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How PE has changed my sex life.

rbi99

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Lots of guys ask how has PE changed your sex life. First off I am married and faithful to my wife, so I have never experienced the "Wow, Gee, OMG" reaction. While I have gotten substantially thicker, it was gradual and my wife has seen me naked so often that the gradual growth never jumped out at her. However, it has changed how we make love. I haven't gain much/if any length over the years, so that hasn't changed. I have added probably a full inch to my erect girth, and I was pretty lucky there even before PE.

So intercourse has never been a "slam her up against the wall and fuck her eyes out" kind of thing. We always had to take things a little slow because of my girth. That has become more of an issue for me than my wife, in that I have never had a lot of staying power to begin with. My wife, God bless her, never complained and treasured the intimacy more then her own physical pleasure. My added girth complicated things because in order to enter her it was starting to take longer and longer, and my staying ability wasn't getting any better.

I introduced the infamous Hitachi vibrator and several dildos in order to spice up our sex and to allow her to enjoy as many orgasms as she wanted. It got so good for us that we began drifting away from actual intercourse and instead using her toys on her and then ending our sessions with her going down on me. Giving me head was always a favorite activity for my wife, along with swallowing. So I am indeed lucky.

While I was always thick, my wife could easily take some of me into her mouth without a problem. A funny story is that one of her dildos was almost my exact size before I got really thick, and I tried putting it in my mouth. I'm 6'5", 200 lbs, so I'm not little. I could barely get the head of the damn thing in my mouth. Gave it to my wife and - bam - she had it easily inside her mouth without trying, and she's a foot shorter then myself.

I continued to get thicker, and when I started wearing a cock ring to bed, my thickness became a real issue. My erections have been ok the past few years, but it was getting more difficult to get it fully erect and keep it like that. The cock ring changed all of that!!! I am harder now then when I was a youth full of vim and vinegar. That made my wife getting me into her mouth more complicated. It started with her taking in less and less over time. Finally she had to change how she went down on me. She used to straddle me between my legs, but she started to take me in her mouth from the side. I never asked her, it felt good and always got the desired result. The reason is however, that in order to get me in, by going sideways she used the width of her mouth as opposed to widening her mouth top/bottom. To explain why she did that is because a bunch of my thickness has come from the fact I have enlarged my CS an incredible amount (the muscle that runs along the bottom of your shaft, as opposed to the CC's that run along the side). Additionally, it is not only massively thicker, it is almost as firm as my CCs are. There is very little give to it. That made it easier to get my glans in, but she still can no longer go down onto my shaft because of all the changes.

So the short answer to a long winded response is that yes it did change and affect our sex life. We simply made some adjustments and everything is just fine - if not better.
 
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Would you say the main reason for your girth gains are the UJ and UV strictly? Or have you stayed faithful to other girth exercises? What are your thoughts on the Supra Slammers?

I'm working on girth starting recently again, and I'd love to reach 5.5" firstly. Not sure if it is possible to reach 6" personally
 

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I gained over 1” over five years to 5.5” and my wife has yet to mention any change. However, I do use a lot of lube because we are older.
 

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Would you say the main reason for your girth gains are the UJ and UV strictly? Or have you stayed faithful to other girth exercises? What are your thoughts on the Supra Slammers?

I'm working on girth starting recently again, and I'd love to reach 5.5" firstly. Not sure if it is possible to reach 6" personally

I attribute almost all of it to the UJ and UV. Haven't used devices (unless you call a cock ring a device) and haven't tried the Slammers. I don't see my CCs as being exceptionally large, but my CS really is incredible, if I can say that without sounding like a braggart. That makes looking at my erection from the top down not all that impressive, but when viewed from the side, that's a whole different ballgame.
 

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Can you tell us what have you done for length training?

I haven't worked on length in ages, but when I did I was doing the usual manual stretching. Nothing fancy. I was spending a lot of time on it, and I wasn't getting anything back for the effort. To be honest I would love to have another 1/2" or so, but that isn't going to happen. My girth could have been my blessing and curse.
 

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To be honest I would love to have another 1/2" or so, but that isn't going to happen.

Why do you say this when you just said that you have only tried manual stretching?
Its very possible that with an other length method you may gain something in length.
 

