Need advice on insecurity about using dildos which are much larger than my penis.

[AzorAzai]

Hi. I have a strange insecurity about using a dildo during sex which is larger than myself. My size is 5.3 girth and almost 6 inch length. The thing is, I actually prefer to use larger size dildos on women. I find it aesthetically appealing to see her "full up" so to speak.

I know it might seem like I am a glutton for punishment due to this, but I'm just wondering, from a female perspective, do you necessarily care for a partner using a larger dildo on you (if he has an average sized penis) or would you end up feeling like your sexual partner (casual or otherwise) is lacking compared to the dildo?

I have only ever used a larger dildo on two different women and during sex their reactions were indifferent. I feel like I pleased them with my penis as well as the dildo, but I don't really ask how they felt after sex so I would not know for definite.

I thought I would ask here to gage opinions from women. It would be great to hear your views on this, thanks.

 

[Shikamaru]

You sound like you are about the same size as me. I have indeed thought about this, maybe with girls who are super kinky. But i think we both are enough size to please a woman. I have sex with many woman who said i was great in bed and enough in size. It all depends on the stroke bro. As well as oral is a big thing for woman now a days. If you are able to please her with your mouth, it will help you in a lot of ways. Just as in how good it is, to have a woman who gives great head. A big bonus right? I suggest you start PEing as i am about to take my journey serious. 1-2 more inches on our penis will make it perfect! I have heard from plenty of woman how some guys are too big and it hurts. My ex liked a bigger mandigo penis, but my current gf is so tight her vagina wraps around my dick perfect. She is bi so the past two relationships she had was with a woman, so she hasnt been ran through like that. It is perfect for a man like me who is average and she fits right on it. I also fuck her amazingly ,and have made her squirt numerous times. I mean like real deal porno squirting like an ocean on the floor after. So i suggest only using your penis because of the confidence thing. A woman wants a real penis.

 

[Physdoc]

A few women I've been with in the past liked to occasionally play with a dildo bigger than me. I didn't mind it a bit, in fact I bought the dildos for them and loved pulling it out for some special fun. I'm decent size and didn't feel threatened at all and didn't worry she'd get stretched out. What's said in the last post seems to be true, women prefer the real thing and good sex with a guy attached to the unit.

 

[CLOSEDNymphGamerAddict]

So most girls always have really large dildos, mine is 7.5 inches, and for good reason. When using it the first 3 - 4inches serve as a handle, so effectively we're only getting 4 - 5 inches at max.

 

[Justalittlemoreplz]

My advice is ask the recipient. Open dialogue with sexual partners is taboo for some reason amongst some people but being open about it improves the experience for both parties. As for size well that depends on your outlook on it. I bought my wife her first toy and several afterwards they are bigger but hell the sleeves dwarf them. I don't equate my size to my actual manhood. Unless I'm trying for another kid sex is for maximum satisfaction for those involved.

 

[TacoTaco]

My advice is ask the recipient. Open dialogue with sexual partners is taboo for some reason amongst some people but being open about it improves the experience for both parties. As for size well that depends on your outlook on it.

I agree the only way to truly know, is to keep an open dialogue with your sexual partners regarding their preference. Each girl has different preferences and if they're comfortable, will tell you if they are more comfortable to use one for foreplay with you as the main action, vise versa, or to alternate.

 

[ToyEnvy]

As my username indicates, I used to struggle with this. My first partner, who was my only partner for 9 years had a preference for very large toys (think 9x6.5) and our sex life was sh*t, hell our whole relationship was sh*t. She used to sometimes struggle to orgasm while masturbating and would call me in to help, using these large toys. No reciprocation, no actual sex (we averaged 1-3 times per year for the last 6 years of the relationship), no concern for me or my pleasure. I mistakenly believed that if I were the size of her preferred toys we'd have more and better sex. However I'm confident that's not the case, the problem wasn't the size of my penis but a selfish partner.

That, and a lot of the other abusive elements of that relationship, kind of fucked with my head. I still question it when newer partners tell me I'm big (6.75x5.5) even though I've always known the statistics and no matter which study you consider I'm at least 1 standard deviation above the mean.

If you like it and your partner likes it, and everyone's needs are being met, which you can only know by talking about it. Use whatever toys you like.

 

[Ashealth]

As a woman, I would agree with everyone above. For me, the dildo works as a supplement to our sex. For example, he'll use it while going down on me or he might want to put it in my ass while we're having sex. I personally am not a fan of King Kong Dong haha, he jokes about getting me a massive dildo but I have no desire for that. I never ever compare the size of the dildo to his, frankly because I think his is perfect. No matter what they sell online and in the stores, nothing truly replicates a penis like the real thing. So long story short, like everyone else said, have that open and honest communication and if she says she's happy then I wouldn't worry about it. Hope this helps.

 

[BigO]

My wife prefers me to any dido, don't get hung up on the size of the toy, play with it. It adds to the fun but it can't replace the real thing

 

[Polemicist]

Level up your oral and get a magic wand! I bet you feel much better, like you are the man, if you can give them couple of orgasms. Also women are different, when you introduce something new, say a magic wand, they will always associate it with you! Good luck.

 

[TTBB]

Every woman is different so you are going to have to ask the individual women if she likes toys and sometimes size of toys just comes into the exploration and play side of things. I have had a few men talk about wanting to use big toys on me. I think some men have a fascination with watching how a woman's vagina wraps around big toys, some i think also get off on seeing women in a little pain, some just like pushing the limits. but also many men seem to think that big equals pleasure, Which isnt always the case(depending on the woman) I personally like real dick over toys you can't replicate the feel of real. regardless of size
( I wonder how many of you subconsciously slipped the word 'big' in after 'real', when you read that last sentence... fears and beliefs can be hard to break )

 

[GettingOverIt]

What the hell are you thinking... get a flippin clue. Why do you think so many men here are trying make their own units big. Stop being a dumb ass.

 

[Dreadsteed]

Even my lady has a dildo that is larger than myself. I wouldn’t take it as she is dissatisfied with your size. I would say it is probably more on the exploration and play side like TTBB said. A different stretch can be exciting for them, or it may be a turn on to challenge themselves and their limits. Not much different to something like differently textured and sized sleeves having unique feelings for male sex toys.

 

[rbi99]

I have bought several different dildos for my wife. The last one was almost exactly my size except for the added length that isn't insertable. She didn't like it because she felt it was too big (it wasn't, but she saw that overall length and wanted no part of that). It is simply a supplement to our love making, as is the vibrator I bought for her. That vibrator gives her many more orgasms at any one sitting then I ever could, and the intensity of them is better then I can give her. Even after all these years of marriage, seeing (and feeling her orgasms with my fingers inserted in her vagina) turns me on like a mf'er!!! For her it is about intimacy between us, and she loves my penis. I am happy with my size and the dildos are just a toy. That vibrator on the other hand..........!!!

 

[AugusteLoves]

I have bought several different dildos for my wife. The last one was almost exactly my size except for the added length that isn't insertable. She didn't like it because she felt it was too big (it wasn't, but she saw that overall length and wanted no part of that). It is simply a supplement to our love making, as is the vibrator I bought for her. That vibrator gives her many more orgasms at any one sitting then I ever could, and the intensity of them is better then I can give her. Even after all these years of marriage, seeing (and feeling her orgasms with my fingers inserted in her vagina) turns me on like a mf'er!!! For her it is about intimacy between us, and she loves my penis. I am happy with my size and the dildos are just a toy. That vibrator on the other hand..........!!!

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