Seeing what traits are enviable in (others/another), and bringing them into your world of "I wants" begins the formation of goals and directions, in your life.
This can be part of your character building of your personality. It allows the the responsibility of you, selecting and taking charge of, how you desire your self to develop, in to.
We usually start out with parental role models, and start that developmental path of our lives.
Don't subscribe to being a victim, however do mature and grow youself to be that, which you choose.