Self esteem

[acceb]

I suppose I should have anticipated this, but it seems like the more I read about PE, and practice it, the lower my self esteem becomes. I haven't achieved my goal, but I am skeptical now if that will make any difference. Guys here are still unsatisfied with their measurements, and they are larger than I will probably ever be.

I am chronically addicted to pe, but I am thinking I should maybe stop, just for my own sanity. I just find it frustrating, and wondering if I need to put attention into some other area of my life. Has increased penis size ever worked out for anyone? Especially for improving self esteem, relationship issues, confidence? With a little more thought I am thinking I will actually continue, but I am wondering if its all that its made out to be, even if I reach my goals.

I am thinking I will be more desireable, have more sex, have better sex. Be more loved. But I just don't know anymore.

 

[CUSP82]

A man doesn't get his self esteem from his dick; only children get excited because they have more or bigger toys.A man gets his worth from what kind of man he is. You should know that!

 

[Messerschmidt]

Just like with anything of this sort where you're putting all of your focus on improving one aspect of yourself that you think will solve all of your problems (breast implants, weight loss, etc.) sometimes things don't work out because there are underlying doubts about self-worth that have been brushed under the table because they seem like too much to handle. The size of your penis can't be the source of your self-esteem, because there will always be someone bigger than you, and even if you do get huge, if that's where your mind is at, there are likely more unresolved issues that will keep you from finding that happiness you seek.

 

[acceb]

"A man gets his worth from what kind of man he is. You should know that! "
I wish that was all that mattered. This isn't the only arena, there is money, and clothing. I just read an article about people being judged by what kind of clothes they wear to work. Made me upset. How much money am I supposed to spend on keeping a job?

messerschmidt, I appreciate you saying what you said, but huh?

 

[Messerschmidt]

messerschmidt, I appreciate you saying what you said, but huh?

My way of speaking (and typing) can be a bit confusing at times, sorry. Basically, putting all of your focus on improving on aspect of your person rarely leads to happiness. You need to respect yourself as a whole, and PE is only a very small part of doing that, if it is relevant at all. It's hard, but you need to stop focusing on whether you gain or not and make peace with yourself as you are.

 

[acceb]

Wow, well that is better. Well I feel way better about pe, and can have it as a hobby, and not as a source of validation upon reaching a certain goal. Its exciting in and of itself to balloon my penis really large. I guess that should be enough, and not confuse it with what anyone else things, or for satisfying or impressing anyone else. that would set one up for failure for sure.

 

[CUSP82]

Those that judge you based on clothes or money are sad shallow people. Gandhi had nothing and changed a big part of the world. Others with little money or not the greatest wardrope made big contributions to life. Don't listen to what you read in a magazine; listen to your own heart and head and try to be the best person you can. You will be then judged based on what you did in life and not the suit you wore. As the Wizard of Oz said; it is not how much you loved but how much you were loved by others!

 

[Pegasus]

Unfortunate as it is cusp ,shallow people make up most of the world's population and you have to deal with them in every aspect of life. Ghandi and Budda may have got past them but it is no easy feat.
I like your general message though and I think acceb has taken it on board judging by post 6 above.

 

[CaptainUnderpants]

We are all messed up, have insecurities, failings and shortcomings. Learn to love yourself as you are. And then everything will be a bonus from there!

Waiting to get something, someone, or to acheive some goal before you "Have Arrived", only tells your unconscious that you are not worthy in your present state. Banish this thinking, and be ok with all of your flaws and with who you presently are.

I may not be perfect, but I prefer to be imperfect with a bigger rather than smaller penis.

 

[ByggD]

I suppose I should have anticipated this, but it seems like the more I read about PE, and practice it, the lower my self esteem becomes. I haven't achieved my goal, but I am skeptical now if that will make any difference. Guys here are still unsatisfied with their measurements, and they are larger than I will probably ever be.

I am chronically addicted to pe, but I am thinking I should maybe stop, just for my own sanity. I just find it frustrating, and wondering if I need to put attention into some other area of my life. Has increased penis size ever worked out for anyone? Especially for improving self esteem, relationship issues, confidence? With a little more thought I am thinking I will actually continue, but I am wondering if its all that its made out to be, even if I reach my goals.

