Addicted to masturbation

[Big Al]

I'm not saying porn had nothing to do with it, Im sure it added to my masterbation addiction. I use porn because its easier than having to come up with something myself haha even when I was masterbating non stop I didn't only do it to porn. either way if I cut down masterbation ill be cutting down porn too. If you watch porn to watch it and not to masturbate or anything like that then you def have a problem haha

I'm sure i have a slight porn addiction but it would be harder for me to not watch a regular movie then a porn movie.

the amount of porn I was watching was def not good but I don't think it was my main problem

How about taking measures to ensure that you don't watch porn. There are many tactics that you can use- limit your internet use to certain hours, use the internet in public, or even putting a filter on your settings can work. These neutral methods can be used in addition to the positive actions that you should be using to distract yourself from falling back into the habit.

You claimed having damage. Only by allowing yourself the chance to recuperate may you be able to fully heal.

Whether your self-admitted addiction is "slight" or not, it will not diminish the negative impact it can have. Again, the effective treatment of ANY type of addiction requires being honest with yourself about it. That's an assessment that only you can make.

Consider that the blunting of your libido may also be affecting the manner and frequency that you form relationships with potential partners. It can lessen the motivation you may have for wanting a relationship.

There are MANY men who have resigned themselves to gratifying their urges with porn because, in addition to the convenience factor, there's no risk (emotional, etc.) involved. When dealing with a real sexual partner, there's (usually) no scripts involved, and in live situations you can't just turn the screen off when there's a conflict or when things don't go exactly as you'd like them to. One of the reasons why I was motivated to write that article was because the porn issue has become so pervasive and seems to affect far more trainees than it ever has.

To many men, porn use is as regular for them as ordering fast food- with all of the ironic similarities involved to boot.

 

[giantsrule]

One thing I will see is. If things do start working down there again, which I'm really hoping this break can fix, I'm def making up for the lost time with girls. I don't plan on wasting it on porn.

 

[VoodooChild]

I am trying not to look at nude pictures or watch porn for these 90 days because I'm trying to let my mind reset from the overuse of porn all these years. Trust me, I really want to watch porn when I get horny and start to think about it. The point is to get to where you want it with a real girl and have the confidence to go for it. If you are watching porn all the time, you are likely to fail in a real life scenario because you are conditioned to getting off to porn...which like Big Al is saying, is a far different conditioning mechanism.

Seriously, try not to watch porn to check your erection quality. Only use your imagination. This will put you in a much better state of mind to perform well once you have the real thing. Like I said...it will be like heaven in comparison. Maybe I'm misunderstanding your goals, but my personal goal is to get to the point where I don't even think about porn because I'm in a real life relationship that is sexually gratifying...and not a let down for me or her. All the while you are doing this "de-conditioning" you are giving your penis time to heal. It's a win win if you think about it like that.

And trust me (as I've been obsessing about the state of my penis for 9 years), you're definitely not making things worse by giving it a rest...even though it may feel like you are losing quality right now...it's just finally getting time to heal and recover from being overused. I guess in a way, it's saying "hey man don't use me right now...I'm tired." But your mind freaks out and wants to make sure it still works so you watch porn to check it, and boom, your penis is not getting the rest it needs. I've done it so many times in the past when I was freaking out about my penis...really it's what drove a lot of my masturbation sessions with porn...just making sure I could still get it up. Yea it was pleasurable sort of, but not like it will be with a healthy unit again. Sorry if I'm talking in circles. Just trying to clarify lol.

 

[VoodooChild]

One thing I will see is. If things do start working down there again, which I'm really hoping this break can fix, I'm def making up for the lost time with girls. I don't plan on wasting it on porn.

Things WILL start working down there man! Seriously! Just give it the time it needs to recuperate! Stay positive about it as much as you can and take pride in the fact that you are actually facing the whole thing and not running from it any longer. I ran for 9 freakin years! Be glad you are doing it sooner than I am. Alright, done with the hoorahs haha

 

[Big Al]

One thing I will see is. If things do start working down there again, which I'm really hoping this break can fix, I'm def making up for the lost time with girls. I don't plan on wasting it on porn.

If you're able to become erect and ejaculate, then there's a good chance that you can recover without too much issue. As already stated though, you need to allow yourself to heal! You might even take this break time to try to get involved with and learn to understand women on a deeper level. This can be helpful if porn has skewed your viewing them as merely sex objects.

MANY women are attracted to men that are able to control themselves and who have the patience and interest in getting to know them without the constant allusions to sex. Consider the level of true confidence you can exude when you're not "worried" about having sex (this is something that you can master on a whole different level, too- once you've healed). While those feelings of confidence are usually reserved for the confident, you can take advantage of your self-imposed hiatus by focusing on other aspects of being in a relationship during this phase in your recovery.

You may also attract a different quality of personality- a deeper one that is interested in you for more than just sexual reasons.

While it has taken some painful experiences to get you to this point, you can actually turn all of this into an advantage. You'll certainly be much wiser after all this is done

 

[giantsrule]

I don't have a prob with women at all. I actually really like women and I don't see them as sex objects. I have dated a lot of girls since having this issue but I avoided sex because I'm insecure about my size and more than anything the fact that I have erection problems. They usually think it's weird I avoid sex or just get frustrated. if it doesn't come to that point I do something to blow it myself before it does.

