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so,im writing this because im trying to stop watching porn....again.and im dealing with some urges right now,and i feel like talking about it may help me get over it.ive tried to stop many times in my life,for the past couple of months i aint really worried about it.but i want to try quitting again,because i want to maximize my eq while im injured so that once im healed up,my eq will be improved before i start back at pe.day 1 was december 5th.

id like to post about it cause i think it may hold me more acciuntable for my actions.this is something i havnt tried before in the past.

id also like to explainy situation a bit.you see i was introduced to pornography in i believe it was 3rd grade,maybe 2nd.but bo matter which one,it was way,way too early.some other kids i went to school with showed it to me.i feel like this is the prime reason ive had such a hard time quitting.i mean can you imagine being given heroin in 3rd grade amd mot realizing that what your doing is wrong until you get into highschool .which by then youve been an addict for 6 years already.can you imagine how hard it would be to get off heroin after 6 years of use.oh and then on too of that this heroin is a special kind of heroin you can get for free,practically anytime of the day,and anywhere theres an internet connection.which is pretty much anywhere cause i have a smart phone with unlimited internet data.so yea if i got bars of connection,i can get a fix,figuratively speaking.i think ive mase my point and im probably repeatung things you already know.porn is addictive,free,and convenient.which makes it a disaster waiting to happen.

anyways i just realized im feeling better now and am over it.feel free to leave me any tips or advice that has maybe helped you kick the habit.it would be appreciated.i think meditation could help.but i just gotta get myself to do it.
 

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It is a hard row to hoe quitting an addiction like porn.

I think you are on the right track, keeping an accountability log here.

One thing to do is be sure you have something constructive to do to occupy your time, the time you would normally be watching porn.

Yoga, baking, biking, etc.
 

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It is a hard row to hoe quitting an addiction like porn.

I think you are on the right track, keeping an accountability log here.

One thing to do is be sure you have something constructive to do to occupy your time, the time you would normally be watching porn.

Yoga, baking, biking, etc.


yea,i think so too.so far so good.i havnt had any other urges since this post.but im really dissapointed.i just got done edging for the first time in a week.and for months now i thiught i had made good prgress on getting rid of my premature ejaculation problem.but it turns out ive made none.i guess pornography was just desensatizing me to were i could last longer.when i edged though i dont watch porn and wasnt at that time.but when i would edge sometimes i actually uad control over my self.but the session i just did was awful.4 to 5 strokes and im at a heavy 6 fixen to be at 7 on the arousel scale.so ive been edging for over a year in total and made no progress kost likely because of porn.i just hope that months down the line,if i really do stop watching porn,and i really do all the things i wanna do in pe,that ill have seen some kind of gains in pe and some kind of diffrence in how well im able to control my orgasm.i feel really bad about everything right now.im really upset,and i wished that i didnt have to deal with all this.but i dont know what to do other than just trying to keep moving forward.i really just want all this to stop.not just the porn addiction,but the premature ejaculation,and being unsatisfied with myself too.why does my life have to constantly revolve around bettering myself.for years now ive done nothing but try to better myself and have practically made no progress.how much linger am i gonna have to deal with this agony.i need a better quality of life than this one.this isnt good enough,im not ok witht this.i want to be change.
 

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yea,i think so too.so far so good.i havnt had any other urges since this post.but im really dissapointed.i just got done edging for the first time in a week.and for months now i thiught i had made good prgress on getting rid of my premature ejaculation problem.but it turns out ive made none.i guess pornography was just desensatizing me to were i could last longer.when i edged though i dont watch porn and wasnt at that time.but when i would edge sometimes i actually uad control over my self.but the session i just did was awful.4 to 5 strokes and im at a heavy 6 fixen to be at 7 on the arousel scale.so ive been edging for over a year in total and made no progress kost likely because of porn.

It took me over a year to really see a difference. And even then I had many failures. But it can be done, you can get there. It might involve more than just quitting porn, though.

i just hope that months down the line,if i really do stop watching porn,and i really do all the things i wanna do in pe,that ill have seen some kind of gains in pe and some kind of diffrence in how well im able to control my orgasm.

Look at short term and long term goals. Aim for small increments and work towards it. If today it was 4 to 5 strokes, then aim for 6 tomorrow. Then 7, etc.
I started out by counting how many stroke it took me to get to the PONR, then I used that as a goal every day. I did not write it down here, but two years in to PreE work I was able to do 80 strokes. Two years after that I was able to do 480. Now I do 480 just to keep in shape.

i feel really bad about everything right now.im really upset,and i wished that i didnt have to deal with all this.but i dont know what to do other than just trying to keep moving forward.

This sounds like depression setting in. Not uncommon when dealing with an addiction. And make no mistake, porn is an addiction. Be aware of your own felling ans work to keep them positive. Exercise, mediation, positive activities, etc.

i really just want all this to stop.not just the porn addiction,but the premature ejaculation,and being unsatisfied with myself too.

There is a lot to be said about improving oneself. I embarked on PE and PreE work when I was at a low point in my professional and personal life. I decided that this was one are that I could control and work on that the world could not intrude upon. I worked at it in private and made progress. That progress manifested itself in my outward view and image. It all works together.

why does my life have to constantly revolve around bettering myself.for years now ive done nothing but try to better myself and have practically made no progress.how much linger am i gonna have to deal with this agony.i need a better quality of life than this one.this isnt good enough,im not ok witht this.
i want to be change.

Wanting to change is the first step.
 
