Hi, I am 27 years old. I have had premature ejaculation since my first sexual experience. I've always had a short refractory period so I just let it go and then I could go for hours the second time. I started doing a kegel/RK program about 6 months ago and I am now on a pretty advance routine (I can actually hold a full hard kegel for over 3 minutes, when I started I couldn't hold one for 3 seconds. lol) . So here's my real dilema: I can masturbate as long and as hard as I want with or without lube, or with or without porn, and literally cum when I want. I can take myself to a 9.999999 and keep stroking just as hard and pull myself back to a 7 using only my mind. I can get a handjob or blowjob for hours and often time's can't even ejaculate with either of them even if I am really trying to. But every time I have sex I loose it after a minute or so. I thought it was just a warm/moist/squishy thing that got me "over excited". But I recently bought a Fleshlight STU, and I can rail that stupid thing for hours. Even using the warming instructions and lots of lube. I usually get to the PONR with the STU after about 5 minutes, but I just shut it off like I wish I could do with real sex and I can barely get the tingle back after that. What do you think my problem is? Why can I control my ejaculation 100% with every type of stimulation but real sex?
PreE! Only in vagina. HELP!
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There are elements of head issue in this. Think of an athlete ,say a boxer who is great in the gym ,can spar like a champ but gets a match and is useless. The roar of the crowd the anticipation etc, causes him to tense up and he finds it hard to put his training into practise under these conditions. You must try and relax and apply your training is what his coach tells him.
