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2nd time i dated anyone outside of meeting them through school, friends, etc. The first date we went to a fun place with video games and laser tag. She said she had a blast. Second date we went to the movies. It was a pretty funny movie. I bought tickets, she offered to pitch in half this time since i payed for first date. We laughed, held hands, my arm was around her. I drove her home, and asked her if she wanted me to walk her to her door. I wanted to kiss her but i didn't say it. She smiled, touched my hand, and said, "next time!" She Got out fast and walked pretty fast almost like a jog to her door. Does this mean she's not interested? I'm a pretty confident and great guy, not ugly, and i'm where i want to be in life atm. she's beautiful, 7 years older, very sweet , very easy going and always has me pick what we do because she likes everything.
I'm 20. Last time i had a gf was when i was 15. :/
Age have anything to do with it?
Idfk. So confused. :(
 

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yeah, just ask her out again. If she comes, it is on, kiss her, don't ask, just do it.
 

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yeah, just ask her out again. If she comes, it is on, kiss her, don't ask, just do it.

That's probably what I would do. You don't know why she moved so quickly, but if she wants to do something again that's obviously a good sign. If she dodges and doesn't offer up an alternate date/time, then it is likely time to start looking for someone else.
 

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2nd time i dated anyone outside of meeting them through school, friends, etc. The first date we went to a fun place with video games and laser tag. She said she had a blast. Second date we went to the movies. It was a pretty funny movie. I bought tickets, she offered to pitch in half this time since i payed for first date. We laughed, held hands, my arm was around her. I drove her home, and asked her if she wanted me to walk her to her door. I wanted to kiss her but i didn't say it. She smiled, touched my hand, and said, "next time!" She Got out fast and walked pretty fast almost like a jog to her door. Does this mean she's not interested? I'm a pretty confident and great guy, not ugly, and i'm where i want to be in life atm. she's beautiful, 7 years older, very sweet , very easy going and always has me pick what we do because she likes everything.
I'm 20. Last time i had a gf was when i was 15. :/
Age have anything to do with it?
Idfk. So confused. :(
Sounds like she thinks you're great, man. I think you're doing well. Keep doing what it is that you're doing
 

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It could be that rather than your chivalric offer of an escort and a hope for a kiss was interpreted by her as an attempt to be invited inside. If that's the case, she was just trying to spare both of you the awkwardness that might come if she didn't want to have sex that particular night. Rather than be disheartened by that, be encouraged by her use of "next time"!
 

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Tou are all very helpful! :D What should the first kiss be like?
 

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there is no perfect situation. Look her in the eyes, and go for it. Don't overthink :)
 

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Well i mean what would be more appropriate? A small peck, or make out, or in between?
 

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Just call her , go out , have fun, and see what happens. What's so hard about being young and enjoying yourself? You young guys are gonna kill me!
 

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Well i mean what would be more appropriate? A small peck, or make out, or in between?

The situation will tell you! You start out with a small kiss and if you're both feeling it and want more then you both lean in for more! That's about it!
 

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Okay, just go with the flow. Also i have another question.:p so i only went on two dates with her. Would it be appropriate to invite her to watch the superbowl with my family this sunday? It's not like anything serious, i just think it would be cool in general just to bring someone with me since they'll be having food and stuff.
 

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Sorry lol, i don't know anything about etiquette when it comes to dating. I appreciate the advice very much!
 

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What do you want a dating playbook? Figure it out for yourself. That is the only way you'll learn and know what's best for you.
 

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Yep, I agree. Sounds like she enjoyed herself, and plans to again. Probably knew where walking her to the door was going to go (kiss, or more), and so passed to keep it on a slow pace. But "next time" is definitely positive!

As for next time, just walk her to her door, don't ask. Don't expect anything either, but go with the flow. If nothing else, say goodnight, and let her know you had a great time.

As for meeting the family this soon, again, go with the flow. Mention it, and see if there's interest. If there is, invite her casually. Don't make it a big deal, that could add pressure, and make her feel like she's in the spotlight. Give an easy out, so she doesn't feel like she's offending if she turns it down.

The first kiss? Well, nothing can quite describe that feeling. But you can practice (mirror, hand) if you feel you want to. Seems silly, but hey, how else can you?
 

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Yes, it would be appropriate to invite her to a fun, relaxed family function like watching the Superbowl.
 

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Aw kissing! So sweet. I may just have a filthy mind but I thought 'walk you to your door' was obvious sex-code, not because you wanted a smooch, if she thought so too then the 'next time' is pretty encouraging. To each their own though, perhaps she thinks like you do. That'd be nice, right?