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So lads,

Not posted on here for a while - at the start of lockdown I made it my mission to fix my Pre-E. The combination of no porn, edging with a fleshlight, APT stretches and yoga as well as the delay spray promescent gave me complete control.

The last 2 times I have had sex I have been unable to finish on both rounds. I did have some minor successes without promescent (7 minutes on a second round - could have gone for longer if I'd paid attention to my breathing and pelvic floor) but I thought what's the point when promescent lets me fuck like a pornstar. I can do any speed, any stroke, hold out to make them cum multiple times, talk dirty, EVERYTHING without even worrying about cumming.

Anyway it's been a week since I had sex with my ex and it was one of the most arousing experiences of my life (but I didn't cum). Didn't edge for a week as my dick was a little sore after and I used cialis (didn't wanna tire my dick out). But I thought to maintain the control I have had recently I should do a bit more edging for when I next fuck, but couldn't get a boner (Despite me getting morning wood pretty much every morning? I figured it was just that cialis lasts a while in your system - hence the regular boners I've been getting from morning wood and thinking about sex). I was a little freaked out and was worried if I'd damaged my dick a little bit from the cialis use, but I think it was just anxiety.

Anyways, my premature ejaculation was caused by masturbating to porn for many years and I always tell myself not to use it worrying it will affect my stamina. Anyways I went ahead with it just to get past the psychological aspect and the strangest thing happened. I got up one of my favourite videos, one that I would usually hit the PONR with in a minute or so, but this time I was in complete control?

I was edging with 2 hands and lube, trying to stimulate myself as much as possible with a rock hard boner, but didn't hit PONR once? (yes, I had to watch my breathing and do a couple RKs here and there, but still) It's like now that I've lived out a lot of my sexual fantasies recently and been unable to cum, pounding as fast as I can in highly arousing situations I can handle much more arousal without cumming?

Idk what to do at this point cause I remember reading all of Drummer19's logs and once he got to the point where he could edge with control to porn he completely gave it up and only edged as part of his masturbation. It kinda concerns me that I can't get a rock hard boner without porn now, but I've been getting morning wood every day so it must just be anxiety - guess I'll just have to wait till I next have sex to see if my stamina's been affected - Anyone else had experiences like this?
 

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So you are asking how without any mental stimulation you cannot get erections? with physical stimulation?

What are your guys' thoughts on this? Are people normally able to maintain a high-eq erection without porn or fantasy during masturbation? I've actually had trouble here sometimes. I started watching porn before I even learned how to masturbate and so I masturbated to porn from around 11 - 19. Now that I've cut it out of my life, even 2 years later I sometimes have issues with my arousal. When I get an erection, it has to be through manual stimulation. If I waited to get an erection before I started masturbating, I'd never jack-off again :/ I don't have issues finding girls attractive and lusting after them, but that arousal doesn't actually translate into my dick, so I find it hard to stay aroused when masturbating without porn. What this usually means is that I can get an erection, but because the arousal isn't there, it often dies out 10-15 mins into the session, even if I am relaxed.
 

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What are your guys' thoughts on this? Are people normally able to maintain a high-eq erection without porn or fantasy during masturbation? I've actually had trouble here sometimes. I started watching porn before I even learned how to masturbate and so I masturbated to porn from around 11 - 19. Now that I've cut it out of my life, even 2 years later I sometimes have issues with my arousal. When I get an erection, it has to be through manual stimulation. If I waited to get an erection before I started masturbating, I'd never jack-off again :/ I don't have issues finding girls attractive and lusting after them, but that arousal doesn't actually translate into my dick, so I find it hard to stay aroused when masturbating without porn. What this usually means is that I can get an erection, but because the arousal isn't there, it often dies out 10-15 mins into the session, even if I am relaxed.
I can tell for myself. I get hard erection and PreE without any porn, visual stimulation or imagination. Usually I reach PONR within 2-3 min.
Now if I include porn things are getting almost out of control and I have the feeling I can cum without touching myself.
Something else I have noticed as well is the arousal coming from porn and sex is completely different. With porn I somehow find myself too concentrated in the screen forgetting the state of my body.
With sex is better as I move more, feel my breathing, sometimes talking dirty to wife, which in a way puts my attention away from the sensation in my dick and I think helps me last longer..
 

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I can tell for myself. I get hard erection and PreE without any porn, visual stimulation or imagination. Usually I reach PONR within 2-3 min.
Now if I include porn things are getting almost out of control and I have the feeling I can cum without touching myself.
Something else I have noticed as well is the arousal coming from porn and sex is completely different. With porn I somehow find myself too concentrated in the screen forgetting the state of my body.
With sex is better as I move more, feel my breathing, sometimes talking dirty to wife, which in a way puts my attention away from the sensation in my dick and I think helps me last longer..

Jimmy_quick I was the exact same as you broski like 2/3 weeks ago - I would hit PONR with porn with minimal situation

Then I had sex a couple times with promescent on a few beers with cialis and yesterday I edged twice to porn with 2 hands and lube with a rock hard boner, stimulating myself as much as I could and no PONR?

So strange - I've never been able to handle arousal like that before - maybe cause I lasted so long in such highly arousing situations last time and I know I can last long in sex now the anxiety is gone? Fuck knows it's fucking weird tho, still tryna get my head round it
 

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Jimmy_quick I was the exact same as you broski like 2/3 weeks ago - I would hit PONR with porn with minimal situation

Then I had sex a couple times with promescent on a few beers with cialis and yesterday I edged twice to porn with 2 hands and lube with a rock hard boner, stimulating myself as much as I could and no PONR?

So strange - I've never been able to handle arousal like that before - maybe cause I lasted so long in such highly arousing situations last time and I know I can last long in sex now the anxiety is gone? Fuck knows it's fucking weird tho, still tryna get my head round it

Spray + Beer + Cialis is the like ultimate combo to delaying your orgasm, so I'm not that surprised you had those results haha. Still great to hear your progress though!
 

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Jimmy_quick I was the exact same as you broski like 2/3 weeks ago - I would hit PONR with porn with minimal situation

Then I had sex a couple times with promescent on a few beers with cialis and yesterday I edged twice to porn with 2 hands and lube with a rock hard boner, stimulating myself as much as I could and no PONR?

So strange - I've never been able to handle arousal like that before - maybe cause I lasted so long in such highly arousing situations last time and I know I can last long in sex now the anxiety is gone? Fuck knows it's fucking weird tho, still tryna get my head round it
With all those how do you get an erection at all haha. It shows you have much too anxiety about sex.