l'm losing interest in sexual intimacy, don't know what to think.

[a random x]

l'm later 50s and l've always been a crazy libido , far more so than most guys l've been around but not all, have come across a few even morose but usually. And any gf's or ex w too have just confirmed it really but have also been way lower than me too.
But last few yrs, lately, l'm just feeling bored and uninterested, as if l'm just sick and bored of pussy mainly, the actual intercourse side itself. l still love playing around and admiring, not goin into detail but just connect the dots. All the other fun very much so and my gf agrees says it's easier and fun and just no pressure. l just can't be bothered with the actual main event, l've just lost interest.
lt's not health as gf's a nurse in a very specific area and says that l'm way past most guys my age and l know l am too again from just being around others butttt, it's more as if l'm just bored with actual intercourse stuff basically.
l mean l've had some fun over the yrs believe me but l couldn't imagine what could even entice or regain interest again now of late and whenever something does l'm bored with that too soon after anyway.
Anyone else ever gotten to this point sexually and have you ever bounced back again later or what ?

 

[Pegasus]

What are the numbers on your hormone panel?

 

[a random x]

Dk but things are all fine physically it's not that , especially energy wise and stuff. l just feel a bit sick of women in ways l described but nope, not turning gay either .

 

[Big Al]

Perhaps you want a deeper type of relationship. Too many make the mistake of equating the sex act with intimacy. While there should be a strong correlation between the two, if that deep emotional connection isn't there, the act can feel mechanical and empty.

 

[BigO]

Dk but things are all fine physically it's not that , especially energy wise and stuff. l just feel a bit sick of women in ways l described but nope, not turning gay either .

There is no way to guess your testosterone/ hormone panel numbers by your feelings.

Your girl may be a nurse and a very good one at that but she cannot confirm your hormone health either without a test.

The simple fact is, you need thr panel to know. I felt physically good when I found out my Test levels were that of an average 80 year old man.

Get the tests or aimlessly take shots at what you think it may be.

You've lost interest is sex, don't wait until you've lost interest in eating. It's for your own good!

 

[a random x]

Thanks for those , appreciated .
My lady now and l have been together 5yrs or so and very intense- although some problems lately unfortunately, but earlier l was married 20yrs so nah it isn't now or before just some empty casual thing. Tbh l've never been into anything casual with a lady. l do need the real thing sooo, although l hear what your say B al but nah , that wouldn't be the thing.

Thanks BO , yeah , maybe , dk. What does the test involve , or is there a home diy test you can do or something ? l'm still interested sexually, just bored with anything intercoursey itself stuff, just lost interest in that part of things. And gf's had a lot of problems down there too herself anyway last few yrs, she's menopausing atm.
l do do mens health stuff though for just general health , l have olive oil everyday and love all the nuts and things too. l'm also quite muscly and everything still grows like crazy , hair, nails , v good skin.

 

[a random x]

Although admittedly , Bilal did touch on something relationship wise to bc we've been having problems lately and things aren't tbh looking too good atm, may even break up..
So the emotions and love are sort of still there , but at the same time they're confused and mixed of late to and wondering lf l'm just with the wrong person.
So that certainly isn't helping but l can't tell how l'd be feeling sexually atm if all that was ok though.
The best way l can think to discribe it though is more that l'm just bored with women basically. My pertner is a beautiful lover though and very teasy to which l love along with many other things so it doesn't really feel as though it's that type of thing . Just losing interest in general.

 

[a random x]

There is one thing l know for sure has been fast just turning me off too last few yrs.
Ya know ,all over the internet all over YT all over forums ,it's all become just all just about her and satisfying her , as if men don't even matter.
Even porn , take a look there's no passion on his face no sound , zero, with most of them anyway. Just pump pump pump pump ,slap her arse now then,tip her on her head, like some silly robot ,meanwhile she's supposedly to be going off in ecstasy. l mean how effd up is that. Everything out there is just all about her these days.
Well all can say is eff that . lt's about me too just as much as her.
Don't get me wrong ,my lady just as into me and my satisfaction as hers butttt.
With allllllllll the crap out there these days supposedly just all about her that they're all preaching ,anywhere you look , to me is just a total turn off of late, as if we're supposedlly just some bloody robot to please her, forget it.