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It took me over a year to really see a difference. And even then I had many failures. But it can be done, you can get there. It might involve more than just quitting porn, though.

well im quttingg porn,i edge once a week,i reverse kegel if im awake nonstop,and i do hindu squats for 2 minute sets amd i just do them whenever i think avout it throughout the day and if im not gonna be seem by anyone,unless im in the gym,then i dont care ill do it in front of people at the gym.

what did you use to tackle the problem?
 
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This sounds like depression setting in. Not uncommon when dealing with an addiction. And make no mistake, porn is an addiction. Be aware of your own felling ans work to keep them positive.excercise,meditation,positive actvities,etc

when it comes to meditation,did you see a big diffrence after you started doing this.meditation is something ive try to get into before in the past.ive always thiugh it would help alot with my preE.ive been thinking here recently that may be a piece to the puzzle.
 
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well im quttingg porn,i edge once a week,i reverse kegel if im awake nonstop,and i do hindu squats for 2 minute sets amd i just do them whenever i think avout it throughout the day and if im not gonna be seem by anyone,unless im in the gym,then i dont care ill do it in front of people at the gym.

what did you use to tackle the problem?

Daily edging, various yoga positions (child, cobra), aerobic exercise, PE and the method I outlined above.
The idea I had was to look at the problem holistically. I knew there were both physical and mental parts.
The thing about using PE is that it does help build a bigger penis and it does help build rock hard EQ, both go along way towards confidence.

when it comes to meditation,did you see a big diffrence after you started doing this.meditation is something ive try to get into before in the past.ive always thiugh it would help alot with my preE.ive been thinking here recently that may be a piece to the puzzle.

meditation comes in many forms. The slow steady breathing and focused counting involved with PE work is meditative.
I find it helps a great deal, to center the mind and to dispel extraneous thoughts
 
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Daily edging, various yoga positions (child, cobra), aerobic exercise, PE and the method I outlined above.
The idea I had was to look at the problem holistically. I knew there were both physical and mental parts.
The thing about using PE is that it does help build a bigger penis and it does help build rock hard EQ, both go along way towards confidence.



meditation comes in many forms. The slow steady breathing and focused counting involved with PE work is meditative.
I find it helps a great deal, to center the mind and to dispel extraneous thoughts

yoga is something ive wanted to get into for a while.ive done some begginer yoga.but just once.i liked it though.ill make some time for it.and be sure to try those poses you mentioned.and i dont know anything about aerobics,but if its some kinda strenious excercise ill probably enjoy it.so ill go read up on it.

and on the subject of meditation i started trying to meditate daily 2 days ago and so far ive done it both days.when i meditate i find a comfortable and quiet place,close my eye,and relax my body.and then i try to not think,inhaling through my nose,and exhaling through my mouth,but i exhale way,way slower than i inhale.yesterday,i did my usual 10 minute meditation.then,i found this 45 minute guided meditation,and i feel completely diffrent today.i feel way better.so im hooked on this meditation stuff now.better than being hooked on porn.oh and still no porn as well,no urges either.and im getting WAY more randow erections throughout the day.its probably a good sign,but id kinda appreciate it if it would chill out soon,cause its hard walking around with an erection all the time.i find it hilarious aswell. xD
 
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The thing about meditation is it can be built into anything:

Most people hate housework, but housework is the perfect opportunity to practice meditation.
Wash the dishes or sweep the floor with total attention rather than with distraction. It can be a completely different experience.

Try this:
First turn off whatever you might have running in the background to distract you from the “unpleasantness.”
Run the soapy water in the sink.
Notice how the water sounds, looks, feels. Notice how the bubbles billow up. Find a good wash cloth or whatever. Look at it.
Notice it. How does it feel in your hand?
Put the dishes into the water. Watch how they slide in, or clink in, how they fit together into the sink. Then, one by one, select a dish, a utensil, a glass, a mug, and scrub its surfaces clean.
Don’t rush through it.
Live it. Notice it. Try not to miss a second.
Rinse each dish clean and put it in the dish rack. Then, when all the dishes are clean, one by one, with the same attention, dry them and put them away.
 

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The thing about meditation is it can be built into anything:

Most people hate housework, but housework is the perfect opportunity to practice meditation.
Wash the dishes or sweep the floor with total attention rather than with distraction. It can be a completely different experience.

Try this:
First turn off whatever you might have running in the background to distract you from the “unpleasantness.”
Run the soapy water in the sink.
Notice how the water sounds, looks, feels. Notice how the bubbles billow up. Find a good wash cloth or whatever. Look at it.
Notice it. How does it feel in your hand?
Put the dishes into the water. Watch how they slide in, or clink in, how they fit together into the sink. Then, one by one, select a dish, a utensil, a glass, a mug, and scrub its surfaces clean.
Don’t rush through it.
Live it. Notice it. Try not to miss a second.
Rinse each dish clean and put it in the dish rack. Then, when all the dishes are clean, one by one, with the same attention, dry them and put them away.[/QUOTE

thats interesting,ill try that next time im doing chores.the good news is that i think im already seeing some kind of results.i just edged and the first 3 1/2 minutes were easy and then the rest of it was like last time where i take 4-5 strokes and i have to back off.but i went for 3 1/2 minutes without stopping,amd it felt comfortable and controlled until the above mentioned time.and i think the thing that messed me up was actually thinking too much about how surprised i was that i was lasting that long.thats ok,im just happy i got a little progress done.thats such a relief.now we just gotta keep at it.

i was wandering how often do you do yoga and aerobics?