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Wondering if I will ever cure from Pre-E

Mw1010

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Whatsup guys,

I'm starting my own thread to get better feedback and help on my situation, because this problem is really stressing me a lot. I want to enjoy life, and dealing with Pre-E gives me a uncertain and bad feeling about my future.

Background
I'm 26 now. Didn't have PE until I was 18-19 years old. Once my dick is hard and a girl touches it, it is over within 10 seconds. No matter what she does to it. I started with bad masturbation habits on my 16th. I was jerking off to porn to feel good and release stress. Did this sometimes 3 times a day. Thought things would solve by itself, so never took the problem serious. When I was 24, I went to the doctor who gave me some pills (SSRI's) and they helped a lot. But I wasn't known of the side effects and didn't used them daily, only before sex, so never had real serious side effects, besides being a little more tired. When I became more aware off the pills I took, I didn't wanted to use them anymore and avoided sex with girls completely.

The remarkable thing is: one time I had sex after an hour of sports (cardio). I had good sex with my ex for 15 minutes back then. I've read that after a long session of cardio, the serotonin levels in the brain increase, while dopamine lowers. Which are important in regulation an ejaculation. So maybe this could be something?

Last note: I'm a entrepreneur for 2 years now. The company has grown very fast and still is, but being an entrepreneur gives lots of stress also. This for sure will not help the problem, but it's something I can't change.

Started with PE Gym + progress
Since January 2017 I started to read on the forums and started with edging and quitted porn. I also do tennisball massages 2 times a week to keep the pelvic floor relaxed (I do this with a lacrosse ball, it works better).

I ejaculated while masturbating within a minute at the beginning. Now I can edge for 20-30 min without a lot of problems or PONR's. The thing is: this only works when I'm in bed, bath or the shower, in the morning or evening, when I'm totally relaxed. Also thrusting while laying on my back goes well since last week. But, once I edge on a location or at a time with more pressure or a less relaxed state (on the toilet, on the couch with daylight, etc.) I get a PONR within minutes and then I have to start/stop the whole time. The IK's and PONR's don't really go away.

This gives me bad hope about my progress, because, when I will be with a girl, the pressure will also be higher and I will also be less relaxed because of the excitement + anxiety probably. For sure I know I will ejaculate within seconds again. The girl I will be dating with, wants me for more then a year, but I always kept her away from me because of this problem. If there is a girl I can practice with, this is her. But still it gives tons of stress, because I don't want to disappoint her, because she is girlfriend material and I'm afraid that even she will left me after a while. She is a really sexy AND loyal girl, who doesn't fuck with guys easily, but in my opinion: every girl wants to have normal sex, no matter how much you like someone or how loyal you are.

Thoughts and questions
After 2,5 months, I have a lot of thoughts and questions of which the ones below are the ones who come up to my mind the most.

Thoughts

* Sometimes I want to grab to the pill again to have normal sex like almost everyone
* I don't want to use a pill because then you have to plan sex and don't want side effects
* I can't build a family while having this problem, so no future
* Severe Pre-E is something you have to deal with the rest of your life
* No girl will like you when you have Pre-E

Questions

* Are there people, who came within seconds, who actually solved Pre-E for good? I know some people who made progress, but also saw people coming back to the forum.
* How can I get rid of the IK's while the arousal/stimulations are higher?
* My dick is irritated and dry since a few weeks, can this come due to too much edging?
* Are there people here who have a good relationship with their girlfriend who doesn't mind the Pre-E?
* Has had anybody the same effects while having sex after sporting (cardio) for an hour?

I try not to focus on this problem too much, because life is too beautiful and I want to enjoy life and be happy. But the depressed feeling this problem is giving, is killing me sometimes. It changes me as a person and I will not let that happen. I want to build a family and be the happy person I always was.

I will see this girl upcoming Sunday, so after a few weeks we will have sex. For sure I will update this thread with my progress (if there is) and hope to help other people with this same problem.

Thanks for the help fella's. You all probably know this depressed feeling of not getting a girl satisfied anymore.
 
