Should i start a relationship with her?

[minds eye]

So i just started hanging out with a girl that I've known for a few years, but never really talked to until recently. i have a lot of fun when i'm with her. we have hooked up multiple times. Haven't had sex yet just oral. The only weird thing is that i know her last bf she had for like 2 1/2 years. Now i'm not friends with him or anything just acquaintances. I have only had sex once and that was 4 years ago. I feel like she is way more experienced then i am. I'm also a recovering porn and masturbation addict and to make things worse i smoked a lot weed. Usually to enhance the feeling of masturbation while watching porn. I quit porn, masturbation and weed about a week and a half ago. It will be 2 weeks this Friday. I pretty much stopped because we were getting involved. Now she was giving me head i was worried i wouldn't be able to keep and erection, but i was fine and everything was ok.
When i was doing the PMO i had a problem with PE. I don't want it to be a problem in the relationship. i haven't masturbated since so i don't know if its still a problem or if it's just the porn that was causing it. Lately i have been trying to do a lot of reverse keegles and loosen up my muscles down there. Also im not on the big side with either. i'm thinking her last partner was a a little more endowed.. However, i don't think its big deal for her. She didn't comment about my size or anything. im not small or anything. im about 5 3/4 BPEL.
anyways i wanna start pe soon now that i kicked this habit. It seems like things are staring to move fast with us. I'm just not sure if im ready for a relationship at the moment. i know i want one but im just not sure sexually.
On the flip side i was thinking a relationship could be good for me. Help rewire my brain and all that. One thing i noticed is that i can get erections just by touching myself or thinking about sex or women. Also when i see an attractive women on the street i can feel my dick tingling. And let me tell you its amazing to feel this way. i fucking love it. Anyways that's the story. Please let me know your opinions!

 

[Qarzan]

Do it. You're ready. There's no perfect time for anything. The time to do it is NOW! This applies to everything.

 

[Sir_Laid_A_Lot]

Go for it .... have fun

 

[Sexual Strat]

Congrats on kicking the habit. Giving up all that suddenly deserves respect! Starting PE will be great for you. Just make sure not to overdo it, approach it logically and ease into it. Listen to the body. Also, your cock is absolutely fine but yes PE will definitely make it bigger + stronger. I've only just started myself and am reaping the benefits of added EQ and my cock already feels heavier and thicker. I really believe that cutting out porn and limiting masturbation really does you a world of good. It certainly helped me. As for your story, go for this girl. Give it a try. Don't get too caught up in her being the only one and all that, approach it as a fun, joyful experience. Having fun being the key word. You have nothing to lose, pal.

As for your PE issue. It's very likely it's from too much porn and masturbation. Continue cutting back on these, see how it goes. If it becomes a big issue, do some research, post on here, and people will help you mate. Do those reverse kegels. As for your girl, if you are undergoing sexual issues while with her, she should be understanding and support you. But it seems to me like your just a little anxious, as is everyone when this happens lol. I think you'll be pretty fine. Get in there

 

[ronnierokk]

Sounds like everything is good. Give it a shot.

 

[minds eye]

cool, thanks for the encouragement guys.
@Sexual Strat. I guess i am a little anxious just because i haven't had a lot of experience in the sack. Your right i really don't have anything to lose. I'll probably give it another week or 2 the ask her to be my gf. I know shes wants a relationship and not just "friends with benefits". Anyways thanks again!

 

[Robberman]

Dive in! Ask her asap

 

[minds eye]

Ok so a i have a little update. We hung out today and the topic about relationship came up. She says shes scared of getting hurt. I guess her last relationships didn't go all that well. Anyways she asked me a bunch of questions, they actually started to get annoying. However, one question she asked stuck out. She asked "what would change if we were in a relationship?". Now this question kinda stumped me. I didn't really know what to say. So i thought about for a moment and replied with "ill always be there for you" lol. I thought this was a pretty lame answers but, honestly didn't know what to say. Like what would change besides sex? i'm not sure. Other then the label. I'm still thinking about it.
She didn't say no but she didn't say yes either. She said lets just see where it goes...
Like really what should i be prepared for??
Also she said if something happened now, for instance, i hook up with someone else or something she would be less hurt then if we were dating. I assured her that if we were dating then i wouldn't be hooking up with anyone else or doing anything like that. Not to sound conceited or anything but i'm a pretty attractive guy and she wonders why i'm not in a relationship and haven't been in one for some time. It's pretty much due to PMO habit hat i use to have but, I wouldn't dare tell her that now.
Anyways i'm just looking for any kind of advice.
thanks.