 

[BigO]

Porn isn't real

 

[a random x]

Well we know that ,but yaknow.
lt's just a bit of wank the way we always hear guys talking about the porn stars bc they're a terrible example really.

 

[Marlon LGHanger]

l'm later 50s and l've always been a crazy libido , far more so than most guys l've been around but not all, have come across a few even morose but usually. And any gf's or ex w too have just confirmed it really but have also been way lower than me too.
But last few yrs, lately, l'm just feeling bored and uninterested, as if l'm just sick and bored of pussy mainly, the actual intercourse side itself. l still love playing around and admiring, not goin into detail but just connect the dots. All the other fun very much so and my gf agrees says it's easier and fun and just no pressure. l just can't be bothered with the actual main event, l've just lost interest.
lt's not health as gf's a nurse in a very specific area and says that l'm way past most guys my age and l know l am too again from just being around others butttt, it's more as if l'm just bored with actual intercourse stuff basically.
l mean l've had some fun over the yrs believe me but l couldn't imagine what could even entice or regain interest again now of late and whenever something does l'm bored with that too soon after anyway.
Anyone else ever gotten to this point sexually and have you ever bounced back again later or what ?

The Lord giveth and the Lord taketh! Father time takes away a lot of things as you age.....

The book of Ecclesiastes 12:3 spells it out.
"In that day when the keepers of the house (hands, arms) tremble, and the strong men (feet, knees) bow themselves, and the grinders (molar teeth) cease because they are few, and the windows of the soul (eyes) grow dim.

Getting old sucks! Just be grateful for the good times!
George Bernard Shaw once wrote that "Youth is the most precious thing in life, it's too bad it has to be wasted on the young folks"

"

 

[Big Al]

Although admittedly , Bilal did touch on something relationship wise to bc we've been having problems lately and things aren't tbh looking too good atm, may even break up..
So the emotions and love are sort of still there , but at the same time they're confused and mixed of late to and wondering lf l'm just with the wrong person.
So that certainly isn't helping but l can't tell how l'd be feeling sexually atm if all that was ok though.
The best way l can think to discribe it though is more that l'm just bored with women basically. My pertner is a beautiful lover though and very teasy to which l love along with many other things so it doesn't really feel as though it's that type of thing . Just losing interest in general.

This could be a big part of what's going on. Too often, we attempt to separate sex from emotions; and when things get to a point to where you're stressed out due to fights, etc. then- given enough time- this will carry over to your response to your partner.

 

[Big Al]

Well we know that ,but yaknow.
lt's just a bit of wank the way we always hear guys talking about the porn stars bc they're a terrible example really.

The following touches on this particular subject in detail: The Detraining Effect: Understanding and Reversing Negative Habits To Improve Erection Quality and Sexual Confidence

 

[Marlon LGHanger]

Dk but things are all fine physically it's not that , especially energy wise and stuff. l just feel a bit sick of women in ways l described but nope, not turning gay either .

I don't think you're alone..... especially when it comes to the way that a lot of women have embraced the "woke" ideology, a cultural construct that has highjacked what it means to be a man or a woman in today's world.

 

[a random x]

Thanks for those fellas,appreciated.
Tbh ,l thought l might check back in here and find myself banned today bc l might've said wrong things or something.
lt's not as easy as l thought it would be trying to explain how l'm feeling and sometimes the only way l can think of could be a bit crude but that might get me booted off too, but l also wouldn.t want to bring any negativity to the place.
l think you've touched on one part of it a bit there to though Marlon.

