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Sexual ability and partner choice

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Ok so does a womans sexual ability affect your partner choice ?
If so is it her ability to give the best bj or the ability to piv orgasm or something else?
 

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Ok so does a womans sexual ability affect your partner choice ?
If so is it her ability to give the best bj or the ability to piv orgasm or something else?

Hmm? IDK. Only been with my one gal, my wife, together for 40 years. Obviously if you’ve read my other posts you all know that my wife is super hyper multi orgasmic. Do I take credit for that? Yes and no. Sure, I’ve made some gains, and can last forever...but I still think that a bigger hard cock would rock her world.
 

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I guess I’ll always wonder.
 

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Ok so does a womans sexual ability affect your partner choice ?
If so is it her ability to give the best bj or the ability to piv orgasm or something else?
No woman is a complete package. You get what you get and you train her to step her sex game.
 

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Ok so does a womans sexual ability affect your partner choice ?
If so is it her ability to give the best bj or the ability to piv orgasm or something else?

I'll be honest, it is a factor. Or was.
I have had a few long term partners and a few short term partners. And I'd be lying if I denied that the short terms ones were "short" due in some to sexual incompatibility.
Indeed, the best sexual partner I have had is my wife.

Of course, I have to ask myself if the sexual comparability comes from something else. Have they been good fits with me for other reasons, so the sex is good? Or is has the sex been good, so the become good partners?

For my wife I really do think it is a combination of many factors, and the great sex is one of them.
 
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Very interesting question. For me, only had 2 sexual partners and sadly my wife wasn't the better of them. She's very vanilla. If it's "normal" it's good enough, why try anything new; and yes, it's caused too numerous of arguments to count, pretty much the only thing we argue about really. But, she's a great person and certainly isn't a "dead fish" when it comes to sex, just not adventurous or experimental.

So I think we choose our partners for the overall package, and some of us have great sexual partners but lack in other areas, say she might be very opinionated, demanding, etc., while others of us have a great woman who never argues, yells, or creates turmoil, but she just sticks with what gets the job done in the bedroom and never varies.
 

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I like variation and a lot so no my partners after few years having matched up.

I've accepted this, we are all different. I view sex like food and sleeping alot people don't.

Also anyone can be trained, if you have a willing participant.
 

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If like most guys who have tried the coat on before buying, and it was the right fit, from then on its a case of growing together, our marriage comes up to 49 years this year, and the coat is still good to wear, we grow into it as we age and get it right and your never get bored.

The greatest thing is two body's entwined, and its best with the one you love most.

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Ok so does a womans sexual ability affect your partner choice ?
If so is it her ability to give the best bj or the ability to piv orgasm or something else?
It makes no difference if she cooks really well and has some money!
 

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Been with around 30 women(not bragging), been with my girl almost 7 years, sex is the best of all.Her willingnes to explore, the enthusiasm, her beauty, she knew what she was doing.I think for me its the overall connection, but things like BJs, outdoor, anal, toys, all add up.For now she cant orgasm from PIV, and its possible she never will, but I guess I am very lucky with what I have
 

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It makes no difference if she cooks really well and has some money!

Well I cook really well, and clean, and host..... no money tho :(
 

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I like variation and a lot so no my partners after few years having matched up.

I've accepted this, we are all different. I view sex like food and sleeping alot people don't.

Also anyone can be trained, if you have a willing participant.

Actually some are untrainable and some just don't have libido .
 

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So is it a positive a woman likes and orgasms from piv?
 

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Well I cook really well, and clean, and host..... no money tho :(

You also have high libido like piv and like giving bj ,I keep saying there should be more like you and that before I mention the boobs.
 

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She just better like to fish. :pound:
 

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I found this of interest.
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Clitorises are mostly internal; the part of the clitoris that's submerged within our body is comparable in size to a medium zucchini — but about 1/4 of it is visible externally, with the average adult clitoris size 1.5-2 cm in length, and a little bit under 1 cm in width. While it hardly seems like size would matter, a recent study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine actually found that many women who had rarely or never had an orgasm had clitorises that ran on the smaller side, independent of their body size or other factors.



Dr. Susan Oakley, the researcher who conducted the study, speculated that the greater visible mass of a larger clitoris made them easier to orgasm with. "Perhaps a larger clitoris has more nerve endings, and perhaps with direct contact and stimulation the clitoris can have more sensation, resulting in orgasms," Oakley wrote.
So it's not that larger clitorises are automatic orgasm machines — there's just more surface area to work with. So if your clit is on the smaller side, know that it might take you more time/effort/focus for you to have an orgasm than your larger-clitted sisters, but that it's far from i
 

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So I have asked this question the wrong way .

I should have asked what aspects of female sexual ability attract you the most.
 

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I’ve learned a lot after a 15+ year odyssey of dating since my divorce. Your question is about the sex, so I’ll stick to that aspect of relationships. My ex was going to be a hard act to follow as she was beautiful, shapely and great sexually. I got lucky and the first woman I dated for an extended period was also hot and a complete 10/10 sexually - better than my ex. Towards the other end of the spectrum was another woman I dated for quite a while. She was not as physically hot and the sex was pretty forgettable. And the others I dated were somewhere in between.

What I’ve learned is that the sexual aspect is actually a very important part of a relationship, at least for me. I found I like a woman who wants sex often to both please herself and me. One who initiates sex as much as I do. One who likes to give and receive oral to completion (giving great head is a huge plus). Being able to have PIV orgasm makes intercourse more fun and satisfying. I guess I’ve been lucky as only one person I’ve been with couldn’t have real PIV orgasms. Sex with the one who couldn’t orgasm PIV was not nearly as satisfying. She tried faking it, but I could tell and that made it worse. Someone who is a little kinky and likes to try new things. Someone who can laugh off a queef and just have fun with sex without being overly self conscious or squeamish about things. Net, net, someone who loves frequent adventurous sex with me as much as I do with her.