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Unfortunately, there is no magical spell or catchy phrase that is going to make a female hop in bed with you. In my time here and at Betterman's there seems to be a high correlation with guys who have confidence in themselves, being outgoing, funny and humorous, and willing to talk to women. These guys seem to be very successful in going out with women and subsequently having sex with them.

On the other hand, there seems to be a high correlation with guys who wallow in self-pity, obsess over their penis size and make excuse after excuse to not ask girls out, also. These guys get very few dates, which obviously leads to less sex.

I am not trying to make anyone feel bad; on the contrary, I am trying to help some of you. Don't get discouraged if you have one or more bad experiences with a female. Use it as a learning tool and then go out and ask another girl out. Remember, some girls are petty, spiteful bitches. Don't let them destroy your self-confidence or get you to believe that all women act the way they do.

I would like some input as to why it is so hard to do the above. Or, is it more fun to sit in front of a computer screen and masturbate to porn than to go out and meet a girl and create your own porn?
 

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I'm so excited for tomorrow!! My first time renting a hotel, first time with a condom yeuuhhh hopefully first doggy style (she only likes cowgirl....nothing more) But we're still NOOBS!! IM SO EXCITED!!! Ever since I woke up this morning i've been ready for sunday
 

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I'm so excited for tomorrow!! My first time renting a hotel, first time with a condom yeuuhhh hopefully first doggy style (she only likes cowgirl....nothing more) But we're still NOOBS!! IM SO EXCITED!!! Ever since I woke up this morning i've been ready for sunday
High Five!!! and have fun:becky:....Let us know how it was with your "date"..
 

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High Five!!! and have fun:becky:....Let us know how it was with your "date"..

i won't be able to post pictures, but we're going to see the harlem globetrotters an then staying at the westin bonaventure!! Goodbye paycheck!! i already bought "durex extra thin"....i dunno they were at CVS and i just kinda grabbed em i didnt want to pretend like im looking because its so awkward feeling when other people see you staring at condoms >.<
 

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It's hard because most of the users on this site are age 18-25 (that is just my rough guess). For guys like me who are in still in college, the majority of girls are just...hard to come by. The ones we always go after already have a long line of guys behind them, and therefore see us new guys as nothing more than fodder.

For myself, never in my life have I had a random hook up with a girl I met that night. All the girls I have ever gotten with I have known through class, and it's never until like, the fourth or fifth time we hang out that maybe something happens.
 

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You're absolutely right, obviously.

Sometimes it feels good to complain and do nothing about it.

Every man eventually gets off his ass and talks to the chick he likes.
 

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You're absolutely right, obviously.

Sometimes it feels good to complain and do nothing about it.

Every man eventually gets off his ass and talks to the chick he likes.

and this haha :)
 

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Unfortunately, there is no magical spell or catchy phrase that is going to make a female hop in bed with you. In my time here and at Betterman's there seems to be a high correlation with guys who have confidence in themselves, being outgoing, funny and humorous, and willing to talk to women. These guys seem to be very successful in going out with women and subsequently having sex with them.

On the other hand, there seems to be a high correlation with guys who wallow in self-pity, obsess over their penis size and make excuse after excuse to not ask girls out, also. These guys get very few dates, which obviously leads to less sex.

I am not trying to make anyone feel bad; on the contrary, I am trying to help some of you. Don't get discouraged if you have one or more bad experiences with a female. Use it as a learning tool and then go out and ask another girl out. Remember, some girls are petty, spiteful bitches. Don't let them destroy your self-confidence or get you to believe that all women act the way they do.

I would like some input as to why it is so hard to do the above. Or, is it more fun to sit in front of a computer screen and masturbate to porn than to go out and meet a girl and create your own porn?


I think for some guys, it's hard to do the above because the self confidence simply isn't there. As in anything that requires effort, masturbating to porn on the net is easier for some than going out, talking to women, getting a little play and eventually getting into bed with them. I think it also depends on what you are looking for too. My last relationship taught me alot and I'm viewing it as a total learning experience. I'm also of the age where I'm actually wanting Mrs. Right..............while I wouldn't take a one night stand if given the opportunity, that's not ultimately what I want. I'd like to remarry and have my life partner. Then again, I'm approaching 40 so my outlook is a bit different than many guys here who are in their late teens to mid 20's.

