Okay so tonight I edged with some intent. It was my first day of Arousal Control Program. I have come to conclusion that my Pre E is mostly mental so decided to give this program a shot. Tonight's session:
First PONR: 33 mins
Second PONR: 42 mins
Third PONR: 53 mins
What I did?
I edged with lube and got an erection solely from physical stimulation. My penis took its time but eventually got hard (a brief erotic thought might have helped) but my goal was to get hard with an empty mind (free of positive as well as negative thoughts) It was recommended to me by Minuteman.
Physical Symptoms I noticed: Abs and stomach would tense up occasionally, triceps (surprisingly) and my forearm would also do the same, neck region also tensed up but only twice. My legs and pelvic region was really calm and relaxed (may be because I was laying on my back?) I tried to breath deep throughout and did pretty good for my first day. I had to occasionally remind myself of it though.
My arousal level stayed very low.
Questions:
1. It seemed that when I would breath out my abdominal region along with my arms would tense up, how are you supposed to keep it relaxed and breath deep at the same time?
2. After my first PONR I really felt I could go as long as I wanted, but I noticed one thing that sent my arousal level from 5 to 9 on two occasions that was pulling my foreskin back (I am uncut). I was trying slow strokes and when I pulled it further back than I normally do, it sent my arousal level up like crazy. Any thoughts on that? In fact, it was the reason I reached PONR second and the third time.
3. I was able to kegel off second ejaculation, but reverse kegel done after the sensation had subsided caused a yellowish cum drop to dribble out. I did the same with the third ejaculation but my kegel was not strong enough on this occasion which resulted in a drop or two to dribble out. I also noticed a drop slowly come out as I was pulling my pants up. Is this gonna be considered an ejaculation?(
if yes, its a disappointment because I just had a full orgasm yesterday and wanted to go at least 3 days without any kind of ejaculation) I didn't go flaccid right away, I am sure I could have gotten it as hard as it gets and continued with it, but decided not to.
4. To my fellow PErs, How do you guys edge? Do you have an erotic story going on in your mind all the time? It was really hard for me to concentrate and remember to breath deep, keep my body relaxed,etc and still imagine something hot. I must my admit whenever I was able to do it, it sure bumped my arousal level. I know it helps to edge with imagining stuff, but how do you do all that at the same time?
5. When people say they had their first PONR at 6 mins or so, do you guys try your best to reach it or to delay it? I'd take me 45 mins to reach my first PONR with glan only stimulation but with distractions (texting, chatting, etc) Today I didn't even turn the light on, it still took me over 30 mins. My penis didn't really feel anything.
6. I tried balloning when close to the PONR, and i placed a finger right b/w my testes and anus to feel the involuntary kegel. I didn't have a whole lot of them. In fact, just had 2 or 3 that were very very close to PONR while i was stimulating the area right below the head (very sensitive). Are they natural or should I try to counter them? I really thought they had to happen to push the semen up.
I am kinda frustrated about not knowing how to edge properly. Because if I suffer from Pre E. i should reach my first PONR a lot quicker. ugghh. I will figure it out tomorrow.