I am confident in every other way but that. I get girls numbers all the time. I don't look at porn as a reality I use it as a way to get it out because I'm frustrated about my problem and not being able to have sex with a real women, I'm talking to a girl right now and I could have had sex already but again I'm putting it off.

The crazy thing is because I put off actually having sex with girls because we both like each other they beg me to have sex with them and tell me I can do whatever I want. which makes it more frustrating that I can't .

And for the reason that you mentioned about being able to learn about girls more because sex hasn't gotten in the way, I think that is what has happened to me already.

My friends in college thought I was a god with women because I was always with a new hot girl and they would see texts about them begging to have sex with me, I didn't show them they would just see it. Also a lot of girls would lie about us having sex because they were frustrated we didn't. they would also talk about how good I was to their friends which would make my rep even better with other girls haha it's actually pretty funny when you think about it.

And also when I do watch porn I usually pretend the girl is someone I know.

 

[giantsrule]

I wasted about 7. We're pretty close

 

[VoodooChild]

hey giants, I'm a little confused I guess...so your problem is that you can't be confident in getting erections with girls, correct?

So when you talk about the excessive masturbation habit, how is the erection quality in that realm? Does the porn give you better EQ or is it still bad but you masturbate anyway? Sorry, just want to make sure I understand what you're saying.

 

[giantsrule]

hey giants, I'm a little confused I guess...so your problem is that you can't be confident in getting erections with girls, correct?

So when you talk about the excessive masturbation habit, how is the erection quality in that realm? Does the porn give you better EQ or is it still bad but you masturbate anyway? Sorry, just want to make sure I understand what you're saying.

I have never had a full normal erection since overworking myself with p.e or whatever it was, even though I only did it a couple times.

I remember a jelq required you to have a half erection or something while doing it and after doing the exercise I couldn't get it harder than I did while doing the exercise and I have not been able to get or keep a normal erection since. That was 7 years ago.

When I masterbate to porn or anything else I can't stay hard unless I keep touching it and even then it never feels fully hard until I'm about to cum, that's the hardest I ever am.

I've had sex since the injury one time and it was prob the worst night of my life. it was just awkward. The girl def thought I was gonna be bigger and I wasn't all the way hard and had trouble keeping it up, and I couldnt last for very long. I haven't had sex since then. That was about 6 years ago.

it has nothing to do with confidence as far as I can tell. If it was I would have had at least a couple good erections in that 7 year span. But for those 7 years I never stoped masterbating at all. Even though I had a shitty erection

I just don't see how doing p.e like 3 days can break my dick. I didn't even do it very hard. There was no pop or anything. I did masterbate every time right after doing p.e. Even the last time when I couldn't get a good erection. That's what makes me think I just overworked myself and need to finally let my dick rest. I'm just really worried 7 years later is too late. when I type this I realize what a dumbass I am. 7 years goes by fast when you're always masterbating haha

9 days in. 1 day away from the new all time record.

I think about masterbating mainly to see how good my erection would be but I'm fighting it pretty easy by keeping my eye on the prize. I just hope the saw palmetto from the hair stuff doesn't effect me. I've seen posts where guys say it gave them e.d. on other sites, But I've also seen guys on here say it's good for an erection, so I guess it's not worth worrying about.

 

[Jay1983]

9 days in. 1 day away from the new all time record.

I salute you! Keep going brother!

 

[TAAB]

Big Al referred to using porn like fast food. That's perfect !
If you had a plate of fast food the same number of times you viewed porn how much would you weigh ? I know that in my case I wouldn't be the athlete I am today that's for sure.

 

[VoodooChild]

Keep going man! You're on the right path now! My injury was 9 years ago, and yea those years have gone by fast considering I never faced the problem head on. I too feel like a dumbass. But hey, you can't change the past, you can only take hold of the reigns from here out which is what you're doing. Stay strong brotha.

 

[Skipper23]

If your addicted to porn... Cancel your Internet so you can't have porn. Sorted

 

[Skipper23]

Oh sh*t I've just realised, if you cancel your Internet you won't be able to come on the forum, don't cancel your Internet and ignore my advice haha

 

[giantsrule]

Damn. I already cancelled it. Thanks dick haha

 

[giantsrule]

When I was in college I prob did have fast food about the same amount I whacked off haha I hit the gym though so It wasn't too bad

 

[giantsrule]

Hello new all time record

10 days no touching. Boom

Next stop 20 days

 

[asian_man]

What makes you think I have a lot of self esteem issues? if you're talking about the penis size thing then everybody on here might wanna look into a psychologist

I wasn't making any claims but there are a lot addiction and self-esteem studies that have shown their relation....just throwing out some ideas. Didn't read all of the thread but have you seen a medical dr to make sure there's nothing physically wrong that's causing your ED?

 

[giantsrule]

They did blood tests and said it was normal. Then they just said its prob in my head and gave me daily cialis

 

[asian_man]

if it were me, and i haven't had good sex for that long, i would see a urologist. that way, you could completely rule out the possibility of any physical issues. otherwise, you might be going back and forth between mental and physical.