Anyway , l was married for 20yrs , and then later met my partner now. Unfortunately though things have been a bit touch and go with us and it's not looking good ,don't think it's gonna work out unfortunately. We're pretty different in a lot of ways and she's also pretty unstable and that's been just bloody exhausting . ldk if they make stable women in their 50s any more but it sure would be nice to have one.
One of the good things though is that we're in about the same place sexually and we also like things very similarly too. She is also very interested when she is like me and she's nice and naughty too. But at the same time she can't be bothered a lot of the time at other times too , so we match pretty nice like that too and so there's no pressures on either of us we just have fun when we feel like it and also have very similar tastes. sO In all those ways we're a great and really comfortable with ea other match really.

Butttt , as l say , in other ways things aren't working out. Well now l worry if we do split up , of not only about even coming across someone else that pushes all the right buttons and ever falling in love again but of also where she might be at sexually bc frankly as l say l'm feeling a bit disinterested anyway, that might change, dk,but of late that's how it is for now.
Somebody new though, unlike my gf now, may be totally different though and that would bring on pressures l just couldn't be bothered with these days.
Sexualness is about intimacy and hopefully love and emotions tome,not some pressures or must do.

dk if any of that will make sense.

 

[a random x]

Perhaps you want a deeper type of relationship. Too many make the mistake of equating the sex act with intimacy. While there should be a strong correlation between the two, if that deep emotional connection isn't there, the act can feel mechanical and empty.

Yeah l do need that most def Big Al, thanks for that.
And we do have that but as l was saying bc there are other problems they are very much also effecting any desire too of late and have been for quite awhile now.
l've never been one of those guys that can just hump anything, l like the full thing between us.

 

[Big Al]

Yeah l do need that most def Big Al, thanks for that.
And we do have that but as l was saying bc there are other problems they are very much also effecting any desire too of late and have been for quite awhile now.
l've never been one of those guys that can just hump anything, l like the full thing between us.

Thanks! I think as we get older we begin to (or at least should) put things into better perspective. You get to a point to where you realize that life is too short to waste it solely on frivolous, shallow pursuits.

Sex is great, but there's nothing like having that intimacy with the person you view as your "soul mate".

 

[a random x]

Yeah most def'.
Not helping is that things are changing for me with her, ldk. Things that have worried me from the start are of late looking to be right. l've hoped l was wrong but sadly as times gone on it's not looking like it and so l'm having a hard time feeling that special thing lately that l need.
l just don't think it's in her culture and their thinking or raising , or something, and so l'm just not feeling the intimacy and that's def' part of my lack of lately.
lf we part ways and there was someone new later on, l just can't tell if l my interest would return bc l can't think that way atm.
Often of late l've also just felt sick of women physically too tbh anyway and intimacy is also often a kind of pressure as well between 2 people and so l also couldn't be bothered dealing with that any more either atm.
Not that l've ever had any pressure put but it's just a kind of obligative thing you do feel as a couple even if subconciously, and they feel it themselves too for us.

Sometimes l think as a couple it'd be much simpler if you both just didn't care about it.

 

[Big Al]

Even if you don't have performance issues, when it stops being "fun" things can take a turn for the worse.

If you feel the relationship is worth salvaging you can attempt to do things both of you might find enjoyable. Even just engaging in teasing foreplay or even just kissing can be enough to revive a spark if there's still genuine feeling there.

This is an important distinction to make, as it would be a shame to dissolve a relations if the issues are merely due to current sexual boredom.

 

[Big Al]

It may be worth considering subconscious concerns. As we get older, we often begin to think about the time we have left. If one doesn't feel secure in certain aspects (e.g.- health, finances, etc.) we may begin to subconsciously fear not being able to support our current partner. Despite any negative behaviors, this concern can manifest itself into frustration and anxiety, and one can begin to see the partner as the cause of these emotions.

It's definitely something to look into, and when there's enough clarity and distance, a carefully worded discussion on the subject may be in order.