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The journey of becoming PE free

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Gents,

So, I have been lurking here for many years - actually over 10 years. Read plenty of information on penis enlargement and worked on a routine for 3-4 years with hanging, jelking, kegels, etc. Simply stopped the routines because I was happy where I was and it wasn't a priority in my life any longer.

However, this time I'm returning with more troublesome issues, that I would humbly appreciate input, encouragement and some wise words on.

History
I'm 33 years old. When I started my sexual career for real, at 19-20 years of age, I could have sex for hours - literally - and only ejaculate once in the end. I remember meeting girls that were impressed with my stamina. At that point, I took it for granted and wondered if this wasn't the case for all men. At 23, I met my first girlfriend and we had fantastic sex for three years until our relationship ended.

Since 26 years of age, I have not been in a serious relationship, but met with plenty of women along the road - some of which I have had regular sex with for months/years, but also longer periods without any sexual interactions. At some point, and I can't recall exactly when, but think it was around 28 years of age, I started to lose my ability to control my ejaculation. It has worsen over the years and I am now in a position where I can't even control my ejaculation when masturbating. Looking in the mirror - I can't understand how I ended-up here.

The triggering point for signing-up here and properly trying to resolve this problem, was when the super hot chick I'm currently dating since three months, said that this is major problem for her. I'm actually quite devastated, because I like her allot.

Statements and reflections on my problem
- I have always been concerned about not getting an erection when being with women, and consequently been using plenty of viagra, cialis, etc., when having sex. The only girl I did not use pills with, was my girlfriend from age 23-26.
- I struggle with getting and maintaining an erection when being with a woman without using some magic pill.
- I have no issues in getting and maintaining an erection when masturbating on my own.
- I live extremely healthy with workouts 5 days/week.
- I have a quite low confidence in social interactions, but I doubt that people in general see it that way.
- I have been watching porn daily since age 26 - no obsession, but around 30 minutes in the evening. Before 26, I watched more like 3-4 times per week.
- I have recently come to the conclusion that I have tight pelvic floor muscles. I have a bad habit of sucking in my stomach and ass unconsciously. When I have my morning erection, I can literally feel how my pelvic muscles are contracting involuntarily.

Actions taken
- I went to my doctor and explained the situation last week. Took some tests; testosterone, diabetes & creatinine. The latter was slightly high, and additional testing will follow. However, I have understood that people with high muscle mass can have higher values normally, which would be my case. (Side note: I have never used steroids.) The doctor examined my prostate, but found it to be normal. I have now been referred to a urologist, awaiting a date for an appointment.
- Stopped watching porn since one month back.
- Have started a routine with edging for 20-30 minutes 5 days/week, with ejaculation every 3rd time.
- Have purchased a FL, but can't use it without ejaculating within 30 seconds.
- Do 20 minutes of breathing exercises with RKs every evening before bedtime.

All input is as mentioned, much welcome. I will use this thread to update my progress a couple of days per week. I have a date with the super hot chick tomorrow again - so in the next update I will summarize the sex (hopefully :D)

Thanks for reading
Magie
 

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When you last as long as you want, you usually do something, keep PF relaxed etc. Do you remember what you have been doing? What has changed in terms of what you do while thrusting etc. ?

What is the discription of your workouts? Many heavy compound moves? There is a possibility that progression with those you unconciously disturbed your PF or maybe some other parts of your body.
Do you use any testostrone boosters or IGFs for muscle building? Creatine Monohydrate (in some cases affects kidneys, although companies try to cover it)?

Also, how is your urine frequency?
I hopw blood sugar test comes normal and all the rest can be solved through simple trainings.
 

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So on the drug use you were a young guy with no sex problems and limitless endurance and you used "plenty" of drugs for "confidence ". Is this correct?
 

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When you last as long as you want, you usually do something, keep PF relaxed etc. Do you remember what you have been doing? What has changed in terms of what you do while thrusting etc. ?

What is the discription of your workouts? Many heavy compound moves? There is a possibility that progression with those you unconciously disturbed your PF or maybe some other parts of your body.
Do you use any testostrone boosters or IGFs for muscle building? Creatine Monohydrate (in some cases affects kidneys, although companies try to cover it)?

