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I seem to have put the pieces together for a successful, what I am calling, "triple play" for great sex with my wife: Pumping, taking Tadalafil, and using a delay spray.
Pumping: I am currently using a Bathmate HydroXtreme 7 once per day in the shower at least several times a week, and three times on the days I know I am having sex (morning shower, workout or before sex shower, dry pump in bed during foreplay.) I started out at 5 1/2" length and 4 1/2" girth before I bought my first pump. I am now normally 6" in length and 5 1'2" girth; and routinely am 6 1/2" length, and have been up to 7 to 7 1/8" long on occasion. My wife does not enjoyably handle anything 7" or longer, and 5 1/2" girth is her maximum ability to be able to deep throat in any position. At 6 1/2" we have discovered her ability to have intense A-spot orgasms when she is riding me cowgirl style. At my longest length when near 7" we are (carefully) trying to give her a cervix orgasm while in doggy position, but have not quite gotten her over the edge yet. The additional length and girth has made a huge difference in her enjoyment of more prolonged and fulfilling orgasms, and in our sex life in general. The increased size is a great confidence builder for me, and a huge turn-on for my wife. So my pumping has allowed me to be in a sweet spot size-wise for our maximum enjoyment.
ED Medication: I currently have a prescription for Tadalafil (Cialis) which I take on-demand a few hours, or up to a day, prior to having sex. I take a 5mg dose to help establish and maintain a serviceable erection for intercourse and receiving oral sex. That dosage lasts in my system for 30-36 hours typically, giving me the ability for additional high-quality erections for edging sessions prior to, or after, the day I have sex, and can even allow multiple erections/orgasms during the same lovemaking session - or sex two days in a row on the same pill. I have also taken a pill several days in a row as an experiment; which was approved by my doctor for short-term periods of time (like while on vacation.) A 2.5mg dosage is the typical dose for daily use. My doctor has also told me I can experiment with taking two 5mg pills (10mg total) if I feel the 5mg dosage is not effective.
Delay Spray: I was researching solutions for increased stamina, prolonging sex, and holding off on coming too soon, and started seeing suggestions for delay sprays in articles. I was very skeptical about these, and how effective they could be, and most reviews for them were only so-so. Until I found out about Promescent and read more about it. The differentiator for this spray is it is not topical like most sprays, but has a patented system developed by a doctor where the numbing agent (same as used by dentists) is absorbed deep into the skin and nervous system for effective 'blocking' of sensations. Agin, this numbing has not been extreme, but only more like taking the edge off, if that makes sense. I have tried using 3-5 sprays with great results so far. I have been applying the spray, and rubbing it in per the directions, just prior to my five minute dry pumping session during foreplay. The instructions are to let the spray absorb for ten minutes, then clean off any residue. My wife likes the visual of me pumping, and of seeing/touching how large I am when just out of the tube, so we will typically have additional foreplay for five or more minutes. When we are ready to move on to oral or PIV sex, I will take a minute to use a cloth or baby wipe to clean off the residual spray, which can be sticky sometimes. I did make the mistake of not being thorough enough in my cleaning once, where my wife started feeling her mouth going numb while giving me a blowjob, which was pretty humorous for both of us. The delay spray works really really well. You can tell you are desensitized, but not to an extreme. It holds off that quick sensation of getting to the top of the mountain, so to speak. When I don't use it I am constantly telling my wife to slow down, or be careful not to make me come when she is performing oral, or also having to stop my pace or slow down during intercourse to keep from coming too soon. Using the spray has alleviated any of those types of situations for us. I have been able to lean back and let my wife blow me with abandon which she is enjoying immensely, and taking it as a challenge! And during sex, I can now go as long as I want to, which has created these amazing sessions of prolonged lovemaking that we have never been able to do before. My wife has a very slow and very long build up to orgasm, and if I have to slow down or stop my pumping due to an imminent ejaculation, she has to basically start her climb back up her arousal ladder again. We have now been able to bring her to higher and more continuous orgasm plateaus when fucking. So much so that she recently said that I had been "fucking her brains out" these days, which is the first time she has ever used that term to describe our sex. When you can take the attention and distraction away from worrying about coming, all your focus is on the performance and enjoying how amazing sex feels... and it is extremely liberating to experience that! I feel that in some ways, for the first time in our relationship we are actually making love without anything getting in the way. It is also extremely fun to totally decide when to let go and control when you come. It is great conversation during sex to decide as a couple, with no pressure, if and when and where you want to do that and on your own terms. All because of this delay spray.
So, the combination of a larger cock, great erection quality, and the ability to control my ejaculation as long as I want, has proven to be a very successful and enjoyable and enhanced sex life for us.