 

[Qarzan]

She said lets just see where it goes...

To me, this means "no expectations." No projections into the future, no plans for being boyfriend or girlfriend. If sex happens, it happens, and doesn't imply anything else.

That's my take on it, anyways. Always best to bring it up and clarify through... COMMUNICATION! Good luck!

 

[PanBird]

Do it if you think you it can result in something good, i.e. marriage. Someone said this to me once: "Going into a relationship without having marriage in sight is like going to a store without money. Either you get home without anything or with something that doesn't belong to you".

I really like this quotation.

Me and my girlfriend are celebrating our 1 year anniversary next week. When we got together, I watched porn and masturbated way too much. I didn't think it wasn't something wrong, until I told her I did what I did. She was sad, but supportive. I haven't watched porn since. I know how crazy it is to go in the streets and suddenly your unit is getting hard, and you don't even know why! When my GF touches me, it takes 10 seconds, outside the clothes, and it's hard. The best thing to ever do is to quit porn.

As I said, when we got together, nothing for me was a good timing.
Start dating, if you feel like she might be the one for you, get together. Don't screw it up.
GL mate!

 

[minds eye]

She says things like "i'm afraid of falling for you". When i ask her what shes afraid of she kinda avoids the question. I'm not the type of person to pressure anyone or anything. She said shes only seeing me now and no one else. She actually used the word "exclusive". We hang out probably 3 times a week if not more. So for now i'm just gonna take it slow and see how things pan out.
Just wanna say thanks! If it wasn't for you guys i probably would have never brought up relationship with her.

 

[minds eye]

hey guys! I have a a little update if anyone was still interested. I just wanna tell someone either way lol. so we went out dancing last night and we both ended up getting pretty drunk. When we got back to my place we started hooking up and this lead to sex! we fucked for like 20mins and bc of whisky dick i didn't end up cuming. Fast forward to when we woke up, we decided to chill for a little which turned out to be the entire day. Less then 2 hours ago she was giving me head. This then lead to sex again. It was fucking amazing now that i'm sober lol. Didn't last nearly as long 8-10 mins but, she was giving me head before for a good 10 mins. It was fun and she said i almost made her cumm. She said its pretty easy for her to cum during sex. The only reason i tried to cum towards the end was because i thought she already came. Anyways just wanted to vent that lol. gonna crash, night guys!

 

[NJay12]

So i just started hanging out with a girl that I've known for a few years, but never really talked to until recently. i have a lot of fun when i'm with her. we have hooked up multiple times. Haven't had sex yet just oral. The only weird thing is that i know her last bf she had for like 2 1/2 years. Now i'm not friends with him or anything just acquaintances. I have only had sex once and that was 4 years ago. I feel like she is way more experienced then i am. I'm also a recovering porn and masturbation addict and to make things worse i smoked a lot weed. Usually to enhance the feeling of masturbation while watching porn. I quit porn, masturbation and weed about a week and a half ago. It will be 2 weeks this Friday. I pretty much stopped because we were getting involved. Now she was giving me head i was worried i wouldn't be able to keep and erection, but i was fine and everything was ok.
When i was doing the PMO i had a problem with PE. I don't want it to be a problem in the relationship. i haven't masturbated since so i don't know if its still a problem or if it's just the porn that was causing it. Lately i have been trying to do a lot of reverse keegles and loosen up my muscles down there. Also im not on the big side with either. i'm thinking her last partner was a a little more endowed.. However, i don't think its big deal for her. She didn't comment about my size or anything. im not small or anything. im about 5 3/4 BPEL.
anyways i wanna start pe soon now that i kicked this habit. It seems like things are staring to move fast with us. I'm just not sure if im ready for a relationship at the moment. i know i want one but im just not sure sexually.
On the flip side i was thinking a relationship could be good for me. Help rewire my brain and all that. One thing i noticed is that i can get erections just by touching myself or thinking about sex or women. Also when i see an attractive women on the street i can feel my dick tingling. And let me tell you its amazing to feel this way. i fucking love it. Anyways that's the story. Please let me know your opinions!

Congratulations on quitting weed, its a hard drug to stay away from.
It seems to me like you're your own worst critic, calm down. A lot of people that quit weed do get a heightened sense of anxiety (i've been there) and tend to over think, if she's letting you do these things with her, she obviously likes you.

