This post will be a long post but hear me out and please test this yourself and report back if you can.
So in my other thread I mentioned that 2 nights ago I had my best edging session yet. Went for almost an hour with aggressive hand stimulation while watching porn (only hit PONR once), and then used my fleshlight at the end and had total control, whereas normally I would PONR within a minute using it.
Since it would make sense that I'd last longer in the FL after an hour of intense edging due to the desensitization, yesterday I decided to try starting out with the FL instead when my dick was still fully sensitized. Inserted, and disappointingly I PONR'd within a minute. Damn. I started really thinking about why exactly this would be since I can stimulate myself very aggressively on my biggest "hot spots" using my hands and tons of lube and still be in control. Maybe it was the thrusting motion, or maybe the FL was stimulating my dick in some way that my hands weren't replicating.
I then realized that when I use the FL, the orgasmic feelings always seem to rush right to the very tip of my dick. It just all concentrates there, and fighting it off is impossible. I then took a look at my usual edging/ballooning technique and noticed that every area of my dick was being stimulated, but one area was being neglected - for lack of a better term, it was the glans area around the peehole, particularly on the top side just below it. When looking at the fleshlight, I realized that the grooves inside would in fact be rubbing against this area. I then also remembered some old threads from JamesMonroe, another member who cured himself with edging/deathgrip and said his most sensitive spot was this same area.
So today I tried an experiment. I started off by stimulating this area only for about 10 minutes, mostly by holding my dick with one hand and then moving the palm of my other hand in a circular motion on it while compressing the head very slightly. Turns out this is indeed the most "sensitive" area of the dick, but in a different way. Unlike the frenulum or below the glans, it is not pleasurable to rub. It's actually quite uncomfortable and produces somewhat of a "squeamish" feeling for me. I believe this is because it stimulates the urethral nerve. I also took a soft couch pillow that has some grooves in it and just rubbed the area back and forth over it a bit. Some other observations about it, at least that I can speak for in my case:
- The stronger the erection, the more sensitive it is. When flaccid it isn't really sensitive at all.
- The best way to stimulate it is neither dry nor fully lubed, but somewhere in between. I apply a bit of lube, then wipe some off and find the consistency that makes it most sensitive.
- This is strange, but when I stimulate this area while standing up, it produces a VERY odd feeling throughout the entire body unlike any other area of the penis. It's like a jolt of energy that travels up to my head, and interestingly, through my pelvic area and right into my lower back at the base of my spine. I don't know if there is a connection, but the nerves at the base of the spine are responsible for controlling the ejaculatory reflex.
It takes experimentation to find the motions that hit the area in the way I'm talking about, but you'll know when you have because it's very intense, and again, fairly uncomfortable. There's something about being fully erect, half lubed and using circular motions that just sets it off.
Anyway, after I had worked this area for 10 minutes to desensitize it a bit (not touching anything else), I fully lubed up, put on some arousing porn, and inserted into the fleshlight. The result? Total control. That orgasmic rush to the tip of my dick that always comes barreling in just never happened, and I was able to keep thrusting hard and fast without any issue. I didn't even have to concentrate or make any effort to control myself. I tried all kinds of thrusting motions, dirty thoughts, even kegel'd a bit, still nothing. Got down in missionary which usually sets me off almost instantly - still nothing. Wow.
So, unless it was a fluke (always a possibility) it seems that there really is something to this area of the dick. Stimulating it seems to somehow block the ejaculatory response. I'm going to add this to my edging routine and see how it goes - I was also thinking that maybe this could even be used prior to sex as a way of delaying ejaculation.
My final thought on this is that it seems PE can be treated via physical methods more than I had realized. I definitely do believe that chemical/psychological factors are highly important, but my experience so far seems to indicate that the right physical methods can still override it. Regardless of how mentally aroused or anxious you might be, if the physical nerves that control ejaculation are firing less powerfully, ejaculation can still be delayed.
(Or, the other possibility is that I'm completely wrong about this and it was just a fluke, which is why I'd encourage some other members to try this out. Stimulate the area of the glans around the peehole until you can replicate that uncomfortable "jolt" it produces - go about 10 minutes - and then use your fleshlight or hand and see if it makes any difference.)