippery vagina i wont last long if i dont do what i just told you above. I dont have a steady sexual life so i can't get used to it everytime i have sex i dont know what will happen so when i can im taking my precautions when i can.

if the girl doesnt like drinking i masturbate the longest 1 hour before going to see her, just to put chances on my side.

sad story this is my life.

 

[Knoblin]

why drink after blowing a load...or you talking about before?

drink b4 and after!!

 

[xgr44]

I just want to make sure what i said IS NOT THE SOLUTION. I hate having to say/do that but it works..

Premature Ejaculation pisses me off to a point i cant even describe, so much anger inside of me when i cum to fast makes me completly furious. so much shame.

Once your balls are empty when you finish 1st round you have more stamina in bed for the 2nd round? YES combine that with effects of alcohol thats why i was saying blow your load then drink some shooters.

I got a fuckin problem down there, i can edge sometimes up to 30-40 mins watching porn but once i stick my dick in a slippery vagina i wont last long if i dont do what i just told you above. I dont have a steady sexual life so i can't get used to it everytime i have sex i dont know what will happen so when i can im taking my precautions when i can.

if the girl doesnt like drinking i masturbate the longest i can(blow my load) 1 hour before going to see her, just to put chances on my side.

sad story this is my life.

 

[Knoblin]

I just want to make sure what i said IS NOT THE SOLUTION. I hate having to say/do that but it works..

Premature Ejaculation pisses me off to a point i cant even describe, so much anger inside of me when i cum to fast makes me completly furious. so much shame.

Once your balls are empty when you finish 1st round you have more stamina in bed for the 2nd round? YES combine that with effects of alcohol thats why i was saying blow your load then drink some shooters.

I got a fuckin problem down there, i can edge sometimes up to 30-40 mins watching porn but once i stick my dick in a slippery vagina i wont last long if i dont do what i just told you above. I dont have a steady sexual life so i can't get used to it everytime i have sex i dont know what will happen so when i can im taking my precautions when i can.

if the girl doesnt like drinking i masturbate the longest 1 hour before going to see her, just to put chances on my side.

sad story this is my life.

not bad bro,all about self control...i know what you mean tho..vaginas for real feel intense!!

 

[xgr44]

not bad bro,all about self control...i know what you mean tho..vaginas for real feel intense!!

Yeah right, but the most disappointing thing for me is i dont even know if it's physical or mental.. I mean i cannot last as long as the first time i fucked when i was 13 years old. i ll continue to edge and do PE, i hope one day i wont have to keeping thinkin about that stupid PRE-E sh*t.

 

[lclutchl]

Yeah right, but the most disappointing thing for me is i dont even know if it's physical or mental.. I mean i cannot last as long as the first time i fucked when i was 13 years old. i ll continue to edge and do PE, i hope one day i wont have to keeping thinkin about that stupid PRE-E sh*t.

Yea Op and xgr do your kegals and jelq too. I never had a problem with ejaculating early with condoms but without one is a different story. My girl gets hella wet so when i go in without a condom its like sexual suicide lol. Goes by so damn fast but if you do those exercises you can cum (on her or wherever) and stay hard like i do and keep going. This sh*t works, Im seeing first hand
I have really had sex since getting serious with PE but ill let you know if my no condom stamina has increased.

 

[SeratoBeats]

Did it occur to you that the stress makes you finish faster?

This.

 

[TheStarScream]

Oh, another tip. Break it up with a lil oral. Get her to cum then keep her going with your mouth, then you cum and go for a third round and get her again. Sex doesn't have to stop when you both orgasm. It stops when you're happy

 

[OnMyWayThere]

As Pegasus said, read the stickys.

Start the kegel/reverse kegel routine listed here (for some reason not a sticky): https://www.pegym.com/forums/premature-ejaculation-forum/43320-minutemans-dry-orgasm-guide.html

If you want, you can follow it until you can achieve dry orgasms, which will allow you to orgasm but continue sex.

Also start edging, masturbating to PONR and then stopping until your erection/the feeling to orgasm subsides a little and then continuing. That will allow you to get a better hold over your physical arousal levels so you know how to maintain them so you don't orgasm too quickly. Read the stickys for more info on arousal levels, etc.

EDIT: when edging don't rush to the PONR, as that will only train yourself to get to it faster. Try to stay away from it. A successful edging routine should be at least 20min. Follow the kegel routine on minuteman's dry orgasm guide. It'll also help you get a better hold over physical arousal levels and becoming MMO. I haven't made it there yet, but Pegasus knows all about it.

Reading minuteman's log may also be helpful: https://www.pegym.com/forums/premature-ejaculation-forum/17060-pe-mmo-minutemans-orgasmic-log.html