Just for the heads up, women do not compare dick size, we compare intimacy levels, the more intimate it is the better it is, if you can stave off for a while in hope that when you get down to it, the intensity will bring you together like sausage and mash, mind the pun, then do that.
Don't rush into it, have you thought about telling her that at the moment you're a little self conscious, let her boost your ego, lay it all out, she will fucking cherish you for it, and then hopefully give you more head.

 

[minds eye]

Congratulations on quitting weed, its a hard drug to stay away from.
It seems to me like you're your own worst critic, calm down. A lot of people that quit weed do get a heightened sense of anxiety (i've been there) and tend to over think, if she's letting you do these things with her, she obviously likes you.

Just for the heads up, women do not compare dick size, we compare intimacy levels, the more intimate it is the better it is, if you can stave off for a while in hope that when you get down to it, the intensity will bring you together like sausage and mash, mind the pun, then do that.
Don't rush into it, have you thought about telling her that at the moment you're a little self conscious, let her boost your ego, lay it all out, she will fucking cherish you for it, and then hopefully give you more head.

since i posted this we've been having sex way more often and im starting to like her a lot. We are dating each other but not official yet. iv'e been clean from weed and pmo for a month and 2 weeks now. I occasional will watch it for a minute or 2 the realize what im doing and turn it off. This mostly happens if we don't have sex for a few days. your right about weed being hard to stay away from, especially when all your friends smoke. I just had to learn to say no. thanks for the reply!

 

[Robberman]

Congrats! It's good to see success from your first post

 

[Vulture]

Porn and masturbation is MUCHHH harder to quit than weed. I have yet not been able to quit jacking it but I've stayed clean of weed, cocaine, heroin, and even alcohol for 80 days...I even was able to go without smoking cigarettes for a good two weeks. But since masturbation is free and extremely fun and you can do it anytime, I have lost the resistance to not ejaculate. The longest I went without masturbaton was 4 days. Weed supports masturbation whenever I smoke weed I get so horny jacking off becomes the first priority.

 

[MrBigDick]

Ok so a i have a little update. We hung out today and the topic about relationship came up. She says shes scared of getting hurt. I guess her last relationships didn't go all that well. Anyways she asked me a bunch of questions, they actually started to get annoying. However, one question she asked stuck out. She asked "what would change if we were in a relationship?". Now this question kinda stumped me. I didn't really know what to say. So i thought about for a moment and replied with "ill always be there for you" lol. I thought this was a pretty lame answers but, honestly didn't know what to say. Like what would change besides sex? i'm not sure. Other then the label. I'm still thinking about it.
She didn't say no but she didn't say yes either. She said lets just see where it goes...
Like really what should i be prepared for??
Also she said if something happened now, for instance, i hook up with someone else or something she would be less hurt then if we were dating. I assured her that if we were dating then i wouldn't be hooking up with anyone else or doing anything like that. Not to sound conceited or anything but i'm a pretty attractive guy and she wonders why i'm not in a relationship and haven't been in one for some time. It's pretty much due to PMO habit hat i use to have but, I wouldn't dare tell her that now.
Anyways i'm just looking for any kind of advice.
thanks.

Every relationship has a beginning and you two will have to start somewhere should you both decide to make it a relationship. Just take things one step and one day at a time but if you're interested in this girl and she you, I wouldn't delay, I'd let her know now and go from there.

 

[Qarzan]

Just for the heads up, women do not compare dick size, we compare intimacy levels, the more intimate it is the better it is, if you can stave off for a while in hope that when you get down to it, the intensity will bring you together like sausage and mash, mind the pun, then do that.
Don't rush into it, have you thought about telling her that at the moment you're a little self conscious, let her boost your ego, lay it all out, she will fucking cherish you for it, and then hopefully give you more head.

NJay12, this quote really helped me out. Thanks!

iv'e been clean from weed and pmo for a month and 2 weeks now. I occasional will watch it for a minute or 2 the realize what im doing and turn it off. This mostly happens if we don't have sex for a few days. your right about weed being hard to stay away from, especially when all your friends smoke. I just had to learn to say no. thanks for the reply!

Fuck yeah, dude! Way to stay clean and sober.

 

[MrsLooking4more]

Congratulations! Things are looking good for you, keep up the good work.