Also, how is your urine frequency?
I hopw blood sugar test comes normal and all the rest can be solved through simple trainings.

Thanks for the reply and kind words!

I have been trying to remember and put myself back in time to when things were working good, and I'm quite certain that I was completely relaxed in the PF. I remember I just did some kegels when fucking if I felt that the erection quality good too low, and then continued fucking.

That is a thought that has crossed my mind as well, but the issues occurred quite long after I stopped the routines. I did hanging 4-5 days/week for 15-20 minutes and 50 kegels left, right, out and upwards and finally did jelking, approx. 50 reps.

No testo boosters or creatine, only BCAA one scope per day.

I think my urine frequency is higher than normal, and quite often I get the urge to pee on short notice. I also struggle with proper urine flow, but have noticed that the RKs have increased the flow.
 

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So on the drug use you were a young guy with no sex problems and limitless endurance and you used "plenty" of drugs for "confidence ". Is this correct?

Yes Sir, I would say that's a correct description, but with the exception when having sex with my ex gf between the age of 23-26. Then I used no "drugs" and things worked awesome.
 

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Yes Sir, I would say that's a correct description, but with the exception when having sex with my ex gf between the age of 23-26. Then I used no "drugs" and things worked awesome.

So explain the drug use again I don't quite get it ?
 

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- I struggle with getting and maintaining an erection when being with a woman without using some magic pill.
- I have no issues in getting and maintaining an erection when masturbating on my own.
I’m guessing porn-induced erectile dysfunction. You’re young with no morbidities, it’s probably psychological.
 

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I'm 22 and cutting out porn seriously helped my EQ. Since 17/18 I stopped getting random erections, and morning wood. 3 months ago I cut out porn, and now I get morning wood almost daily. I didn't notice much of a difference after 1 month of quitting porn. Try giving it more time.

[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Tahoma, Calibri, Geneva, sans-serif]"I have no issues in getting and maintaining an erection when masturbating on my own." [/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Tahoma, Calibri, Geneva, sans-serif]Sounds like porn induced ED.[/FONT]
 
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I'm 22 and cutting out porn seriously helped my EQ. Since 17/18 I stopped getting random erections, and morning wood. 3 months ago I cut out porn, and now I get morning wood almost daily. I didn't notice much of a difference after 1 month of quitting porn. Try giving it more time.

"I have no issues in getting and maintaining an erection when masturbating on my own."
Sounds like porn induced ED.

Did you cut just porn or all artificial sexual stimuli?
 

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I'm 22 and cutting out porn seriously helped my EQ. Since 17/18 I stopped getting random erections, and morning wood. 3 months ago I cut out porn, and now I get morning wood almost daily. I didn't notice much of a difference after 1 month of quitting porn. Try giving it more time.

"I have no issues in getting and maintaining an erection when masturbating on my own."
Sounds like porn induced ED.

I have morning wood, and always have had, but agree; I might very well have porn induced ED. Nothing makes me as horny as watching porn, but I will not be doing so for a long time, if ever.
 

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So explain the drug use again I don't quite get it ?

I have used viagra or cialis in 95% of all sexual encounters, except for when I was with my ex gf between age 23-26. I have seen it as a guarantee of being rock hard and able to perform.
 

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I have used viagra or cialis in 95% of all sexual encounters, except for when I was with my ex gf between age 23-26. I have seen it as a guarantee of being rock hard and able to perform.

Uhhuh so it is not normal to believe advertising so what thought process led you to this view.
Uhuh and what have you found ?
 

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Update from last nights events.

Spent the evening the super hot chick. We had dinner at her place, enjoyed each others company and watched a movie. After some kissing and touching on the couch, we proceeded to the bedroom.

Once we got to the bedroom, we did plenty of kissing and I fingered her to an orgasm. Then went on to fuck her. Had her in missionary position with legs on my shoulders. Started to thrust very slowly and concentrated on the breathing. However, I could feel how my complete body was becoming tense and all muscles really clinching. Started to thrust harder, but with the same frequency. I could see that see enjoyed it as she started to pull my back and ass to fuck her faster, which I did. At that point, I lasted another 30 seconds maybe. In total, I was probably inside her somewhere between 2-4 minutes.

