The Gym changed our family for the better.

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When i first stared getting to know Proactive and we started dating the gym was one of the first big things we talked about. How it was far more than just a penis growth web site it was his support group. His place, where he knew he was 110% accepted. When he invited me to join I was really very worried that i was intruding in a place where he was safe. But, with his continued encouragement i became Wildflower. Tonight I recieved the privilage and honor of watching my man helped HIS boy start to become a man. Our 3rd to oldest boy is 13.... and has recently hit puberty.

Good lord, i had no idea how emotional teenage boys were till now. Along with the constant mood swings came electronics. They've been confiscated many a time. Well this time the interweb browsing history was checked. Yep you guessed it boys and girls the grand world of porn has now reached our little mans eye balls. Pro and I took some time to decided what to do. It was some pretty hard core stuff. My guess more he was curious. The titles can be alluring.

We talked tonight. Pro was astounding!! Proud as a wife doesn't even begin to say how i feel. He shared his personal struggles. How porn could effect his (our boys) entire sex life. He shared it had effected his previous marrige. And how it can effect our boys body long term. From pre ejeculation to penial dysfunction. And so much more.

Our boy left our living room tonight feeling respected. He felt LOVED and a valuable member of our family. He didnt feel shamed or hurt or dirty. He had learned. And gleaned wisdom from his father.

The Gym has made our family more healthy as a whole unit. Its made my husband more healthy as hes learned what his own sexual health looks like. Its made me more healthy has ive come to realize the importance of a place for men to feel safe. And how often that safe place is not their own home. We will raise men and women who are healthy in many ways because of the gym. Its taught me also how to communicate with men in a more healthy way. I have so many thank yous to give to the gym and not enough words and ways to say it.

But tonight i can say Im proud. Proud of the man i married proud of the boy i saw come into our living room and the young man i saw leave. Proud to be part of the gym where men and a few lucky women have a place where they need not worry. They are safe welcome and encouraged to be bluntly honest about their flaws.

Tonight i get to brag about the stud of a man i married. Proud to be the jelly to his peanut butter.
 

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Also, the sex is the best ive ever had. 😉 and it only keeps getting better.
 

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Power to you both.
 

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Amazing, there's a great lesson to be learned here about communication and openness among families even when it comes to uncomfortable topics. In the long run, that boy will benefit so much from the wisdom shared with him. More importantly, he will always know that he has two people he can talk to about anything.
 

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Thanks, a very uplifting and insightful post.

Applause !!!!!
 

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Awesome how openness and honesty can bring people together. Great Post!
 

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Great post.
 

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I love this so much!!!!! Thank you for sharing. :)
 

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Great post.

Agreed. The conversation about the Birds and the Bees has been made so much more difficult with the advent of internet porn. I wish I had found this place earlier while my son was going through those ‘growing years ‘, both physically and libido wise. The only saving grace for him was that he was blessed downstairs, so he didn’t see much of a difference between himself and the guys in porn. Hopefully his idea of sex vs making love has matured away from the BS that porn portrayes.

PS. None of our business but I’d love to know what was said. How he took it? Sounds like it went well. I’d imagine a lot of it revolves around Pro’s issue from porn. The, Ben there, done that kinda a thing.

Congrats to you both. And congratulations to your man son. I look forward to meeting him in 5 years when he’s old enough for membership at the Gym.
 

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Moving to Success Forum. :)
 

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I would love to take the credit and I usually do around here but what he did, what you both did, didn't come from the gym. He and you both had it inside always and it took a little snooping to bring out what you both already knew but I will say that you anyway.
 

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You both sound a very happy couple and you enjoying your sex lives, just keep it up in more ways than one, and Pro is doing the right things for his son.

Just keep it going your great.

NOWHARD
 

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PS. None of our business but I’d love to know what was said. How he took it? Sounds like it went well. I’d imagine a lot of it revolves around Pro’s issue from porn. The, Ben there, done that kinda a thing.

Party. My goal was to wait and allow pro to actually speak on this. Dork wont get on the gym these days. Too busy working and pumping and being amazing.... so ill have to update.

But yes porn was spoken about as well as masturbation and what is actually super healthy and how to deal with those super healthy urges in a normal way. (Behind a door that sister and others wont walk through. Lol) we expressed that hes smart and because of that we werent going to dumb things down for him. But we also made a big point that the hiding, sneeking around and lying made him untrust worthy. That he should be worthy of trust because we see his worth. And he is worth being trusted.

We also talked about how no normal womans boobs and vags ever look like the ones in porn. So he was setting himself up for huge disapointment with his future bride. And we explained how he was worth a really healthy happy marrige. So we werent going to allow him to hurt his marrige before hes even met his future wife. Theres more but kids are comming home and i gotta go be mama. Will finish this later.
 

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Awesome! It continues to amaze me that it took my insecurities to lead me to a site like this, only to realize how damaging porn is.
 

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Great post!
 

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This is indeed a great post. If the world learned how to communicate better with each other and our children, it would be so much better.
 

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Update to the Proactive and Wildflower life. Longer post sorry it's been a while.

Going through my phone I came across some of his old post I've saved that are rather dear to my heart. Figured I'd update those that are still around who knew us. More so him, I came in closer to the end. Encouragement for all the gentlemen out there working for those gains. Once you find yourself a woman who is completely sexually fulfilled by you. She'll tell ya when your member is bouncing off her belly button and you can just maintain what ya got. Lol cuz I'll tell y'all now. My man got the goods and I'm a well satisfied woman.

We've rung in 5 years together now. Man, it's crazy to think he started posting about this mystery woman 5 years ago. The last 5 years has brought us through many gains and many losses. We got married, blended 7 kids in our home together for quite some time. Have lost much, it has in many ways brought us closer but none the less very painful. I'll be damned if there weren't many times we didn't feel like throwing in the towel. We didn't though, and it shows. We are better together. We've both seen how strongly independent we both are, and its a huge reason why we both love eachother deeply. It's funny how the thing you love about some one the most can also be the thing that'll drive you batshit crazy. Lol oh what a wonderfully hard challenge. I'll say for our story, the sex is still amazing!! That never stopped not once. Stress in life has its eb and flow so does the consistency of our sex life at time. But in reality with the amount of stress we both carry from our previous marriges plus a hord or youngins well, you can imagine. But dang, he's still the sexiest man I've ever had the pleasure of putting my hands on. And just for the record. I've well over passed him up in the O race. I'll beat him 10 to 1 most nights. He has skills the are god like level.

We've taken a huge plug with eachother recently to culminate to both our end dreams. We're working towards buying property (190 acers almost) to build a homestead and hobby farm. My goal was to help him retire early by selling my 1st home.. But I'm afraid by doing so we both may have just given each other a bit more work than we bargained for. Both houses will be sold and at this point if we haven't gone through it, well it's about time we did. I gotta be honest, I couldn't see myself going through this huge life change with any one else. We gather strength from eachother. And warmth at night ;). Sex in the woods won't be so novel as much as common place for us kids. Hehe I look forward to it.

All that to say, we're still alive. We're together and better for it... the sex is still amazing, and he's aging life a fine wine. The gym gave both him and I confidence in the bedroom that has been far more I could have ever wanted as a woman. PS. My own gains stopped wearing a bra a few months back the girls are mighty happy and plump as can be. Pro has no grievances yet. Other than we could both stand with more time rubbing fuzzies always.
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