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Is commenting on size common?

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Hey guys, I figure this is the right forum for this query. I'm fairly inexperienced sexually only having had two partners so I think others may be able to give me more insight. Do most partners you have comment on penis size (unprompted)? As I said, I've only had two partners and neither has made a comment about my dick. I'm not bemoaning the lack of comments but I was curious about others experiences. I'm about 7.5" NBPEL and unmeasured (presumably around average) girth. I'm sure there are many variables involved in this question although I was under the impression that according to studies 7.5" is above average. Do women usually comment on dick size or is that a misconception I've developed through porn?
 

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I'd recommend that you never get into that subject with a partner. At least not until you both know each other really well.

Ego's can cause bad outcomes. Instead talk about how you enjoyed each other.
 

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They tend not to comment.
 

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Hey guys, I figure this is the right forum for this query. I'm fairly inexperienced sexually only having had two partners so I think others may be able to give me more insight. Do most partners you have comment on penis size (unprompted)? As I said, I've only had two partners and neither has made a comment about my dick. I'm not bemoaning the lack of comments but I was curious about others experiences. I'm about 7.5" NBPEL and unmeasured (presumably around average) girth. I'm sure there are many variables involved in this question although I was under the impression that according to studies 7.5" is above average. Do women usually comment on dick size or is that a misconception I've developed through porn?

Having been with a handful, some do some don’t. I’m bone pressed about your non bone pressed size and some women comment, most do not. It also depends on how you’re banging. If you’re going deep, or have a very large girth, obviously they’re going to be more likely to comment.
 

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Hey for what reasons should you never bring that subject up with a partner? is it because a partner could likely have been with bigger and so theyre not impressed or what? genuinely curious.
 

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All of the above. It's just an awkward situation to put your partner in. You can get enough Intel through after the romp pillow talk. Tell her how much you enjoyed her and she will likely divulge as well. But just understand some people are just private about there thoughts and feeings and that should be respected. They will open up eventually.
 

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You would think if they had something positive to say they would but it doesn't seem to work that way.

On the other hand nasty women know a negative comment about penis size or make up a larger dick ex or the like is effective even on well endowed men .
 

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Do you comment on the size of their breasts, or ass?
 

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Do you comment on the size of their breasts, or ass?

If I have something positive to say about their looks I say it . If I have something negative to say I don't . Lots of people were brought up this way . Makes it easy to misinterpret silence as a negative comment .
 

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If you're 7.5" Non-bone pressed, your are quite long. If you are with enough women one will eventually tell you how big or even huge you are and one will say you're average because she has had huge ones.

Don't talk about it unless you are perfectly OK with hearing how big others may have been. There will always be larger ones. If you are in the 95th percentile, for instance, that still means 5 out of 100 men are bigger...
 

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If you're 7.5" Non-bone pressed, your are quite long. If you are with enough women one will eventually tell you how big or even huge you are and one will say you're average because she has had huge ones.

Don't talk about it unless you are perfectly OK with hearing how big others may have been. There will always be larger ones. If you are in the 95th percentile, for instance, that still means 5 out of 100 men are bigger...

Yeah that's it. 1 out of 20 guys have an 8 incher so you go figure how overepresented they in turn are among guys that actually do sleep with women at all. The numbers might be avarage woman who sleeps around sees 8+ nbpel in one out of every 5 guys she is with. 7.5" would then seem avarage neither small and not big. I definately think you need 8.25-8.5" nbp to even get a reaction.
 

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Do women usually comment on dick size or is that a misconception I've developed through porn?
Women very rarely comment on dick size on their own. If we do it's because of one of the following situations:
1) We're genuinely surprised at the size
2) We're trying to stroke his ego or make him feel better/more comfortable
3) Some do it when they're pissed off or snarky because they want to make him feel bad
4) We're specifically asked about it.

We will very rarely just spontaneously comment on it. I have been known to with some partners because I know they're either insecure about it and need that reassurance in order to really get into it, or because they really get off on being told how great it is. But we tend not to focus on size. Every guy is different, we expect that every dick is going to be as well.

I'd recommend that you never get into that subject with a partner.
Hey for what reasons should you never bring that subject up with a partner? is it because a partner could likely have been with bigger and so theyre not impressed or what? genuinely curious.

Several reasons why you don't want to start asking about it:
1) You can come across as insecure. I have one ex who would ask "How was that for you? Was that good?" every time after we had sex. Every single time. It felt really needy and insecure, and got to the point where I really didn't want to have sex with him because I knew it was going to end with that question.
2) Depending on how secure you are you may not like the answer. Are you okay with her maybe having had larger guys?
3) You may or may not get a straight answer, depending on how well you know each other and how comfortable you are with each other. If she feels like you're asking because you're insecure she might skirt the issue or give you a non-answer, or conveniently forget about someone larger. Size also probably really doesn't matter to her in terms of her enjoyment, so she may worry that if she says something you're not happy with then it will negatively affect your relationship or sexual interactions with her.