Pumping: I am currently using a Bathmate HydroXtreme 7 once per day in the shower at least several times a week, and three times on the days I know I am having sex (morning shower, workout or before sex shower, dry pump in bed during foreplay.) I started out at 5 1/2" length and 4 1/2" girth before I bought my first pump. I am now normally 6" in length and 5 1'2" girth; and routinely am 6 1/2" length, and have been up to 7 to 7 1/8" long on occasion. My wife does not enjoyably handle anything 7" or longer, and 5 1/2" girth is her maximum ability to be able to deep throat in any position. At 6 1/2" we have discovered her ability to have intense A-spot orgasms when she is riding me cowgirl style. At my longest length when near 7" we are (carefully) trying to give her a cervix orgasm while in doggy position, but have not quite gotten her over the edge yet. The additional length and girth has made a huge difference in her enjoyment of more prolonged and fulfilling orgasms, and in our sex life in general. The increased size is a great confidence builder for me, and a huge turn-on for my wife. So my pumping has allowed me to be in a sweet spot size-wise for our maximum enjoyment.
ED Medication: I currently have a prescription for Tadalafil (Cialis) which I take on-demand a few hours, or up to a day, prior to having sex. I take a 5mg dose to help establish and maintain a serviceable erection for intercourse and receiving oral sex. That dosage lasts in my system for 30-36 hours typically, giving me the ability for additional high-quality erections for edging sessions prior to, or after, the day I have sex, and can even allow multiple erections/orgasms during the same lovemaking session - or sex two days in a row on the same pill. I have also taken a pill several days in a row as an experiment; which was approved by my doctor for short-term periods of time (like while on vacation.) A 2.5mg dosage is the typical dose for daily use. My doctor has also told me I can experiment with taking two 5mg pills (10mg total) if I feel the 5mg dosage is not effective.
Delay Spray: I was researching solutions for increased stamina, prolonging sex, and holding off on coming too soon, and started seeing suggestions for delay sprays in articles. I was very skeptical about these, and how effective they could be, and most reviews for them were only so-so. Until I found out about Promescent and read more about it. The differentiator for this spray is it is not topical like most sprays, but has a patented system developed by a doctor where the numbing agent (same as used by dentists) is absorbed deep into the skin and nervous system for effective 'blocking' of sensations. Agin, this numbing has not been extreme, but only more like taking the edge off, if that makes sense. I have tried using 3-5 sprays with great results so far. I have been applying the spray, and rubbing it in per the directions, just prior to my five minute dry pumping session during foreplay. The instructions are to let the spray absorb for ten minutes, then clean off any residue. My wife likes the visual of me pumping, and of seeing/touching how large I am when just out of the tube, so we will typically have additional foreplay for five or more minutes. When we are ready to move on to oral or PIV sex, I will take a minute to use a cloth or baby wipe to clean off the residual spray, which can be sticky sometimes. I did make the mistake of not being thorough enough in my cleaning once, where my wife started feeling her mouth going numb while giving me a blowjob, which was pretty humorous for both of us. The delay spray works really really well. You can tell you are desensitized, but not to an extreme. It holds off that quick sensation of getting to the top of the mountain, so to speak. When I don't use it I am constantly telling my wife to slow down, or be careful not to make me come when she is performing oral, or also having to stop my pace or slow down during intercourse to keep from coming too soon. Using the spray has alleviated any of those types of situations for us. I have been able to lean back and let my wife blow me with abandon which she is enjoying immensely, and taking it as a challenge! And during sex, I can now go as long as I want to, which has created these amazing sessions of prolonged lovemaking that we have never been able to do before. My wife has a very slow and very long build up to orgasm, and if I have to slow down or stop my pumping due to an imminent ejaculation, she has to basically start her climb back up her arousal ladder again. We have now been able to bring her to higher and more continuous orgasm plateaus when fucking. So much so that she recently said that I had been "fucking her brains out" these days, which is the first time she has ever used that term to describe our sex. When you can take the attention and distraction away from worrying about coming, all your focus is on the performance and enjoying how amazing sex feels... and it is extremely liberating to experience that! I feel that in some ways, for the first time in our relationship we are actually making love without anything getting in the way. It is also extremely fun to totally decide when to let go and control when you come. It is great conversation during sex to decide as a couple, with no pressure, if and when and where you want to do that and on your own terms. All because of this delay spray.
So, the combination of a larger cock, great erection quality, and the ability to control my ejaculation as long as I want, has proven to be a very successful and enjoyable and enhanced sex life for us.
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