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Dear all,

I am an old friend. Who suffered some problems about sexual function (Here is my post about my problem: https://www.pegym.com/forums/erectile-dysfunction-forum/94032-sadness-story-what-can-i-do.html).

And what is today happening:
My lovely girl, who I want to get married. Today I take off her clothes. After kissing, a bit libidio increasing, but it disappeared soon immediately. Then I feel nothing, in front of a nake beautiful girl, I completely feel nothing, of course penis isn't hard.

I have to explain to her that "Today I not ready". But she asked me "What is actually your problem?". I answered "Today I not ready", and we were slient in two hours.

But what happened in last month? I enjoyed watch porn and masturbated (1 time) and have sex with a girl (call girl) without problem. => I still have ability but why it disappeared when I need.

I vaguely feel that, when I expected more (more exciting than porn, or more shock), my libido goes zero.

What should I do to escape the problem? I feel disappointed, shame? Why this thing happened to me? I can not live my life like normal men. Any help would be greatly appreciated!
 

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Sounds like anxiety though porn wouldn't help.
 

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Hi there friend,

As pegasus mentioned above it does sound like anxiety related ed which you should go to see a specialist about. In the meantime cutting out porn is somthing you seriously need to consider as it can have an aweful psychological impact on us!

You should also click on the "start here" section at the top of the page and look through the information about penis exercise that is available there. I recommend starting jp90 but don't focus on increasing your size to begin with. Simply use it to regain control over your penile health and wellbeing.

Also look at kegels and reverse kegels as these can help with erection quality!
 

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Performance anxiety. Next time pick a time and place that is completely stress free without time constraints and pressure to perform. Instead of focusing on the final conclusion, focus more on concentrating on providing pleasure through touching, kissing, and licking. Orgasm should be looked upon as a bonus.
 

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I always have a limp dick when my wife comes to bed, even after taking viagra, ED ya know. But the minute she starts having orgasms, from vibraters, my fingers, my tongue I get rock hard. So relax, the reason you can perform with a hooker is you don't have feelings for her, you want to pleasure your girl and freaks you out. Once she's had an foreplay orgasm a lot of the pressure should be off your shoulders. You got her there, now go for two or three, etc.....
 

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Performance anxiety. Next time pick a time and place that is completely stress free without time constraints and pressure to perform. Instead of focusing on the final conclusion, focus more on concentrating on providing pleasure through touching, kissing, and licking. Orgasm should be looked upon as a bonus.

Thank you.
I am sure that if she stay with me in whole week, I can perform.

If time is shorter, for example, one night. I an not sure! Could you please give me more best practice to overcome this. I know you can tell me that I search google, but I want to hear opinion from you
 

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So i read your prior post to understand your problem deeper (https://www.pegym.com/forums/erectile-dysfunction-forum/94032-sadness-story-what-can-i-do.html). Reading your post today I have noted that the same problems you were having from last year have not been resolved.

1) Big Al suggested a very strong point that you should eliminate porn completely out of your life and go through a period of detoxication. He was trying to tell you the Truth that it is working against you. So its been a year since and this was not done. Perhaps implementing this could be the starting point of your solution. I have met hundreds of people experiencing your problem and i can tell you this....most people continue to be trapped in this because they simply do not "follow through" courses of action which they would have been given.

2) Its imperative that you start having an appreciation of the mechanics that cause you to ED. Understanding this will be key to your breakthrough.

3) Porn can be hard to escape especially for people in you shoes. I encourage you to also join support groups for Porn addiction. I have seen a lot of people getting tremendous help there.

I wish you the very best in your journey!
 
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So i read your prior post to understand your problem deeper (https://www.pegym.com/forums/erectile-dysfunction-forum/94032-sadness-story-what-can-i-do.html). Reading your post today I have noted that the same problems you were having from last year have not been resolved.

1) Big Al suggested a very strong point that you should eliminate porn completely out of your life and go through a period of detoxication. He was trying to tell you the Truth that it is working against you. So its been a year since and this was not done. Perhaps implementing this could be the starting point of your solution. I have met hundreds of people experiencing your problem and i can tell you this....most people continue to be trapped in this because they simply do not "follow through" courses of action which they would have been given.

2) Its imperative that you start having an appreciation of the mechanics that cause you to ED. Understanding this will be key to your breakthrough. Visit (Dream to existence) and read their article.

3) Porn can be hard to escape especially for people in you shoes. I encourage you to also join support groups for Porn addiction. I have seen a lot of people getting tremendous help there. Here is one i know (Reboot Nation). Get tips and advice on how others have succeeded.

I wish you the very best in your journey!

You show me my problems very clear. Like you've just hardly punching my head, wake me up from wrong dream. I will carefully review my plan and course. Undisciplined behaviours cost myself to much.
I want to say thank you.
 

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Dear all,

I want to say thank you for your help. Yesterday is terrible, I nearly cant sleep whole night, but your answers help me much. I feel more calm and focus on the problem rather than what I am thinking.

Today I said the truth to my girl friend, that "I am unable in this situation", and she forgive me.

Nothing resolved here, ED and desensitization still here, what happens in next time is unpredictable . But it's much easier after telling the truth. Now I am enjoying practice Pegym.
 
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