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Hello Everyone,
I'm back and I'm still single. But it seems that I'm actually starting to have some success on a dating app that I recently signed up for (Bumble, of all the apps).
For those who want the TLDR version, I'll cut straight to the point..
I'm trying to come up with creative "first date ideas" and there seem to be lots of different opinions on what makes a good first date. I want to come up with some fun, memorable, and of course avoid anything the cliche dates like "dinner and movie", but more importantly, I don't want to anything that would make a date feel uncomfortable, awkward or unsafe.
In this case, I asked a girl if she wanted to go Kayaking. She agreed, but I'm beginning to rethink my idea for a reasons.
(ie. I recently saw a woman on a Hiking FB page talk about going on a hike as first date, and a lot of people cautioned her that it might not be a wise idea to go hiking with a stranger).
Now, for more for interesting detailed version.
I finally decided to stop overthinking stuff and got off my ass and signed for a non-Tinder dating app. (fwiw, I signed up for Tinder and managed to get one date last Feb, but she really wasn't my type, and things really died down on the app after that).
So, I signed up for Bumble.
For those unfamiliar with Bumble, its' a "Swiping" App thats' unique in the fact tat it actually requires the women to make the first move and message the guy once you have mutually match.
I had some decent, NEW pics I took in Egypt of me doing fun stuff like riding a camel, hanging out on a white sand isle with beautiful blue ocean in the BG, and some of older pics of me doing "active stuff".
Before I even had time to fill out my profile, I noticed I had a few "likes". I filled out a few quick "conversation prompt" topics that Bumble conveniently provides and by the end of day I had 18 "Likes".
The following day, I used enough of my limited swipes to match with 14 of my 18 likes.
Of my 14 message, I had 7 of them message me (6 immediately, and one right before the time expired). 50% message rate? I was genuinely shocked since women have a reputation of never wanting to message first and/or don't message most of their matches.
6 of them started with openers like "Hey/Hi", "How are you?" and/or "Good morning". Fair enough, I'm not complaining! the best part is, I'm still having ongoing conversations with all of them.
One of the actually came up with something more creative and asked what was the most recent live event I attended. We started talking about various outdoor activities we enjoyed and she mentioned she really like Golfing, biking, hiking and she had recently started kayaking with her friends and was considering buying a kayak.
I decided this would be a great opportunity to ask her on a date so I responded.
I know a great place we could Kayaking this Friday evening if you want to come along (and I have a kayak you could borrow}. Will probably grab a bite to eat afterwards as well.
She responded "I can’t this week. I have Pelotonia opening ceremony and then ride first thing Saturday. I could maybe meet up Sunday though"
I suggested 6pm on Sunday evening and she said she would have to drop her son off somewhere at 6pm, but countered with 6:30pm.
We both agreed and I said I would get back to her with details on the location. She said "Sounds Good, I'm headed to bed, Goodnight!"
So, I'm really glad she actually worked with me on coming up with an ideal date time (instead of dismissing the idea and saying she was too busy), but I'm almost wondering if kayaking is a good first date idea? Is it too much? She didn't seem opposed to it, but I also wonder if she may be just going along with it since I suggested it, but it isn't her favorite idea for a first date.
Some of the conflicting advice I've heard before regarding first dates are things like "You should go somewhere in the afternoon for a quick coffee/lunch at a cafe", "you should do something unique and fun", "You should avoid afternoon dates and do something in the evening"
Anyways, I would like to hear your thoughts. I was considering doing something a little more clean, dry and comfortable on land, but I'm not sure if it would look bad to change my original idea/plan for the date.
I'm back and I'm still single. But it seems that I'm actually starting to have some success on a dating app that I recently signed up for (Bumble, of all the apps).
For those who want the TLDR version, I'll cut straight to the point..
I'm trying to come up with creative "first date ideas" and there seem to be lots of different opinions on what makes a good first date. I want to come up with some fun, memorable, and of course avoid anything the cliche dates like "dinner and movie", but more importantly, I don't want to anything that would make a date feel uncomfortable, awkward or unsafe.
In this case, I asked a girl if she wanted to go Kayaking. She agreed, but I'm beginning to rethink my idea for a reasons.
(ie. I recently saw a woman on a Hiking FB page talk about going on a hike as first date, and a lot of people cautioned her that it might not be a wise idea to go hiking with a stranger).
Now, for more for interesting detailed version.
I finally decided to stop overthinking stuff and got off my ass and signed for a non-Tinder dating app. (fwiw, I signed up for Tinder and managed to get one date last Feb, but she really wasn't my type, and things really died down on the app after that).
So, I signed up for Bumble.
For those unfamiliar with Bumble, its' a "Swiping" App thats' unique in the fact tat it actually requires the women to make the first move and message the guy once you have mutually match.
I had some decent, NEW pics I took in Egypt of me doing fun stuff like riding a camel, hanging out on a white sand isle with beautiful blue ocean in the BG, and some of older pics of me doing "active stuff".
Before I even had time to fill out my profile, I noticed I had a few "likes". I filled out a few quick "conversation prompt" topics that Bumble conveniently provides and by the end of day I had 18 "Likes".
The following day, I used enough of my limited swipes to match with 14 of my 18 likes.
Of my 14 message, I had 7 of them message me (6 immediately, and one right before the time expired). 50% message rate? I was genuinely shocked since women have a reputation of never wanting to message first and/or don't message most of their matches.
6 of them started with openers like "Hey/Hi", "How are you?" and/or "Good morning". Fair enough, I'm not complaining! the best part is, I'm still having ongoing conversations with all of them.
One of the actually came up with something more creative and asked what was the most recent live event I attended. We started talking about various outdoor activities we enjoyed and she mentioned she really like Golfing, biking, hiking and she had recently started kayaking with her friends and was considering buying a kayak.
I decided this would be a great opportunity to ask her on a date so I responded.
I know a great place we could Kayaking this Friday evening if you want to come along (and I have a kayak you could borrow}. Will probably grab a bite to eat afterwards as well.
She responded "I can’t this week. I have Pelotonia opening ceremony and then ride first thing Saturday. I could maybe meet up Sunday though"
I suggested 6pm on Sunday evening and she said she would have to drop her son off somewhere at 6pm, but countered with 6:30pm.
We both agreed and I said I would get back to her with details on the location. She said "Sounds Good, I'm headed to bed, Goodnight!"
So, I'm really glad she actually worked with me on coming up with an ideal date time (instead of dismissing the idea and saying she was too busy), but I'm almost wondering if kayaking is a good first date idea? Is it too much? She didn't seem opposed to it, but I also wonder if she may be just going along with it since I suggested it, but it isn't her favorite idea for a first date.
Some of the conflicting advice I've heard before regarding first dates are things like "You should go somewhere in the afternoon for a quick coffee/lunch at a cafe", "you should do something unique and fun", "You should avoid afternoon dates and do something in the evening"
Anyways, I would like to hear your thoughts. I was considering doing something a little more clean, dry and comfortable on land, but I'm not sure if it would look bad to change my original idea/plan for the date.
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