You would think if they had something positive to say they would but it doesn't seem to work that way.
On the other hand nasty women know a negative comment about penis size or make up a larger dick ex or the like is effective even on well endowed men .

Both very true. We won't tend to mention it because it doesn't really matter much to us. Again, we know some guys really get off on hearing compliments about it during sex, and porn has told us that yeah we're supposed to commenting on it, but most of us don't unless we feel like the guy really really wants to hear it.

Do you comment on the size of their breasts, or ass?

A lot of guys do actually. Some don't, but many do. But again men are more visually stimulated than women are so they're bound to notice and put more importance on things like that than women are.

A better comparison might actually be hair. Women will do things with their hair, try different products and colours and styles etc but guys rarely will comment about how shiny or soft her hair is. They'll make comments about changes in colour or style, but generally just once. They're not going to say "oh I love stroking your long, soft hair" even if it's true. It's something that women pay a lot of attention to, but men - not so much. Same with dick size - it's important to men but women... not so much.
 
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If they're inexperienced and haven't seen that many, maybe they think your size is the norm.
 

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I never ask a girl about how big she thinks I am. Ever! I just try to make her feel as good as possible because I enjoy knowing that she enjoyed it. However, I have received several compliments from women. They just randomly bring it up. Their comments are about thickness rather than length. I think the last time I measured length I was at around 6.75, which is kind of average. The funny thing is that I always thought that my penis was average in general until I started to hear so many complements about my girth.

An ex I had would mention it rather continuously and would even ask me if other girls had told me the same before.

Another girl I had, revealed on her own that the first time she felt my penis with her hands she got scared (she had only been with another guy before)

Yet another girl said I was a bull.

Others just say that they love my penis without being too specific.

Of course, there are some that give negative comments too. I once dated this girl that would always say that her ex was taller than me, and that her ex was stronger than me and that her ex was bigger down there than me. For that reason I stretched her virgin rectum and then dumped her ass. I can take negative comments without a problem, but she was just being unnecessarily evil, trying to make me feel bad for some reason. She can go find her ex for all I care.

All in all, I am aware that there are plenty of men with larger penises and thicker ones too. Of course it feels good to get these complements, but I'd say not to get fixed much on that. You can give a girl a great time with a small penis if you move it the right way. With that said, I am pretty sure that a 7.5 length is fairly long.

Cheers
 

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I would think that it also has to do with the culture. I usually date Latina girls, and they seem to be a bit more open to bring up those subjects than European or Asian girls. I don't know, this is just based on my own experience. In general some girls are more reserved and will mention nothing about it while others do.
 

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It isn’t common and I agree with Qandisa. Also I wouldn’t ask either, especially if it’s someone that your in love with. I’ve been told how well endowed past lovers were by fwb before eventually having sex with them. It didn’t bother me cause I wasn’t emotionally attached but I wouldn’t want to know if I was in a deep relationship. Vise versa, i’ve had ex’s who were extremely jealous of my past relations for many reasons. Everyone has their insecurities and if it’s a topic that is on your mind a lot it’s probably better to not know their past, just enjoy what you have now. You’re above average, just don’t be poking something that would hurt your ego when there’s no need.
 

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I made a thread addressing this issue, as I try to make it my duty to Red Pill people.

It's hard to find a "one-size-fits-all" answer here, because like us, women aren't a hive-minded species. There are many decent ones who don't care and there are many who have this regressive entitlement to only large sizes and will even go so far to spread rumors about an ex partner's less-than-average dick size to others, provoked or unprovoked. This is also one of the root causes for male performance anxiety, feelings of inadequacy, emasculation, and possibly even one of the reasons for the existence of this site. The challenge here is to be here for yourself, not for her.
 

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Before I had ED my wife would comment on it frequently. She wanted to show pictures to her friends which I declined. Now that I have been doing PE for a few months she commented again for the first time in years. I know the time with ED was disappointing for both of us. Although I also think too many positive comments can also create a kind of pressure. People in my social group when I was younger caught wind that I was larger than average from a particularly vocal girlfriend. This lead to a kind of myth developing around my member which I did not live up to. I think this contributed to a little dysmorphia. I can see how this expectation must hurt black guys in particular. It's not good to have your self-worth tied up in your penis big or small.

Also on this topic, I had many girlfriends tell me I was the largest that they had, then I dated another who commented on some other guy who "really needed magnums". She was visibly pleased and surprised when she touched it for the first time while we were making out. But that comment later was a blow. You should keep in mind that there is always someone who is bigger but in reality women will still be pleased. Afterall, you don't always want the very largest breasts or bum, tiniest waist, etc. etc. Eventually proportions are cartoonish and it's easy to get obsessed with the "most" something well beyond the point of utility.