I think what's at the core of this is the self confidence card. If you aren't confident about who you are as a man, where you're heading in life and what assets you bring to the table, you're going to strike out with women (unless you've got those chiseled good looks, a ripped physique and a huge 9" dong hangin' off you, you're likely to get rejected unless your self esteem and confidence are well in check).

I'm a very outgoing, congenial, fun type of guy who has no problem approaching a woman on the street and striking up a blind conversation. It simply doesn't bother me. But, that's me..........
 

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For me, i have no problem talking to girls I'm not particularly interested in and being my usual funny and quirky self but when I'm around any girl i have interest in I'm just not able to project my normal usual self. Thus attracting the girls i have little to no interest in. Just a confidence thing i guess!?!
 

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for me personaly the way americans deal with woman compared from like me in uk is like 2 complete different worlds like cheese and chalk,such a major differanceso much pressure is put on people they get to the stage they dont want to get "laid" first time i got some was 13 which is normal here iv always thot myself as small tho that doesnt make me want it less! if anything it was the girls that wer more causious whre im from anyway im quite confident right enough dont really no if its just my opinion!
 

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Hard to say for me, I'm a virgin and 18 so I would like to have a real girl over porn anyday:D. The only reason I have not had sex is because I feel I have a small penis. I have had girlfriends, but only one I have been on a date with if that makes sense. Never even had my first kiss yet. Not making any generalizations here or bragging but I am real athletic, fairly good looking, and I love to talk to people and be funny. It's just that when it comes to my penis size I feel worthless. I know I shouldn't put too much emphasis on it but it is hard not to. I am here for this reason, I hope a bigger me will give me that extra boost of confidence to "complete" me, haha.
 

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Hard to say for me, I'm a virgin and 18 so I would like to have a real girl over porn anyday:D. The only reason I have not had sex is because I feel I have a small penis. I have had girlfriends, but only one I have been on a date with if that makes sense. Never even had my first kiss yet. Not making any generalizations here or bragging but I am real athletic, fairly good looking, and I love to talk to people and be funny. It's just that when it comes to my penis size I feel worthless. I know I shouldn't put too much emphasis on it but it is hard not to. I am here for this reason, I hope a bigger me will give me that extra boost of confidence to "complete" me, haha.


Your feelings of inadequacy are all in your head bro. You should NEVER feel inadequate because of your size.
 

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Hard to say for me, I'm a virgin and 18 so I would like to have a real girl over porn anyday:D. The only reason I have not had sex is because I feel I have a small penis. I have had girlfriends, but only one I have been on a date with if that makes sense. Never even had my first kiss yet. Not making any generalizations here or bragging but I am real athletic, fairly good looking, and I love to talk to people and be funny. It's just that when it comes to my penis size I feel worthless. I know I shouldn't put too much emphasis on it but it is hard not to. I am here for this reason, I hope a bigger me will give me that extra boost of confidence to "complete" me, haha.


I hope your time here helps you become more positive about yourself. You've named four wonderful attributes about yourself. Now you just have to act on them with the girls. You have so much to offer them. As soon as you realize this and act on it, the sooner you will realize how unimportant the size of your penis really is.
 

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I'm so excited for tomorrow!! My first time renting a hotel, first time with a condom yeuuhhh hopefully first doggy style (she only likes cowgirl....nothing more) But we're still NOOBS!! IM SO EXCITED!!! Ever since I woke up this morning i've been ready for sunday

Good luck, young chap. Enjoy!! I LOOOOOOVE doggy style. You want to have fun with the sales people? You stop at the condom display and wait until there is a sales person around, then you keep handling the super XXX magnums, "trying to make up your mind." Then, when you take them to the counter to pay for them, you hand them to the sales girl, and announce in a loud voice, "Is this the largest size condom you carry here?" :evil::madgrin:
 

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Good luck, young chap. Enjoy!! I LOOOOOOVE doggy style. You want to have fun with the sales people? You stop at the condom display and wait until there is a sales person around, then you keep handling the super XXX magnums, "trying to make up your mind." Then, when you take them to the counter to pay for them, you hand them to the sales girl, and announce in a loud voice, "Is this the largest size condom you carry here?" :evil::madgrin:

You know going411by7, that sounds funny as hell and I've just enough brass balls to pull that off. Funny stuff man!!

