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Currently 25, I will write down my problems as well what I think are reasons for them:
PreE - bad masturbation habits, unable to handle sexual stimuli and overactive PF
EQ problem - due to overactive and tight PF and also I have performance anxiety
Arousal control - trained myself to cum on hot scenes during porn watching (now doggy is impossible, few thrusts)
Shrinkage - probably imbalanced PF are limiting my EQ hence shrinkage in EL (I am not going to sweat anymore about this, just accept the current state and work with that)
Current state:
My plan for week 1:
Goal for week 1 is just to get into the habit of doing this things, read stickies few times over and listen how my body reacts.
Ultimate goal: Have sex for 10 minutes.
Any help and advice appreciated!
EDIT : Porn is off limits.
Any changes to the week will be colored orange.
PreE - bad masturbation habits, unable to handle sexual stimuli and overactive PF
EQ problem - due to overactive and tight PF and also I have performance anxiety
Arousal control - trained myself to cum on hot scenes during porn watching (now doggy is impossible, few thrusts)
Shrinkage - probably imbalanced PF are limiting my EQ hence shrinkage in EL (I am not going to sweat anymore about this, just accept the current state and work with that)
Current state:
- Masturbation with no lube: even when flaccid and starting to masturbate I can feel the IK spasms. I can last pretty much a long time though I feel the most pleasure from tensing up the pelvic floor and I tense up my quads and feet when I want to finish quicker. I pay no attention to breathing, but it isn't deep and I hold my breath sometimes.
- Masturbating with fleshlight: First time that I tried I couldn't last 2 minutes and I had to slow down and even stop because of IK. After few days I wasn't in the mood but still masturbated and I could last quite a bit maybe 3-5 minutes, so I turned on some porn and the IK were back as soon as I saw busty girl getting fucked and I came after a few thrusts. So arousal control is problem for me.
- Blowjob: My ex gave me one of the best ones but they were short 3-4 minutes. I still had IK but pleasure from getting sucked is equal or greater from pelvic floor tensing. And the view was something (I said that I have visual arousal problems :becky: ).
- PIV intercourse: Me on top, there I have some control and can last 3-4 minutes but slow thrusting and stopping often. When I speed up the IK are unbearable and have to ejaculate, but if I intentionally hold hard kegel I can thrust for 20-30s full speed and then I am finished. Her on top, I could last 2-3 minutes but from time to time I just feel that I can last longer in this one, maybe my IK stopped and pleasure was only coming from the shaft and glans. Sometimes I would go soft in this one, maybe because she positioned my dick to be almost parallel to me so she could target G spot and slide over me with her clit. Doggy style, just the few thrusts.
My plan for week 1:
- Yoga stretches (this one in the morning https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ntP8eQY74Cw, and this one in the evening https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2yx0_PK0Q-4, and after each one I will finish with Lajin stretch for 3 minutes)
- Belly breathing (3x a day for 10 minutes, just to relax and get into a habit of belly breathing)
- Reverse kegels (5x a day for 10 minutes, I will focus first on connecting breathing and RK and making them firm but gentle and not so much on the reps)
- tennis ball massage (2x a day for 3 minutes, take it easy with this cause of prostate inflammation I have until I have check up at urologist)
- Edge (6x a week, one day rest, 20 minutes sessions and ejaculate on every third session)
- Track progress through excel table
Goal for week 1 is just to get into the habit of doing this things, read stickies few times over and listen how my body reacts.
Ultimate goal: Have sex for 10 minutes.
Any help and advice appreciated!
EDIT : Porn is off limits.
Any changes to the week will be colored orange.
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