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Well , I am also a new member here , i was reading the fourm too ,

i had the same problem too ,

I was making love and told my girl to touch mine , but in a couple of second it's gone ,
i came ,

later i understand my problem is overstimuation , it's hard to contorl your passion when you know that you are having sex ,
i also cums once from just knowing that my girl is going to give me a blowjob ,

i can deal with this problem now , i have to go for 2nd round , i cum before 20min and then go for 2nd round

i can have normal and hard sex even better than any normal people ,

maybe you could try this ,

i just wanted to share something of my own experience ,
 

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You mean you can have sex for 20 minutes in your second round?

When I cum, it won't get hard for like the next 30 min.
 

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i don't think you are alone in this at all. this is an obstacle in your life that you can overcome. it definitely will take a lot of work and self control. learning your body thoroughly.

BUT IT WILL BE TOTALLY WORTH IT!

i encourage you to beat this thing. literally and mentally. lol
 

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Hey man, just wanna say that I'm in the same boat and have been for all my life. I can relate to everything you say and the lonely feeling about the problem. Pre-E is really a nasty problem and everyman "cursed" by it will hate it. For the stress aspect of the problem I can recommend a technique called EFT/Emotional Freedom Technique. Look it up, it really lowers stress/anxiety levels and puts your mind at peace. As for the physical aspect, try yoga. I found this deep hip opening yoga program on youtube and I find it truly delightful and relaxing. I can link it if you would like.

I am by NO means an expert on any levels (very newb haha), but most of all just wanna say that i feel your situation 100%.

Best of luck!!
 

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Thoughts

1. Sometimes I want to grab to the pill again to have normal sex like almost everyone
2. I don't want to use a pill because then you have to plan sex and don't want side effects
3. I can't build a family while having this problem, so no future
4. Severe Pre-E is something you have to deal with the rest of your life
5. No girl will like you when you have Pre-E

Questions

6. Are there people, who came within seconds, who actually solved Pre-E for good? I know some people who made progress, but also saw people coming back to the forum.
7.How can I get rid of the IK's while the arousal/stimulations are higher?
8. My dick is irritated and dry since a few weeks, can this come due to too much edging?
9. Are there people here who have a good relationship with their girlfriend who doesn't mind the Pre-E?
10. Has had anybody the same effects while having sex after sporting (cardio) for an hour?

1. Go ahead. No one is stopping you, but no one is having normal sex. Everyone's sex life is individual.
2. So don't. No one is forcing you.
3. Why not? You can still ejaculate. In fact you could say you are GREAT at ejaculating. Not bad at not ejaculating.
4. PreE is tough. It will take time to beat but you've already made great progress. Don't let perfectionism get in the way of appreciating small successes.
5. Girls already like you even though you have PreE. You've had to push a great one away for a long time. You did that because of anxiety and perfectionism. You are not perfect. Neither is she. Neither of you ever will be. The beauty and struggle of life is getting better while accepting the current situation.

6. I did. Many others have. The sticky is your friend.
https://www.pegym.com/forums/premat...10-premature-ejaculation-success-stories.html
7. How have your improved anything is your life? Study and failure.
8. Use lube if you aren't. Use better lube if you are.
9. Yes. She minded. But I do many other things that she hates even more, and she still loves me. I am a ball of improving imperfections.
10. There was a thread about the cure to PreE being cardio. Specifically sprinting 4x a week I think. That's way too much sprinting for me and most people. Although I believe neurotransmitter changes are probably helpful. I believe its more about exhausting some muscles and strengthening others. You can do that without the amount of impact that sprinting 4x a week would have on your joints.
https://www.pegym.com/forums/premature-ejaculation-forum/100403-cure-premature-ejaculation-exercise.html


I would say that your problem currently isn't PreE. It's anxiety. Meditate for 10 minutes twice a day.

Try cognitive behavioral therapy. Try EFT from above. You're also rich enough to try out a few psychologists to find a great one for you.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cognitive_behavioral_therapy
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emotional_Freedom_Techniques


 
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