I am thinking I will be more desireable, have more sex, have better sex. Be more loved. But I just don't know anymore.

Hmm, I think you should take a different approach then. Rather than looking at PE as a way to increase the size of your willy you should take the approach that your penis will most likely be healthier late in life. Rather than hope for size increases and watch them slowly trickle in, take the perspective that you are creating a healthier body.

If you are struggling with self-esteem issues then having a monster cock will not fill the void. You need to get your mind straight. Rather than think about the bad things think of what is great. I went through a depression not too long ago and it was because I had relatively little self-worth. I didn't feel I was very unique and I felt as though I was not attractive enough to get the kind of women I wanted. Thus, I went into self-improvement mode. It started with my body. I am pretty skinny, 6'4" at 196lbs so I decided to try to gain weight. That helped but after I lost some fat and put on 15lbs of muscle I noticed that there are other men around that are more muscular than me. Then I stopped working out because I thought, "Why bother, I know people who are benching 250lbs and have 6% body fat and they still want to be more cut and have more muscle."

That is just one experience and there are certainly more I could provide. However, it took me 25 years of life to finally understand that my happiness is completely dependent on how I perceive the world. Start looking at the bright side of things. And if you are unable to look at the positive aspects then start singing an uplifting song in your head. I sing "Three Little Birds" by Bob Marley a lot. It is a cheerful song and it makes me happy. The other option is to think of a personal event memory that makes you happy. Sometimes I will just think of my mother. I have no problem admitting I am a "mama's boy" and my mother is an inspiration to me considering the things she had to overcome.

Rather than think of PE as a way to improve your self-esteem I encourage you to look at PE as a long term investment on your body, the same is true for other exercise as well, with the added benefit of increasing your length over time. When you are older and your penis is working well and you still have an erection quality of 9/10, I would assume you would look back at this point and discover that it was critical point. You are at a period in time which you feel like you are not adequate and you feel as though you are not getting the results you hoped. Your initial excitement to PE has worn off and you are left feeling ordinary, perhaps even restless with the lack of size increase, and you are searching for answers and considering abandoning all hope. This is the point in which many people will give up. Don't fall into that temptation. It is easy to give up. I mean, in order to give up you don't have to do anything; doing nothing is pretty easy to do. Although, it is pretty boring as well and you may look back later in life and wonder what could have been had you just kept pushing.

Be happy with yourself with one caveat: strive to improve your life.

 

[MrBigDick]

a man doesn't get his self esteem from his dick; only children get excited because they have more or bigger toys.a man gets his worth from what kind of man he is. You should know that!

exactly!!!!!

 

[Miamihurricane]

acceb, You just have understand that not evryone is born with a huge cock,or is a 6ft3 star football player,or naturally skinnier than others. The thing you have to look at is that pe can increase the size of your penis. Do the things that will make you happy in the future,just like everything else in life, College degrees arent just thrown at us, we have to put the time in effort in it, same goes for ppl who want 6packs. . We all have things we want to work on,besides our penis. Some ppl want to better themselves overall, like myself. Yea I want to have a huge dick, 6pack,graduate school, be RICH! All will come with time. But you have to be proud of what you already have and who you are! Having a bigger dick will most likely give you more confidence,but won't change your life to the point where it fixes everything. Goodluck on PE and just remember, be happy with what you have...And what you will have in the future. Once you attain your gains, You'll appreciate your new penis that much more!

 

[killerbeedick]

I suppose I should have anticipated this, but it seems like the more I read about PE, and practice it, the lower my self esteem becomes. I haven't achieved my goal, but I am skeptical now if that will make any difference. Guys here are still unsatisfied with their measurements, and they are larger than I will probably ever be.

I am chronically addicted to pe, but I am thinking I should maybe stop, just for my own sanity. I just find it frustrating, and wondering if I need to put attention into some other area of my life. Has increased penis size ever worked out for anyone? Especially for improving self esteem, relationship issues, confidence? With a little more thought I am thinking I will actually continue, but I am wondering if its all that its made out to be, even if I reach my goals.

