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I fell in love with a girl I met online who's completely wrong for me. Very sweet girl, but not ready for a relationship. She's going through a bunch of hardships right now, two deaths in the family in two weeks, a breakup with a toxic ex two weeks ago, some problems that require therapy. I have been talking to her for four months and been there for her giving her a lot of emotional support and encouragement while she was struggling. I never intended to have feelings for her the just happened and were mutual for a while. We planned on meeting soon but things fell through.
Then she got a crush on some jerk who's just like her ex last week. I could tell she lost interest in me at that point and I wasn't about to chase her. So, I left her on good terms yesterday to recover my feelings and get over her, and to give her space to pursue this guy if that's what she wants. It's just a crush that won't last but I needed to do this for me. I'm not too torn up over this, I'm just disappointed that I let my emotions get in the way. She could have left me at any point and I would have been just fine. I'm used to this happening and don't take it personally. I just got too caught up on the idea of her. Despite everything I'm still working out hard, going to work, and working on myself but I need to start dating others.
I hate this "nice guy" feeling but that's really who I am at the core. I'm treat others well, but I don't act nice to get things in return. I still care about her and want to be her friend again when I'm over her because I really liked her that way and would prefer things stay platonic. I don't hate her or anything for this or want to leave forever. I actually understand the psychology fairly well and respect her boundaries, as she does mine. She's still contacting me asking if I'm okay and if I need anything. Not the first time this has happened but the first time where the girl and I had a good friendship before.
My plan is to take 3-4 weeks off from her and work on some things I've put off, pick up a few new hobbies, apply for another job. My current one isn't giving me enough hours. And go back to college for a class I need to get out of the way to finish my degree next year. Been working out and making great improvements in strength and size but I haven't been taking my diet too seriously and need to cut some fat. So that's what I need to work on too. I will be okay.
Then she got a crush on some jerk who's just like her ex last week. I could tell she lost interest in me at that point and I wasn't about to chase her. So, I left her on good terms yesterday to recover my feelings and get over her, and to give her space to pursue this guy if that's what she wants. It's just a crush that won't last but I needed to do this for me. I'm not too torn up over this, I'm just disappointed that I let my emotions get in the way. She could have left me at any point and I would have been just fine. I'm used to this happening and don't take it personally. I just got too caught up on the idea of her. Despite everything I'm still working out hard, going to work, and working on myself but I need to start dating others.
I hate this "nice guy" feeling but that's really who I am at the core. I'm treat others well, but I don't act nice to get things in return. I still care about her and want to be her friend again when I'm over her because I really liked her that way and would prefer things stay platonic. I don't hate her or anything for this or want to leave forever. I actually understand the psychology fairly well and respect her boundaries, as she does mine. She's still contacting me asking if I'm okay and if I need anything. Not the first time this has happened but the first time where the girl and I had a good friendship before.
My plan is to take 3-4 weeks off from her and work on some things I've put off, pick up a few new hobbies, apply for another job. My current one isn't giving me enough hours. And go back to college for a class I need to get out of the way to finish my degree next year. Been working out and making great improvements in strength and size but I haven't been taking my diet too seriously and need to cut some fat. So that's what I need to work on too. I will be okay.