It's all in the mid-set, my man. Hey, sex feels good and makes both sexes feel wanted (even in temporarily) but making love with a woman that you love is another thing because the intimacy is there, fidelity and commitment with it. I used to think just like you, my man, but when I actually feel in love (and am still married to her) things changed. Sex is great but not as fulfilling when it is just sex. So, my advise for you in order to see that happen, is that she is not only your best friend on this planet but also your best interest as well and likewise for her. Then you will see what I mean.