I am thinking I will be more desireable, have more sex, have better sex. Be more loved. But I just don't know anymore.

whoa buddy, don't sell yourself short for the sake penis size... i know in this day and age penis size is quite the novelty, and it just seems like even above to average porn stars can't even get jobs anymore sure... but you have to remind yourself what reality is in terms of your life before anything else... what are your goals as a person, and is your penis size going to get your there lol? i doubt it! self confidence dosn't come from dick size, but it can help, however it only helps those that might not have anything else to offer, like if you lack in one thing then advance in another like sports or phisical apperance, style or music...

in my personal experience thus far i can tell you that PE and gaining a larger sized, stronger and better penis has actualy retired me to a very overly confident lifestyle, all i care about now is how much bigger my dick gets and how much more i can tear my wifes pussy, sometimes i don't even want to work or go train in my sports because i just want to play with my dick all day lol (or have my wife do it), so in a way it can make you over confident and over complacent to the point where you think you have it all... so in other words, before you know it, all the things you have to asppire to kind of start slipping away, and thank god i realize that now and i will correct this obessesion as fallows, but i'm telling you its a scary thing to think that penis size is everything!

 

[Pegasus]

Umm kbd, you know you sound like you have issues, sounds like you are trying to sort them out, hope it goes well.

 

[JonasKay]

I suppose I should have anticipated this, but it seems like the more I read about PE, and practice it, the lower my self esteem becomes. I haven't achieved my goal, but I am skeptical now if that will make any difference. Guys here are still unsatisfied with their measurements, and they are larger than I will probably ever be.

I am chronically addicted to pe, but I am thinking I should maybe stop, just for my own sanity. I just find it frustrating, and wondering if I need to put attention into some other area of my life. Has increased penis size ever worked out for anyone? Especially for improving self esteem, relationship issues, confidence? With a little more thought I am thinking I will actually continue, but I am wondering if its all that its made out to be, even if I reach my goals.

I am thinking I will be more desireable, have more sex, have better sex. Be more loved. But I just don't know anymore.

If you need to take a break and put energy into other areas of your life, do it! Sometimes it's hard to stay motivated - whether it's at work, at the gym, at the PE gym - and a break can really help put things in perspective. Getting a bigger penis (just like having more money in my bank account or better clothes) isn't going to fix my deeply rooted issues, but it does make me walk a little bit taller.

 

[Rando]

I have to admit that it can be a bit depressing when someone who is already at your "dream goal" seems depressed with their size, but you really have to do this for yourself and not because you think life will be great "if only" I could reach some arbitrary size.

I think you would probably benefit greatly from getting into Zen b/c it talks at great length about matters such as these and how to get over them mentally so we don't constantly obsess and can focus on just living in the now and enjoying things as they are. One of the big concepts in Zen is the "if only" theory. In this case, if only I could add 1 inch in length to my penis life would be great. Guess what, once you add that one inch, life won't magically change, and once you have a taste of adding one inch you will then be saying "well I added that inch, if only I could add ANOTHER inch, boy life would be unbelievable then". We're always trying to reach a new goal and put off being happy with who we are for some random "if only".

Guess what, it isn't just penis size where this takes place, it's all aspects of life. If only I got the promotion...if I only I get that sweet new car...if only I could make 100k this year...THEN life would be great! These are all just material things that aren't really important in life. We set these goals to justify the reasons we aren't happy now, but once we reach them and find we aren't happy, we just make new ones. Material things don't make us happy, and that includes a bigger penis. You can decide RIGHT NOW that you're gonna cut the BS. You can decide that you are happy with your life and who you are RIGHT NOW, not when you have that 8x6 (or whatever size) schlong.

As others have said, you don't necessarily have to stop doing PE or trying to improve yourself via working out or whatever, you just need to do it for the right reasons. Do it for the long term health benefits and to live a healthier lifestyle and if a bigger dick or a better body comes in the process, great, but either way it doesn't affect who you are and how you feel about yourself.

 

[acceb]

Well, maybe being hung isn't that important. I am glad to hear that. But why do pe at all? Certainly thats a question to be answered if this website exists along with a lot of other sites selling extenders, pills, lotions etc... Is there some type of mental problem men collectively have about penis size the world over?