"2, 4 ,6 8, doggy style is really great!.......doggy style, doggy style, yyyeeeeAAAHHHHH doggy style!!!!" lol
 

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You know going411by7, that sounds funny as hell and I've just enough brass balls to pull that off. Funny stuff man!!

"2, 4 ,6 8, doggy style is really great!.......doggy style, doggy style, yyyeeeeAAAHHHHH doggy style!!!!" lol
MrBD, LOL....You could not help your self from saying that chear...Huh?...LOL :becky:!
 

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I've been 21 for awhile, but I've never gone out to the bars before. I went tonight with three of my friends, and to be honest I have no idea how people actually think it's a good idea to pick up/meet people there.
 

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Hard to say for me, I'm a virgin and 18 so I would like to have a real girl over porn anyday:D. The only reason I have not had sex is because I feel I have a small penis. I have had girlfriends, but only one I have been on a date with if that makes sense. Never even had my first kiss yet. Not making any generalizations here or bragging but I am real athletic, fairly good looking, and I love to talk to people and be funny. It's just that when it comes to my penis size I feel worthless. I know I shouldn't put too much emphasis on it but it is hard not to. I am here for this reason, I hope a bigger me will give me that extra boost of confidence to "complete" me, haha.
You think you have small penis? You're wrong! I looked at the stats you posted

Start-
fl- 3.5"
fg- around 4"
nbpel- 5.5"
bpel- 6.25"
eg- around 4.5"

and I am appalled that you think you're small. You are the size of most of the guys I have ever had sex with, and it has been JUST FINE. You're just regular normal size! I think your view of penis size has been badly skewed by watching porn. Trust me, girls are going to be perfectly happy with your cock regardless of whether or not you make it bigger. Focus on learning to be a caring, considerate lover and you will do great!
 

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I've been 21 for awhile, but I've never gone out to the bars before. I went tonight with three of my friends, and to be honest I have no idea how people actually think it's a good idea to pick up/meet people there.
I know what you mean, bars fucking suck. Some are cool. But for the most part they are loud, crowded, and too expensive.
 

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Ever heard of the old saying, if it sounds like a duck and walks like a duck... Sorry, but excuses are excuses. How long will guys play the "lack of self-confidence" or "my penis is too small" or "my former girfriend was mean to me" cards before they realize the only way to overcome their fear is to continue to talk to women. Reading articles, listening to other guys complain about women, reading posts at this website, etc. are not going to give them the self-confidence they are looking for.

Also, I was talking about guys meeting a female to date, not screwing her an hour after meeting her. (They can write Happy Stud for that!) Young people should be concerned about getting their education and/or starting/establishing a career. Relax and just have fun. If a girl is really, really special then your heart will tell you. Otherwise, go out and have fun and don't put so much pressure on yourself. I see high school guys walking around school all day long with sad, long faces because their girlfriend broke up with them. A couple of years ago, one guy committed suicide over his GF breaking up with him.

The point I am trying to make is the more females a guy goes out with, the more experience he has. This can only help him when he gets a bit older and wants to settle down with someone. My frustration is some of you don't want to put forth this effort for a variety of reasons, then unfortunately when you do see/meet the girl of your dreams, you panic because you have no or very little experience to woo her. My suggestion here is just go out with no ulterior motives. I think some of you think it is a waste of time to just go out and have fun. If no sex is involved or if she is someone you cannot see yourself getting serious with, you don't want to go out with her. And I disagree with that attitude. Dating someone does not mean you HAVE to date her forever!