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How do you feel about the vibes getting a lot of “action”? My wife loves them, we have many in the bed with us, dual motor dildos, rabbits, and the Tryst, a tri motor cock ring of sorts. At least the Tryst is something we can use together but the vibes have been getting a lot more play time over the years and it’s starting to bother me. She knows how I feel and at least holds my dick while she orgasms but with never finish me orally and recently I’ve had a hard time finishing PIV. I don’t have the size issue you have at only 6.75 by 5.5 EG but I do bottom out and she has multiple cervical orgasms. Part of my finishing issue is those deep spots cause my glans pain as she orgasms and clamps down on my shaft. Her pelvic floor and vagina muscles have become very strong over the past few years do to so much sex, 3-4 times weekly and at least 100 orgasms per session.
 

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Why do you say this when you just said that you have only tried manual stretching?
Its very possible that with an other length method you may gain something in length.

You might be right about that, but for one thing I am not about to try devices, and I have been into and will continue to simply do maintenance for girth purposes. I don't have any desire to restart PE anywhere near how I used to.
 

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How do you feel about the vibes getting a lot of “action”? My wife loves them, we have many in the bed with us, dual motor dildos, rabbits, and the Tryst, a tri motor cock ring of sorts. At least the Tryst is something we can use together but the vibes have been getting a lot more play time over the years and it’s starting to bother me. She knows how I feel and at least holds my dick while she orgasms but with never finish me orally and recently I’ve had a hard time finishing PIV. I don’t have the size issue you have at only 6.75 by 5.5 EG but I do bottom out and she has multiple cervical orgasms. Part of my finishing issue is those deep spots cause my glans pain as she orgasms and clamps down on my shaft. Her pelvic floor and vagina muscles have become very strong over the past few years do to so much sex, 3-4 times weekly and at least 100 orgasms per session.

I love it when my wife takes the vibrator to herself while I have my fingers inserted inside her. The feeling of her vaginal walls squeezing my fingers while I feel her orgasms getting stronger and stronger is a real turn on for me. The vibrators and dildos were all my idea. She never even thought about them prior. I purchased one large dildo that she doesn't care to use, so she has settled in on one that she really likes. The fact that my wife really enjoys giving me oral certainly makes things better for me. I am free to lay back and relax with the knowledge that at this point in our love making session I can cum quickly or not because my wife has already been pleasured.
 

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Rbi, i feel like my pe career was alot like yours. Heavy jelq activity and heavy girth gains but little in the way of el gains. I thought if i just kept jelkin id get something for length.
 

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I love it when my wife takes the vibrator to herself while I have my fingers inserted inside her. The feeling of her vaginal walls squeezing my fingers while I feel her orgasms getting stronger and stronger is a real turn on for me. The vibrators and dildos were all my idea. She never even thought about them prior. I purchased one large dildo that she doesn't care to use, so she has settled in on one that she really likes. The fact that my wife really enjoys giving me oral certainly makes things better for me. I am free to lay back and relax with the knowledge that at this point in our love making session I can cum quickly or not because my wife has already been pleasured.

Yep. I’d agree with that. For example, today. I placed her favorite dual motor vibe,it a g spot, clitoral dual motor vibe between her legs. She.rolled over over on me and just went to,town. Sometimes I get sleepy after 120mgsnof viagra. Just let her have her fun. She will convulse multiple times, over and over. And I’ll admit it’s quite a turn on,but, in the end I’d like it I was the main event.
 

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I continued to get thicker, and when I started wearing a cock ring to bed, my thickness became a real issue. My erections have been ok the past few years, but it was getting more difficult to get it fully erect and keep it like that. The cock ring changed all of that!!! I am harder now then when I was a youth full of vim and vinegar.

Hey rbi, I am curious about wearing cock rings for extended periods of time. You mention that you now get harder after you began wearing a cock ring to bed. Are your erections harder now even without the use of the cock ring, meaning your EQ has increased as a result of extended wear of the cock ring?
 

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Hey rbi, I am curious about wearing cock rings for extended periods of time. You mention that you now get harder after you began wearing a cock ring to bed. Are your erections harder now even without the use of the cock ring, meaning your EQ has increased as a result of extended wear of the cock ring?

No, my erection quality is not improving on its own or because of PE. My stronger erections are directly the result of me wearing a cock ring. I don't have it so tight that it causes me problems, and I usually wear mine for a few days at a time. Besides sex, I definitely wear it after one of my maintenance jelqing sessions.