I was really trying to catch my breath afterwards, which I interpret as too much muscle tension and just doing short breathing with the chest. This is something I will try to focus more on next time.

She is now off to vacation for 4 weeks, so there will not be any sex for a period of time. Instead, I will use the period to work hard with the routines. Should also add that I have started doing some tennis ball massages and hindi squats to try to release some tension in the PF.
 

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Uhhuh so it is not normal to believe advertising so what thought process led you to this view.
Uhuh and what have you found ?

I get what you mean, but it definitely increases my erection quality. It is an interesting thought though, saying that the drug is as much a mental bridge as a physical assistance.
 

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You should not need drugs to get a quality erection . Sounds like you could work on confidence as a mental quality .
lack of confidence will hurt physical performance in many ways including stamina and erection quality.

I suspect the drugs are implicated your loss of stamina .
 

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Update from last nights events.

Spent the evening the super hot chick. We had dinner at her place, enjoyed each others company and watched a movie. After some kissing and touching on the couch, we proceeded to the bedroom.

Once we got to the bedroom, we did plenty of kissing and I fingered her to an orgasm. Then went on to fuck her. Had her in missionary position with legs on my shoulders. Started to thrust very slowly and concentrated on the breathing. However, I could feel how my complete body was becoming tense and all muscles really clinching. Started to thrust harder, but with the same frequency. I could see that see enjoyed it as she started to pull my back and ass to fuck her faster, which I did. At that point, I lasted another 30 seconds maybe. In total, I was probably inside her somewhere between 2-4 minutes.

I was really trying to catch my breath afterwards, which I interpret as too much muscle tension and just doing short breathing with the chest. This is something I will try to focus more on next time.

She is now off to vacation for 4 weeks, so there will not be any sex for a period of time. Instead, I will use the period to work hard with the routines. Should also add that I have started doing some tennis ball massages and hindi squats to try to release some tension in the PF.

If you don't mind me asking, how did she react?

At least for me, I think part of the reason my symptoms worsened was a few years ago, a girl called me out aggressively for not being able to last after we hooked up a few times and my endurance didn't improve. In my latest relationship, I could see my ex getting frustrated at the stop and go nature of only lasting briefly the longer our relationship went on. It's not my experience with every girl, but it's definitely something I'm self-conscious to now that I'm older and the girls I'm dating are older (as opposed to the 18 year olds I was with when I was 18).
 

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You should not need drugs to get a quality erection . Sounds like you could work on confidence as a mental quality .
lack of confidence will hurt physical performance in many ways including stamina and erection quality.

I suspect the drugs are implicated your loss of stamina .

That's a fair statement and I agree it's something that requires work. Any tips on how to improve confidence when it comes to sex?
 

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If you don't mind me asking, how did she react?

At least for me, I think part of the reason my symptoms worsened was a few years ago, a girl called me out aggressively for not being able to last after we hooked up a few times and my endurance didn't improve. In my latest relationship, I could see my ex getting frustrated at the stop and go nature of only lasting briefly the longer our relationship went on. It's not my experience with every girl, but it's definitely something I'm self-conscious to now that I'm older and the girls I'm dating are older (as opposed to the 18 year olds I was with when I was 18).

When I brought up the issue with her the first time she clearly said that it's a problem for her - which I think is a fair thing to say. However, I explained to her that I will follow-up and try to solve it in any possible way, and since then she has been more relaxed about.

After the sex this time, she asked what I was thinking and I said that I felt frustrated and embarrassed. She then said; "Don't think about, I'm aware of the situation and I still had sex with you". I take that as, at least partially, an acceptance from her.

Agree with you, the stress of how your partner will react can make it worse.
 

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That's a fair statement and I agree it's something that requires work. Any tips on how to improve confidence when it comes to sex?

When you start working on your PF, you start to understand how it works (or other issues, conditions which are causing this, however normally it is hip or PF). That's the main confidence you need, after a while
you get
in which condition your ejaculatory response is under control, you try to reach that condition and then there's nothing to worry about.
Even now, before sex I check everything and still many times I need to adjust my PF to some extent to be in the optimal condition. When PF gets there, then maximum confidence.